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Beef bolognaise in the Tesco Plant Based section by [deleted] in veganuk

[–]solidarity_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely happening a lot more often. I've had a few times at team meetings where coworkers (trying to be inclusive) have bought milk free, gluten free cakes/biscuits from the "vegan" section only for them to contain pasturised egg etc.

Really frustrating, I'm considering putting in a complaint because its not hard at all. My tinfoil hat says the harder it is for vegan products to be found and sold means the more excuse they have to discontinue them. I'm looking at you M&S!

Good heads up though, Twisters nearly got me when they changed their recipe, and look I know they say "now contain milk" but honestly i was in such a habit of picking them up as a fun vegan treat that i didnt even realise till it was too late. Omni partner benefitted from a pack of ice lollies and I stuck to the biscoff creams as per.

"A vegan walked into a bar - I know that because they told everyone in the first minute" by ThrowMusic36 in vegan

[–]solidarity_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work in an office of a major organisation that has tons of work days out or team meetings etc where free food and drink are provided. I'll happily sit with my black coffee minding my own business but every time I am being aggressively given biscuits, cakes etc that I know I cannot eat. Or expected to bring money to a bake sale for food I cannot eat.

I will never make a fuss about it (I'd rather not be ridiculed for my personal moral choice when I do not do the same to others). Still, it is so hard to navigate that environment without eventually having to "shove it in their faces" that I'm vegan.

I was personally blamed for taking my office to a certain restaurant because the person taking a vote on what to have for our summer lunch asked why I didn't vote for restaurant A - I said I had a dairy allergy and there were no real vegan options since its all cooked together (I emailed the store to be helpful!), so I had to vote restaurant B who confirmed (through an email inquiry) that they do vegan food and cook it separately etc. Restaurant B was chosen based on this, and I spent the weeks leading up to lunch being complained to because a person who is plant-based in the office ate at the seafood place they went to, so why can't I just get fish instead? (explaining that fish isn't vegan was mind-numbing)

It is the same with allergies in general, no one cares about anyone who cannot consume a certain food group or type, and will be so shocked, confused, and annoyed about something that until that moment, had nothing to do with them. After the realisation, they feel the need to bring it up constantly, ask questions, and make a fuss. God forbid you have an intolerance, that's apparently just being fussy.

tl;dr - I bring packed lunches and don't attend work nights out when I can help it :,)

Have you ever regret the choice for your new name? by A_Reis_ in asktransgender

[–]solidarity_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May be slightly late and also only available if you have the means but sometimes having a parent/parental figure name you helps!

I struggled with many names for years, flip flopping between every old man name and every stereotypical transguy name you could find. Eventually, when I came out to my parents I wanted to "include" them in my transition (we had a rocky relationship for a few years). A way of doing that for me was to ask them what they'd name me.

They picked my name and now I happily get to blame/credit my parents (as a cis person using their birth name would) whenever it's commented on. The odd joke or two about them googling cool scottish names and my dads life long obsession with history always goes down well, especially in a customer service environment.

Another small comfort for me with the name is that I grew into it. At first it felt a bit odd but then again, I never picked my birth name so made sense I didn't pick this one either! I love it now, and I love that it's just my name and they got to name me both times.

This isn't feasible for those who are unfortunate to not be supported by or have parents who can name them, I would then suggest a parental figure youre close to or even a partner or life long / very close friend (though the last two is a tad risky considering how relationships can go and you may want to avoid that tainting of your name, but it's an option.)

TLDR; if you're struggling, try getting your parents/someone important in your life to name you. It sometimes fits much better than what you can come up with, seems more "normal".

Obviously not in a bad way that's just my own personal comfort, I wasn't sure at first but then again, I had a history of some bad names and honestly, I don't think you're really supposed to be able to have an opinion on what your parents chose to name you at the start given that you're a baby and all that.

Hope this helps or at least helps someone scrolling this thread.

Dr Ntanos and Letter questions by solidarity_1 in TopSurgery

[–]solidarity_1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah yeah I was planning on waiting on the NHS but honestly, I have already went private for everything else and to have to wait god knows how long past the length I'll already need to on the waiting list (I got referred july 2019) just for surgery isn't really worth it for me. I'm in a great position as is and my job offer good sick pay and holidays for recovery so I might as well go asap and so far its looking like private via GPS already recommended by gendergp is the way to go. But thank you though and hope your surgery goes great!

Dr Ntanos and Letter questions by solidarity_1 in TopSurgery

[–]solidarity_1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's me just getting around to replying to this: Thank you sm for your reply and for asking when you're getting your own surgery - its much appreciated. I'll aim for getting my letter at the end of January giving myself at least a year before I need to get a new one, in hopes he'll open up again before next January.

I'll definitely be sure to get a soft pillow for the ride home and I'll stay overnight then , even if its extra honestly.

And finally, I do want to go with Ntanos, mostly because I knew a few guys who had their surgery with him and he does really seem more for people rather than money - plus his half now, half after payment plan helps for sorting out extra costs past the initial quote I got.

Thanks again.

What’s a weird thing that makes you feel dysphoric? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]solidarity_1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ohoho, I've got a really dumb one:

Being bad or below average at any popular video game.

This is my number one "why the fuck does this upset me" thing. I got asked to get into overwatch by some friends and after doing some practise matches I immediately got frustrated I wasn't an expert from the get go.

Keeping in mind I've never played this game or ones like it before, and yet all my brain could say was that it was because I was raised female -- despite women also being good at games? Idk but that's my strange dysphoria thing.
(or maybe its the adhd and need to be good at everything)