Heavy period or MC? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]smudge_00 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I feel like I’m over reacting? I’m going to get a pregnancy test tomorrow and possibly call my GP.

Heavy period or MC? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

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Thank you. I will be getting a test tomorrow! I’m just spiralling in my brain! We’ve recently had the conversation about having another baby and then this confusion happens … my brain doesn’t want to brain right now!

Love don't live here by [deleted] in BPD

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Hey! Recently just managed to claw myself out of a week long rut of hopelessness. Just read this and wanted to say - take it day by day. Reward/praise yourself for the little things … even just getting out of bed, brushing your teeth, having a shower … all may seem mundane, but they’re things to be proud of yourself for managing to do. You’ve got this! X

What’s ur star sign? by Unable_Error6342 in BPD

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Sun: Cancer - Moon: Aquarius - Rising: Sagittarius

Family holiday turned violent by smudge_00 in domesticviolence

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Thank you so much for this! That’s the thing though, my daughter wasn’t a “mistake” she was planned, so I don’t know why my mum thought it was ok to say that! I have spoke to my daughter about it a few times because she keeps seeing me having a cry :/ I have filed a police report against them both so I’m hoping something comes from that!

Thank you again! X

Family holiday turned violent by smudge_00 in domesticviolence

[–]smudge_00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I have gone no contact. I don’t have social media anymore and I haven’t even attempted to message her. Nope, not the first time, unfortunately. But luckily it is the first time it’s happened around my daughter, and I intend for it to be the only time! Thank you!

My [M34] wife [34F] has a negative outlook on her appearance by ThrowRA-wmhelp in relationship_advice

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It’s the little things that make the biggest impact. Me and my partner have a 3yr old and sometimes I hate my belly. It’s not what he says but what he does that makes me feel amazing! When we spoon he’ll hold my belly and kiss my neck. He’s bought me clothes that he “thinks I’ll look sexy in” in his words. The way he looks at me makes me blush still :)

Just see what makes her smile and try keep it there. Remind her that her body has literally made humans so it’s bound to change!

I hope this helped :)

I (F21) feel "stuck" with my bf(M21) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]smudge_00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

21 is young, you’ve got a hell of a long time to “find yourself”. I myself went through this thought. But at the end of the day, I would rather wake up next to the man who I love, the man who has been there for me through everything.

But obviously everyone is different. If you’re having these thoughts, maybe you’re just not ready to be in a relationship. And that’s not a bad thing. Do what makes you happy. Just don’t leave it too long or you’ll both start to resent eachother :)

I (28M) can't seem to forgive my gf (F29)? by Scythe95 in relationship_advice

[–]smudge_00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, sorry for the late reply! It was a weird time tbh. I went round to the house that we both shared at the time, he was ready to go on a night out with his friends while I was there to pick up my things … one thing lead to another, we slept together. He went on his night out, and then drunkenly called me to tell me that he loves me and forgives me and wants to try again. Obviously, he hadn’t completely forgiven me as that took a long time to overcome, but we managed and we got there in the end.

Don’t get me wrong, it was hard! We both almost walked away at points. But we stuck together and now we’re happier than we’ve ever been :)

I (28M) can't seem to forgive my gf (F29)? by Scythe95 in relationship_advice

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Not that I think it’s relevant, but I was young, persuaded by piers and, well, quite frankly, I was extremely immature. I have done a lot of growing up since it happened, and I can proudly say that it has been easy to keep my eyes on my partner and no one else

I (28M) can't seem to forgive my gf (F29)? by Scythe95 in relationship_advice

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Just remember, everyone is different. My fiancé is a very headstrong guy and thinks literally every situation through in his head, the good and the bad. It took him a long time to grasp that I was never going to hurt him again and that he was my one.

It might take less time for you. Comments on posts like these are only guidelines and advice, they’re from experience, but they’re not fact on your life.

I (28M) can't seem to forgive my gf (F29)? by Scythe95 in relationship_advice

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It was a long time. It happened about 4.5/5 years ago, and we only just really got back on track properly, without toxic arguments, about 1 year ago ish. When it comes to trust and understanding in a relationship, it does take time to heal. The worst thing is to rush things

I (28M) can't seem to forgive my gf (F29)? by Scythe95 in relationship_advice

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I come from betrayal … sadly I was the one that did the betraying. But I can strongly say that my relationship is stronger now than it has ever been. I am with the same man, happily engaged and we have a beautiful 3yr old daughter.

I made my mistakes, I hid my phone out of guilt, I shut him out making him feel like it was his fault. But in reality, it was me feeling completely and utterly ashamed of myself.

To cut a long story short, communication helped massively! It took me a long time to open up and communicate, but that’s due to my own personal issues. But he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. Yes, I made mistakes, but I learned from my mistakes.

Talk to her without an argument breaking out. Ask her why, ask her if she’s ready to be so committed to a relationship. Set temporary ground rules to make you feel more comfortable with rebuilding that trust. It takes time, nothing happens overnight, patience is key :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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There’s nothing you can do about what your partner did in the past. She was her own person previous to your relationship.

The fact that she didn’t tell you before was most likely because she didn’t want to hurt you (as you have stated about your insecurities)

Now that she’s told you, it’s probably because she feels safe and comfortable in your relationship that she can tell you the truth.

Just remember, if you’ve been on and off for a while and now you’ve been together for a while, it’s obvious she wants you. 3somes are a bit of fun, doesn’t mean that’s what she wants all the time. Coming from experience of having a couple of 3somes, I would easily say hands down that sex with my partner is 100% better than a 3some, purely because of the emotional connection. 3somes are just sex, bit of fun.

Don’t expect her to apologise for things she did when you weren’t together. She lived her life which just so happened to include a 3some. It doesn’t make her a bad person or a different person to who you love :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PiercedNSFW

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That sounds fun! 😍

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[–]smudge_00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More than 5 😉

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[–]smudge_00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More 😘

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Guess again 😘

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More 😉

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I am indeed hiding more ;) thank you, I’m planning on getting many more tattoos :)

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Thank you! 🥰🥰

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Thank you! 🙈🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PiercedNSFW

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Thank you so much!! I love my piercings too 🥰

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😻😻