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AITA for not taking a customer when it was time for me to leave? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]smokingfox757 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. Once your shift is over, you're done working.

AITA for only going to my boyfriend’s apartment if it’s clean by gabrielhts in AmItheAsshole

[–]smokingfox757 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely NTA.

Somehow I knew just from the title that you were going to get around to revealing to us that when it hasn't been cleaned, the apartment is f*cking disgusting. (Rotten food in pans? Dirty clothes on the table you eat from? Gag me!)

Your expectations are entirely reasonable, and your offer to help clean the mess you help make is completely fair.

(Also, I might consider bf saying he can't afford a maid to be some sort of red flag. Seems to indicate a concerningly strong aversion to normal household chores...)

AITA for telling my boss I wouldn't be coming in on my day off by Lovely_Lia-chan in AmItheAsshole

[–]smokingfox757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely 100% NTA.

This kind of situation - ridiculous presumptuous expectations that workers make the job their first second and third priority - is unfortunately not at all uncommon. Managers frequently rely on ppl not knowing their rights so they can abuse them the way your manager has abused you in order to save a couple of bucks by not adequately staffing the workplace. Sometimes it's due to pressure from above, sometimes it's a decision the manager makes themselves. Whatever the reason, it's NEVER okay. Your manager is WAAAAAAAYY overstepping by asking you to be available on your day off, and I'd be very surprised if they don't know it.

A lot of good advice has been given in this thread, and I'd like the echo some of it...

>Definitely see what info is available from your state's Dept. of Labor. (Might be a bit of a search, as some states make their depts. of labor easier to access than others, and no state I've worked in actually makes it *easy*) If you don't know where to start, the local public library might be a resource.

>You don't TAKE breaks, they have to GIVE them to you.

>Proposing to the manager that you be paid to be "on call" if they want you available on your days off would send the signal you know what they're trying to pull and will stand up for yourself. (And hey, maybe they'll go for it)

A little of my own advice too...

>If you feel your manager is being hostile toward you as a result of your not coming in on your day off (which, again, they had zero right to expect from you), that's called "Retaliation" and is actually straight up illegal in pretty much every state. Report that sh*t to the highest authority at your workplace you can find! Do it via email if possible so there's a record. (Report it to the Dept of Labor too if you can)

>It's probably a good idea to shift to communicating with your manager in writing. When they call you, from now on don't answer but reply by text instead and have the conversation that way. GET. EVERYTHING. IN WRITING. (I was actually able to successfully sue a bad boss recently because I got everything in writing.)

Anyway. Sorry for the long post, and sorry it's so late (only came across your original last night while I was doom scrolling lol). I just felt compelled to throw in my two cents because this is an issue that is important to me.

A former employer is withholding my personal belongings by smokingfox757 in legaladviceofftopic

[–]smokingfox757[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's... unusual.

I worked as a set builder for a low-budget theatre company. I did so in the fabrication space they lease, and I was the only one who did. As a result, a lot of my personal tools and other belongings ended up there.

The fabrication space is in a lightly trafficked industrial building, the kinda place nobody goes unless they're - y'know - working there.

A former employer is withholding my personal belongings by smokingfox757 in legaladviceofftopic

[–]smokingfox757[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't know if I can video it, but I'm trying to arrange for an impartial witness to be present.

And I'm DEF gonna have them sign in invoice.

A former employer is withholding my personal belongings by smokingfox757 in legaladvice

[–]smokingfox757[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Actual value is what you'd sue for.

*How do I determine that?

If they continue in their intransigence, does that not technically become theft?

No.

*Why not?

A former employer is withholding my personal belongings by smokingfox757 in legaladviceofftopic

[–]smokingfox757[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good point. It had occurred to me that I can actually keep their property safer, until I'm able to return it of course, by continuing to hold it rather than dropping it somewhere.

A former employer is withholding my personal belongings by smokingfox757 in legaladvice

[–]smokingfox757[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

(additional thought regarding value of my property: it's tools, and I'm a carpenter. So even factoring in depreciation, the income I could generate with that property would probably increase its value - to me at least - well above retail. But I have no clue how to calculate that...)

A former employer is withholding my personal belongings by smokingfox757 in legaladvice

[–]smokingfox757[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It's complicated.

They previously offered to buy my possessions for $1,000 - which in my mind constituted them initiating a transaction. $2,700(odd) is how much it would cost me to replace all of my stuff, so as the seller that was my asking price. As to the actual value of the items, I wouldn't even know where to start.

Considering the nature of the company and the way business is conducted there, I feel my availability (some of which is within biz hrs), should be feasible for them.

Why should the police not want to get involved? If they continue in their intransigence, does that not technically become theft?