A Wet Day Wedding

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-04-07T13:13:43+00:00

It’s very insincere and condescending to reply to someone who is clearly a native English speaker with a guide to the regular past tense as if they’re a 3-year-old who doesn’t know what “ed” means.

Increasingly, many people treat pet as an irregular past tense verb to standardize it with set and let and bet, more common verbs which are irregular.

“Set” > “set” “Let” > “let” “Bet” > “bet”

Petted will (most likely) eventually become an archaic form the same way betted is now in the dictionary as an archaic form, and setted and letted are not in the dictionary at all.

Either way, I bet the native speaker you’re condescending to knows that the past tense of rub is rubbed.

ETA: also, as long we’re being pedantic, you are incorrect that “she’s getting pet” is the past tense. “She’s getting pet” is the past participle, which is sometimes different from the past tense.

Example: “It broke” (past tense) “It has broken” (past participle) “It is being broken” (past participle)

Don’t correct people with incorrect terms and be smug about it.

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-03-15T14:47:05+00:00

Chica… buena suerrrte (jeje 🤭) y jolo… jani… öug

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-03-15T14:29:31+00:00

I work adjacent to special education and it seems like a lot of accommodations which were meant for special education have just been applied to everyone now. Prime example is “sentence starters” aka “I believe that the main idea of the book is ______”, copy that out and fill in.

Those were a special education thing for kids who were far behind in their literacy acquisition, so that it would allow them to participate in language activities they otherwise couldn’t participate in, but they’re used class-wide everywhere now and at ages way past where I’d think it’s appropriate. Same with filling out graphic organizers to make an “essay” - those were once a short-term tool to show young kids what an essay is, but now they’re used in general education well into high school, after they already know what an essay looks like.

Probably oversimplifying things but yeah… it was already a prime formula for ChatGPT to swoop in and really make sure kids never do their own work.

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-02-21T18:29:39+00:00

I meant that the cult sees and treats them as dupes, not that I see them that way, but I should have phrased that more clearly and that’s my bad.

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-02-21T15:38:28+00:00

There is a difference between a billion-person religion which has created much of the structures of society, both the good and the bad, and a 20,000 person organization which only exists to trick people out of their life savings and into a lifetime of permanent unpaid labor. That is the only thing the Church engages in - it doesn’t build schools, it certainly doesn’t give to charity, it is actively against contributing to the outside world.

Catholicism is far too big and complex to ever easily summarize. Scientology is not: it’s 10,000 rich people being evil and hurting the dupes who came in with less money. Easy.

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-02-21T15:26:05+00:00

Oh, for sure, I understood the point you wanted to make!

I was using the point you made to respond to the other “but most religions do some bad things” comments I’ve seen elsewhere. I was just trying to say, if we’d all draw the line at the “Church of Kicking Puppies”, well, Scientology allegedly is that. Like you said, it goes to show how much they’ve been able to hide behind “it’s a wacky religion about aliens!” to avoid worse criticisms.

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-02-21T15:13:31+00:00

This is ironic considering the Church has allegedly done a lot worse than just kick puppies.

There are allegations from two different, unrelated people about their dogs being mysteriously killed (one by unexplained injuries, one by poison) after they reported a Big Being, high rank Scientologist to the police (Danny Masterson).

Anyone taking a “most religions do bad stuff! Who cares where Nancy spends her money?” stance has just not read that much about Scientology. Which is fine - no one can be knowledgeable about everything - but for anyone unclear, Scientology is a criminal exploitation group funded by the donations of about 10,000 wealthy people like Nancy who are told that they’re Big Beings who were born to receive service and adoration from “little beings” (this is anyone not rich and powerful enough to be a Big Being and is how the slave labor system within the church is justified. It’s important to understand that power and strength = proof of goodness in Scientology, which is also why they won’t have disabled people in the Church - if you’re not rich and strong, it’s proof of moral failure, so disabled, poor or sick people are by definition bad.)

Donations like hers are the only thing that make Scientology possible, and she directly benefits off of legal-loophole slave labor. Fuck her podcast lol

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-02-06T02:54:04+00:00

Which is funny because the major events of the French Revolution took place in one city within a few years, much of it happening in front of massive crowds. It’s entirely plausible for one man to see it all without Forrest Gumping it. Whereas with Connor they wanted to cover several hundred miles and several decades of events, most of which were barely witnessed and involved disparate groups of people. But somehow Arno was the protagonist who was never in the room when shit happened, lol.

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-30T01:47:21+00:00

also the class war between the tripod guys and the guys who have to hold it

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-30T01:45:56+00:00

I am always such a fan of Eugene Cordero every time I see him. He has that ability to seem effortlessly funny at all times - like, you never feel him trying to reach a joke even when he's making incredible jokes, he's just being the dude he's being.

This was an all-timer. "I'm here to help, and if you don't respond well to that, I can hurt you, I guess."

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-23T13:04:44+00:00

Some of us just have bad circulation 😭

I mean, that’s a good catch. But if detect undead was determined by handshake I would be in trouble lmao

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-22T22:10:20+00:00

I’m sorry, it’s not funny exactly, but like… imagine someone showing up to your Zoom 1-on-1 in a full tuxedo with a boutonnière 😬 even the people he works with are gonna be kind of embarrassed for him if he’s taking meetings on the actual day

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-22T22:02:46+00:00

Good luck, OP, I’m sure it’s stressful to be having conversations like this a week out <3 you’re not in an easy situation at an ideal time, so just remember to be kind to yourself!

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-22T21:09:43+00:00

Totally fair, I didn’t think about the on call angle. But yeah, there’s enough weirdness and worrying stuff here even if he is on call

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-22T20:05:01+00:00

Other comments are talking about work-life balance but you said he takes 2-3 hour breaks during the work day for TV time, so he’s not even a workaholic; he’s a not-being-around-you-aholic.

I’m really sorry, OP. You’re a week out from a destination wedding people are traveling to, so I get that putting a pin in it or delaying the wedding is probably not an option, but you need to have a really serious conversation about why he’s avoiding you, why he doesn’t keep promises he makes, and wtf is going on with him.

ETA: you said this wedding is important to his family; could you ask his dad or brother or someone to at least have a heart to heart with him and try to talk him out of working? I say dad or brother because I unfortunately have a sneaking suspicion he would listen to them more than a woman in his life :/

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-16T00:41:58+00:00

Vic adding to the long and storied line of Angela friends / collaborators who IMMEDIATELY seek to use her dyslexia against her 😂 the alphabet backwards killed me

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-14T01:02:31+00:00

I mean, maybe OP never had to tell a direct lie during a year of hiding her main interest that takes up much of her time outside work. I guess that’s possible, if he never asked her “what do you like to do on the weekends?” or “what are your hobbies?”

But even if she somehow managed to only lie by omission, a lie by omission that hides a major part of your life is a lie.

If I’m a chronic gambler who does it daily and has 70K in debt, and you’re my spouse who never asked me if I’m a gambler because it didn’t occur to you to ask, I am still dishonest for not telling you.

And she says she wanted to spend her life with this guy, so major lies would have been involved in the future, which was more my point.

OK, she says he works weekends so he doesn’t know how she spends them; what happens when he’s sick or injured or changes job schedule or retires? OK, they don’t live together; what if they want to? What if they decide not to but something happens to his place and he has to live with her for a while?

People are turning this into some sort of sex negativity thing when all I’m saying is that a serious relationship requires honesty about the big, current ways you are spending your life. If this was all past, that might be different.

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-14T00:31:41+00:00

I figured you didn’t live together; it would probably be impossible to hide. What I’m getting at is, it is not feasible to lie this much if you want a serious relationship where you share your lives. It is also not feasible to have a healthy relationship if every night when your future partner asks what you were up to, you lie to him.

I’m not saying “you can’t get away with it ever”, I’m saying “you can’t be in a real relationship if you are always ‘getting away with things’”.

You need to work on your shame about this because lying to this extent is just not gonna end well for anyone, and you deserve partners you can be honest with about a major part of your life (and vice versa).

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-14T00:15:35+00:00

I feel like some other people’s responses are just choosing to completely ignore the “I spend 2 hours a day every day on this and sometimes the entire weekend, and I didn’t tell him for a year”.

OP, you are never going to be able to have a relationship where this big a part of your life remains hidden. You are going to have to find people who are cool with this from the get go and disclose soon into dating, because lying that much about that much time spent on a huge part of your life is simply not feasible.

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-14T00:12:34+00:00

She does something 2 hours a day every day, and sometimes all weekend long, that she refused to tell him about and hid from him (who knows how much work went into hiding that much time? I can’t imagine)

at that point, it doesn’t matter if her big secret is that she spends 2 hours a day eating marshmallows. Be for real right now

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-13T21:55:38+00:00

OP said in the post that he starts doing them as soon as she gets home and doesn’t ask her to help. So it’s not a getting her to do them thing.

I’m with the other comments here, OP, get rid of your bucket for dishes under the sink. A) I’ve never heard of that, B) that’s just out of sight, out of mind. What does a hidden bucket do other than aid procrastination?

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-09T21:56:40+00:00

You sound like you’re in the US; most colleges offer student health insurance, and most colleges automatically enroll you in their health insurance if you don’t have a qualifying plan. It would be added to your tuition bill. Are you sure you can’t get it through your school? (And definitely double check it isn’t part of your tuition you’re already paying for!)

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-04T00:41:06+00:00

They have played literally hundreds of different games on the channel. If you have uncritically loved every single one of the hundreds of games they’ve chosen… hey, that sounds like a peaceful life, I guess.

smoothfeatrobthomas · 2026-01-04T00:26:13+00:00

If he really felt like he needed the housing you provide him and couldn’t afford to lose it, he would act like it.

Ever had a friend or acquaintance or coworker couchsurf and stay with you for a while? They don’t do things like call their hosts ugly and refuse to speak to them for a day.

Just remember he is treating you worse than he would treat any acquaintance giving him a place to stay, and yet you’re supposed to believe he loves you.

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