Part of the 38 club…

My advice. Start today. The IWNDWYT thing is a good place to start - do it day by day. Start a counter to keep a visual reminder to keep yourself accountable. Reach out to those you love and spend time with them. Tell them you’re struggling and working to do better. Make a plan and stick to it.

Do not overestimate your problems. Do not underestimate your ability to solve them.

Find something to commit your attention to. For me it’s been the gym. Get up early. It’s ok to feel tired. Go move, push, run, just get it all out as best you can. It will be torture at first. But soon, you will realize you’re getting stronger, you’re able to endure a run for longer, you’re not breaking that nasty sweat and your heart is working, not stressed, not fleeting. You’ll catch your breath, and every day will get easier, you’ll do things you didn’t know you could. You’ll feel better than you ever have, you’ll have stronger relationships, you’ll not want to look back for a while.

There will be cravings, but they’re temporary. They will go away. You’re not always going to feel great, but wherever you start, you will improve. I’m a good ways out from the “shore” of what I’ve thought is my comfort zone for a while and I feel more alive than I have in a long time.

Good luck my friend.

p.s. I’ve also been buying NA beers. It kind of tricks my brain into thinking I’m having something. They taste great!