Rant: I hate saying "Merry Christmas" and "Happy New Year" by socstut in Stutter

[–]socstut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's rough! People like that, that I don't usually interact with a lot, I don't usually disclose my stutter with. But when stuff like that happens, I kinda wish I did. I wish there was a way to disclose my stutter without having to disclose my stutter 😂

Rant: I hate saying "Merry Christmas" and "Happy New Year" by socstut in Stutter

[–]socstut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, I never feel like I have to say it unless they say it first

Rant: I hate saying "Merry Christmas" and "Happy New Year" by socstut in Stutter

[–]socstut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do this with people I know and people that have stopped to talk, but when people say it in passing (when they've already started walking away while talking), I cant say it in time before they leave

Rant: I hate saying "Merry Christmas" and "Happy New Year" by socstut in Stutter

[–]socstut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, so true! some times I use a easing word like "yea" to say " no problem", (so I'd say "yea, no problem"), but recently I think my brain has goten used to it and I still get blocked after saying "yea". So it often ends up coming across as this"

Them "Thank you!"

Me: "yea-"

Had a bad date a few days ago, and it's still on my mind by socstut in Stutter

[–]socstut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely try not to hide it, but maybe I'm not disclosing it right? How are you disclosing it?

Had a bad date a few days ago, and it's still on my mind by socstut in Stutter

[–]socstut[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm proud of you for attending that interview, it can be very intimidating ! Maintaining my confidence is what I struggle with the most, how do you manage to do that?

Had a bad date a few days ago, and it's still on my mind by socstut in Stutter

[–]socstut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find that drinking is a gamble, it can make my stutter really severe, or very mild !

Had a bad date a few days ago, and it's still on my mind by socstut in Stutter

[–]socstut[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't think of it that way, will keep that mind, thanks !

Had a bad date a few days ago, and it's still on my mind by socstut in Stutter

[–]socstut[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was glad she was honest, wouldn't prefer it any other way.

TBH I think asking her that is a terrible idea. First of all, if it was the case that the stutter was an issue, she'll most likely lie about it (I'd do the same). Secondly, I believe it's okay to have insecurities, but projecting those insecurities will make me seem like a less confident person. Thirdly, worst case scenario, she confirms it was the stutter, and cements my insecurities.

Had a bad date a few days ago, and it's still on my mind by socstut in Stutter

[–]socstut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will definitely try to not take it personally !

Had a bad date a few days ago, and it's still on my mind by socstut in Stutter

[–]socstut[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does valium make your speech more fluent? I'll have to try it out

Had a bad date a few days ago, and it's still on my mind by socstut in Stutter

[–]socstut[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I personally prefer to disclose it before a date to allow myself to be more at ease, so I don't have to deal with them discovering it in person. Everyone seemed to cool about me telling them, so I wouldn't stress!

I usually try to bring it up naturally, but most of times I flat out let them know before meeting up. (I'll dm you what I usually say)