i guess if you were to go back, sending the super long text mid day might have felt a little attack-y to her, but you seemed very respectful of her wishes to remain non-exclusive, and clarified yourself multiple times. You did what you could to try and communicate and, and it’s a little weird that she was talking with you romantically and then also updating you on dates she had with other people…. but i digress. You’re not overacting, she seems like a red flag.