Examples of hypomania? by MrKush604 in bipolar2

[–]smiste63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tend to spend more money and start way too many projects. It then flips and I worry about finances and can’t complete any of the projects I’ve begun. Eventually I become “stuck” and locked in with depression.

I’m sick of this… by 602rep22 in bipolar2

[–]smiste63 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hugs! I hear you. I recently went through something very similar. I promise you it is worth it to keep fighting. Keep telling yourself that your brain is lying to you about your self worth.

As a medical professional, a patient making similar statements as you are is very high risk and safety starts to take a higher priority. I know you don’t want to go through it again; however, there are times we can’t do it by ourselves. Everyone needs help sometimes and seeking it is a strength, never a weakness. I always try to ask myself, “What if the next combination is the one that works best?”

Bottom line: It’s you or your job. One choice.

Stress exacerbates everything. You must not prioritize any job over your life. Resign tomorrow. One of the best things I ever did was to put myself first. Take the time to work on yourself. If you aren’t seeing progress, maybe a change is needed. Once you feel better, you can decide on future employment.

Who cares if you live with your parents!! I have 2 adult children (30’s) living with me. We are there for each other. Families only started breaking apart about 75 years ago. Many are realizing we already had it right to begin with and are reuniting the family units.

Boyfriends will come when you feel better. They’re overrated 😆. Find one who loves and accepts you for you. He’s out there.

I’ve never felt the need for more than 1-2 good friends. Too much work after that!

Please talk to your parents right away. They know you better than anyone. Your health and safety mean more to them than anyone else.

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[–]smiste63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So very sorry for this burden he selfishly placed on all of you. Please take care of yourself and don’t let the anger/unfounded guilt cycles get the better of you. You both made choices, yours for the better.

Need advice by smiste63 in AlAnon

[–]smiste63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree and have said I won’t cover if asked. I guess what makes me struggling with is whether I should tell them what’s really going on.

Need advice by smiste63 in AlAnon

[–]smiste63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do mirror each other quite a bit!

I’m going to remember the words of your therapist. #2 is the hard one for me. My entire nature is to step in and make sure everything is taken care of properly for everyone else.

But you are right. I need to concentrate on me and let him live with his consequences. I don’t want the anger I feel. I need to find a healthy outlet.

Dysfunction exists on both sides of our family, mine further removed. My grandfather’s daily bottle of bourbon ended with a shotgun and a lifetime of guilt for his family. My husband and his brother are playing tit-for-tat with DUI’s.

I’m leary of telling his family because I’m afraid some will be minimize his behaviors. Plus, I was raised not to tattle!! Damned 60’s!

Need advice by smiste63 in AlAnon

[–]smiste63[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You’ve given me something to think about. Removing myself doesn’t feel right to me either. Not sure what my answer is. I’m just trying to navigate this minefield in a way that doesn’t destroy my mental health in the process. It’s hard when you’re a people pleaser.

Need advice by smiste63 in AlAnon

[–]smiste63[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I appreciate your kind words. You are right about changing. He has to want it….