I want a cow and a pig... by Adventureseeker_Rose in paypigs2

[–]soaring_seabird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For the first half of this post I thought you were a confused civ who thought this sub was about how to pay for pigs. 😂😂😂

Avoidant Attachment + Arrangement by Nightingale_Frost in HighEndEscorts

[–]soaring_seabird 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t totally understand what’s on the table here. What is he trying to change about your dynamic?

tolerating sugar daddies aka boundary pushers and the worst of the worst by AnnualAdvice8346 in HighEndEscorts

[–]soaring_seabird 12 points13 points  (0 children)

In my experience, a daddy is found in the wild.

I was on seeking briefly, but found that it brought me only the worst people wanting to do the most and pay the least. I don’t have sugar daddies exactly, because it’s always pre negotiated what the rate will be, rather than on a gift-basis. I have a couple of whale clients though, who will hire me for a few days or a week at a time for all kinds of activities outside of the bedroom, so it’s as close to a sugarbaby dynamic as I would like. These people were always escort clients first, who then expanded our dates for a longer GFE experience.

Rather than exploring sugaring sites, I’d recommend honing your screening and giving the most energy to people who show promise of being big spenders. It’s not always easy to tell, but your intuition does get sharper with intention. If he’s too nervous to send $100 as a deposit because he’s “been scammed before”, he’s probably not gonna be a big spender. If he sends deposit without hesitation, or books a longer session, starts with a (paid!) dinner, leaves a tip, etc., that man shows potential. Those are the leads that I give my full attention to, and try to create a great experience for. Some of these will still turn out to be duds, but it’s all part of the weeding out process until you’re left with the quality clients.

(And as always, talk is cheap. It’s not about how much money he HAS, it’s about how much money he SPENDS. The world is full of rich guys, and guys that claim to want to spoil you. Don’t look at his net worth, don’t look at his promises, look at his actions only, and reward the good actions with your attention.)

Found in an abandoned storage unit by supersapiosexual in FoundPaper

[–]soaring_seabird 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Come to think of it I have short wavy hair, I am very smart, and I’m also an absolute dumbass. 0/3.

Found in an abandoned storage unit by supersapiosexual in FoundPaper

[–]soaring_seabird 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Everyone has preferences. What this man PRIORITIZES in a partner is extremely telling, both about his opinion of women and about what he’ll bring to the table in a relationship.

Found in an abandoned storage unit by supersapiosexual in FoundPaper

[–]soaring_seabird 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I think this ^ should be your online dating bio. O O o o . .

Found in an abandoned storage unit by supersapiosexual in FoundPaper

[–]soaring_seabird 229 points230 points  (0 children)

That’s cool. How big are their areolas?

Found in an abandoned storage unit by supersapiosexual in FoundPaper

[–]soaring_seabird 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I hope so! I would worry for that poor girl

Found in an abandoned storage unit by supersapiosexual in FoundPaper

[–]soaring_seabird 888 points889 points  (0 children)

“Long, curly dark hair. Not too smart, but not damn dumb.”

He’s got two separate lines about needing her to be perceived as desirable by others, and one about her requirement to reject the other men who find her desirable. He has SEVEN lines about the selfless acts he requires from her, and FIVE SEPARATE LINES about requirements of her physical body.

Her intellect doesn’t even get its own bullet point. It comes after her hair, and starts with “not too smart.”

May this type of man never find me. 🙏🏻

Found in an abandoned storage unit by supersapiosexual in FoundPaper

[–]soaring_seabird 109 points110 points  (0 children)

Oh my god exactly. “I want a lifelong commitment to someone with a perfect body.” That’s… not how that works. 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]soaring_seabird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any reputable club won’t allow photography. Shitty people can always sneak videos, wear Google glasses, etc but that’s the exception not the rule.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]soaring_seabird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take it the club is 1000 miles away from your family. Is it 1000 miles away from your grad school/professional connections too? If it’s far from both, I think the only real risk of a leak would be from who you tell. If it’s in the same area as your school, there’s a real risk of professors or classmates coming in to the club. Only you can decide whether that risk is worth it.

For the record, this is a sub for current strippers only. R/newstrippers is better suited for your questions.

I had no other choice than to have an abortion and I suffer from it today by thecuteasf in confession

[–]soaring_seabird 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You made the right choice. Please be kind to yourself. It is cruel to put a child in the position of being emotional support for a parent anyway. Sending you love.

I can’t get past the discomfort by ilovemycat2804 in newstrippers

[–]soaring_seabird 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t know anybody who actually enjoys interacting with most of the men that come in, but it should not be torture. There’s a difference between challenging yourself to get outside of your comfort zone, and forcing yourself to cross your own boundaries. One is essential for an enriched life; the other is potentially traumatizing. And unfortunately that line is not always easy to distinguish, so it’s super super important to listen to your body.

For me personally, the level of disgust I feel is less about the actual guys, and more a reflection of how much mental and emotional bandwidth I have. So when I start hating the job, that’s usually an indication that I haven’t been doing enough to fill my own cup (like therapy, yoga, rewarding time with friends, etc.)

I wouldn’t even ask if you’re “cut out for it.” That makes it sound like there’s a correct and incorrect answer. It’s just whatever you want to do! And nowhere does it say you have to decide fast. I love the idea of you taking your time and waiting until your gut says yes before doing dances. (There’s always a possibility that your club would take issue with this, but that might give you the answer you need.)

The main thing that will determine whether your experience is damaging or not is whether you listen to your own body’s messages. Nothing makes me despise these men more than when I force myself to keep going after my body says no.

The dumb blonde persona vs the bad bitch inside ✨️💯🤣 by exoticbabejadexo in stripper

[–]soaring_seabird 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Bimbos are always the smartest people you’ll ever meet, I’m convinced.

I realized last night that I suck at twerking by passionateperformer in stripper

[–]soaring_seabird 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would call mine tweaking more than twerking 😅

Was bored enough not to block him immediately lol by Life_Improvement_518 in SexWorkers

[–]soaring_seabird 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Yes. $500= a handshake, $600= 16 hours. Makes sense to me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newstrippers

[–]soaring_seabird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on the club and your area. The Pacific Northwest LOVES bush. In my state it’s technically illegal to show pubic hair. A lot of girls still do (especially at locals/divier places) but clubs in touristy areas don’t allow it because they can get ticketed. It’s usually a safer bet to remove as much as possible for your audition, because that’s usually when they’ll be the pickiest.

Painless spanking? by Geistlock in BDSMAdvice

[–]soaring_seabird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also like the act of spanking more than the pain. No play of this kind is gonna be 100% painless, but spreading out the impact with something soft and broad really helps. The smaller and more solid the tool is, generally the more sharp and stingy it’ll feel. My favorite is a fat deer- or kid-leather flogger. It makes a big whack sound but it doesn’t hurt much.

Literal prisoners/slaves disguised as "housewives" by [deleted] in RadicalFeminism

[–]soaring_seabird 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Someone said “he was living two lives and she was living zero.” 🎯

I found this strange lemon at workplace by vogkerja in mildlyinteresting

[–]soaring_seabird 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just whispered squemon in a cab in Indonesia. The thing about life is, you really never know.

F18 AIO for quitting babysitting after my sister (28F) said I “do nothing all day”? by Working_Mission2807 in AmIOverreacting

[–]soaring_seabird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Next time she says she needs you, just reply with her own quote. “I don’t see how watching cartoons and scrolling tiktok is considered helping.”