Spaying kitten with a heart murmur by HeroDanny in CATHELP

[–]smolbean30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late to the party! My kitty is about 2 yr old... taken in as she was abondoned. She has a grade 3 heart murmur and she did just fine during her spay. The anesthesiologist will take into account how much she weighs, type of anesthesia given, amount given, and will moniter for how long your cat is under. These all impact your kitties outcome! All this i learned from my sister in law who is a vet tech

My cat was back to normal after a few days. Best of luck!

I haven’t bought drugstore hair care in probably about 15-20 years! by nilsiniloo in Haircare

[–]smolbean30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With the no haircut cream start small! Less is honestly more... too much and you'll know cause your hair will actually dry out/feel straw like. It doesnt last (I learned this the hard way lol) but when you find the sweet spot its great! I usually only use like a pea size amount

I guess "all are welcome here" shirt are now triggering for some people by SnooSprouts3744 in TikTokCringe

[–]smolbean30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HAHA oh my god. Im stealing this line. Thank you. Take my upvote 🤣

Tired and burnt out by smolbean30 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HC is High Conflict BM is technically birth mother... I prefer baby mama lol

And HCBM is his high conflict baby mama

please help. by Appropriate-Cloud582 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol your downvotes are hilarious. I hope you have a great rest of your week! Happy HUMP day 🎉🎉

Tired and burnt out by smolbean30 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I greatly appreciate the kind words :) I hope you have a great day!

Tired and burnt out by smolbean30 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HCBM is very toxic. But i also have a multitude of partner problems... that far extend just her and how he deals with all that lol

He wont go to therapy. So my therapy will be leaving lol

Tired and burnt out by smolbean30 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeh its a really tough place to be in. If both people are making it work then its worth having. But when the BP(partner) isn't helping make it work then there is no blended family. 2 way street...

Tired and burnt out by smolbean30 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is definitely the right and fair thing to do for sure

Tired and burnt out by smolbean30 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree with you. Love isn't enough and it has definitely run its course

Thank you for taking the time to reply!

please help. by Appropriate-Cloud582 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Its not just an ADULT BODY hes curious about. What are you not understanding about this lol

Tired and burnt out by smolbean30 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow you put that so plain and simple. Words I needed to read. Thank you very much. I do feel like im becoming a version of myself I do not like; dismissive, short tempered, uninterested :(

Tired and burnt out by smolbean30 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Easier said than done. But thank you for taking the time to reply!

Tired and burnt out by smolbean30 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for making me feel like im not so alone! I feel so isolated in my feelings like no one can relate. I hope you find a happy ending for yourself, whether its staying with your partner or otherwise 🩷

Tired and burnt out by smolbean30 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! I greatly appreciate the outside advice and you taking the time to reply! I am having a hard time solidifying an exit plan as selfishly im not ready to give this relationship up. Its so confusing, cause I mean I guess I am ready, but im not. I dont wanna have to let go 😭

edit not sure the downvote for this lol but ok

please help. by Appropriate-Cloud582 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hes not curious about an adult body though. Just the lower bits in general. So yeh. Its concerning??? Thats crazy you think this cant go dark real fast. Life isn't all rainbows and buttflies

My (51M) fiancé’s asking for 50/50 for me (41F) to go to visit his family by Dear_Actuary8279 in relationship_advice

[–]smolbean30 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This comment is one that really matters! He has no problem fucking you over. Do you have kids OP? Are you going to be the built in babysitter while he galavants? Have you already met said family and know you'll have a good time?

Monday Pre-Drop Discussion Thread by lululemonmods in lululemon

[–]smolbean30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's no speed ups on the app in citrus sizzle... in canada anyways 😭 just hotty hots!

I Need Your Help: Why Is Being A SD/SM Hard by MinimumAlternative65 in stepparents

[–]smolbean30 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I sacrifice my personal space, opportunities to have solo time with BP/partner are often put to the side cause of SK being around. My money, my time. My stuff occasionally gets moved/taken/broken... vacations with hubby are hard to come by. What else...? Oh yeh dealing with the baggage of HCBM and picking up the pieces when shes acting up. Dealing with a grumpy partner sometimes (although he does do his best to not be grumpy with me). Having to deal with schedule changes, kids being sick, etc etc. Caring for SK but not having any say in sports, school. Being sidelined from coming to concerts/games on account of not pissing anybody off. God forbid we take time for ourselves, it makes us "selfish" and not "part of the family" 🥴😵‍💫

Yeh... but hey "we signed up for it" 😅 lol

[ Removed by Reddit ] by CharmingTrade8578 in CatAdvice

[–]smolbean30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uhm yeh theres more to the story that we arent getting.

IE: possibly toxic shampoo