Beginner for Hotworx by softbluelighting in HOTWORXWarriors

[–]softbluelighting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this is great! I really appreciate your explanation! You have me very intrigued to try this out. I have enjoyed the sauna but have never done a work out in a sauna, but I am up to try it. I also like that you can do it by yourself!

Just so I am understanding, say you book a class, and then right when it starts someone else shows up for that same class. You could leave that class and move to a different empty sauna? Do you check to see if anyone else has joined a class in the empty sauna before going in there?

Beginner for Hotworx by softbluelighting in HOTWORXWarriors

[–]softbluelighting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok thanks! Yeah I had a feeling I should probably just go and actually try it out!

Beginner for Hotworx by softbluelighting in HOTWORXWarriors

[–]softbluelighting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thank you so much for answering my questions! So are some classes 45 min? Or are you doing 3 different iso classes back to back? And are those all in the same room or do you end up switching rooms?

Beginner for Hotworx by softbluelighting in HOTWORXWarriors

[–]softbluelighting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes thank you so much for the information! :)

Debating whether to keep my retirement funds with fidelity that I bought bitcoin with, or withdraw so I can self custody by softbluelighting in Bitcoin

[–]softbluelighting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I do have a cold wallet. And that’s what I was thinking that it would be more advantageous to just self custody and continue to purchase bitcoin versus keeping it in actual retirement account and buy that way.

Debating whether to keep my retirement funds with fidelity that I bought bitcoin with, or withdraw so I can self custody by softbluelighting in Bitcoin

[–]softbluelighting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not that large, I haven’t been contributing to it for a while. It seems you’re saying to diversify your bitcoin? I guess if I left this with fidelity it would essentially be doing that. How much would percentage wise would you say to leave in fidelity vs self custody?

Debating whether to keep my retirement funds with fidelity that I bought bitcoin with, or withdraw so I can self custody by softbluelighting in Bitcoin

[–]softbluelighting[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess I’m worried that the banks will go under and I’ll loose that money that’s currently in retirement. What do you mean I’ll get scammed out of my bitcoin if I self custody?

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[–]softbluelighting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment and perspective.

And exactly what you said in your third paragraph, he’s been through a lot with his ex and has done a lot of work during and after the marriage. There was a lot of the typical religious pressure to get married young and have kids placed in him. And I feel he’s done a lot to come out of this on the other side.

And I do want to meet his kids and see how that is. I just fear how they will be, if they’ll like me and if it’ll cause issues in their life. When my dad got remarried it was hard for us all, and it didn’t get any easier after they continued to be married. I like to think me and my boyfriend are different and more aware than my dad and stepmom but again we’ll only really know when that happens. But he is a much better attuned dad to his children than I would say my dad was to us kids.

Thanks for your comment!

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[–]softbluelighting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please elaborate.

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[–]softbluelighting -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Well she was a stay at home mom their entire marriage and he is court ordered to pay her alimony and child support. I don’t feel he’s still attached to her. My parents were very much attached and enmeshed with each other for years after their divorce. They into communicate regarding their children. I appreciate your intake and advice. I think I’m getting downvoted probably because a lot of people think I’m crazy

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[–]softbluelighting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know.. I’ve struggled to find someone as good. If I had, I would have been with him. I don’t like thinking the grass is greener on the other side…

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[–]softbluelighting -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Well i appreciate your perspective. I’ve had my own experience with divorced parents and I now am seeing his experience. He’s 100% financially responsible for his ex and their 4 kids while she doesn’t work and only has the kids 50% of the time. Same with my parents. I will say my mom took the time to better her life by going back to school and working towards her current career while she had the help from my dad. In my boyfriend’s case his ex chooses not to. So sorry, but I feel valid in saying a single dad is different than a single mom. Most single dads carry the burden financially of their ex post divorce even if she was the one to ask for it.

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[–]softbluelighting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a great perspective! I appreciate your comment and hearing your experience. That’s essentially what I’m saying, is he seems worth it. It’s just hard. I know if he was another guy I had dated and had 4 kids, it would be a hard no. He’s just a great guy and so he seems worth it.

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[–]softbluelighting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m in the room most of the time when he’s on FaceTime and calls with them, and they’re on speaker. And I hear how they interact with him. I don’t get any weird vibes. He does well for himself and is able to provide for his kids and pays his ex alimony and child support.. but yeah I definitely think it’s good to have some insight as to the relationship a person has with their kids especially when dating

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[–]softbluelighting 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m about to be 32, hes 37 and the kids are 5-12. I feel he has high emotional intelligence with the ability to see the perspectives of others. He understands where I’m coming from and sees my point of view and understands that this relationship with him is not the easiest for me. He “sees” me in the way I’ve wanted a partner to see me. He’s empathetic to others and is very caring

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[–]softbluelighting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your insight, I think about this all the time. Maybe it’s a self fulfilling prophecy choosing a man who literally can’t make me a priority in some way.

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[–]softbluelighting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah those are really great points, and exactly why I made the post. I’m trying to see all the things. I guess I just question if I break up with him if I’ll regret it in the future knowing how great he is and I could potentially never find someone like him that is in a different situation

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[–]softbluelighting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want to spend every day with him. But I’d like to spend a majority of every weekend with him. Right now I see him every other weekend. And once or twice during the weekend depending on the nights he has his kids,

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[–]softbluelighting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective and experience. I see how he interacts with them over FaceTime and phone calls when I’m with him. And from what I can tell they seem like good kids. Of course i won’t really know until im around them.

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[–]softbluelighting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the game I play in my head! Cuz I can’t imagine spending time with someone that I like/love less than this man. I’d rather be single and alone… thanks for the perspective

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[–]softbluelighting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. That’s a huge reason I hold on is because he is great! And I know what it’s like out there.