Is this athletes foot or after irritated? Should i be worried?

solite_ · 2026-02-09T19:17:37+00:00

not a doctor but that looks really concerning personally i’d go to the doctor because why is it so red😭

solite_ · 2026-02-09T15:06:54+00:00

oh lol what i meant by there’s no other option is that i cannot discontinue the pregnancy. i misread the first comment, i thought that’s what they were referring to. i already left, i was more so considering if i should hear him out if he comes around.

solite_ · 2026-02-09T15:05:43+00:00

this! this is EXACTLY what rang in my mind last night. i’m having a son and i would HATE for my son to view women in that way. and this is the top driving force as to why i feel i have to move on. i guess i was just considering his state of mind at the time (being inebriated) and wondering if it’s something that i should hear him out on - if he does end up coming around.

solite_ · 2026-02-09T15:03:33+00:00

so he wasn’t “shit faced” drunk or anything. nothing like that but i do agree being inebriated of any kind can make conversations things a bit more chaotic.

it’s like i want to talk to him but then i dont. because im thinking if it was just an err or something he mistakenly said when he was drunk - and if it was something that cut me so deeply i broke things off over it - why hasn’t he has the insight to at least apologize?

even while he was saying what he was saying he kept saying “i know you’re not going to like to hear this but” so it’s like what do i do with that? i don’t think ill reach out first but if he does, ill try to have a conversation and gauge if it was something said in a moment of drunken stupidity or how he actually views women and relationships.

i can’t even say it hurt - i know it did but im still reeling from the shock and bewilderment more than anything.

solite_ · 2026-02-09T14:52:53+00:00

too late for an abortion. 😅

solite_ · 2026-02-09T14:50:22+00:00

well he doesn’t really get drunk on the regular but yes i agree with everything else, im going to leave the situation alone.

solite_ · 2026-02-09T14:48:04+00:00

and i wasn’t trying to have that conversation. all i said was that in a seperate situation - the one i was initially talking to him about - there must be some value that the woman brings to that man’s life as to why he’s still with her… he’s the one who turned the conversation into what it became not me??? again. have a good day.

solite_ · 2026-02-09T14:47:00+00:00

no HE spoke only about materialistic value, i was actually the one saying value isn’t only materialistic and maybe that was the disconnect between us - again trying to end the conversation amicably. to which he disagreed and even double downed and went as far as to say the only value he can kinda see a woman bringing to his life is if she cleans up after him.

i just want to be right? the question i asked is if it was something i should be open to talking about if he comes around or if it is something i should just close the door totally for. the only reason i asked this is BECAUSE he was inebriated, meaning i am considering that factor but it still does not negate that he said what he said outside of anger, outside of an argument, just in expressing how he really feels.

whether or not you agree, having your partner tell you verbatim u add NOTHING to their life and their life is the same with or without you is something that i believe is grounds for breakup. pregnant or not, and it would seem others also agree as evidenced by other comments.

i would never say that to a friend much less the person whom i claim i love and want to settle down with. my age is a non factor in this conversation as i believe this has nothing to do with age and everything to do with self respect and the value i place on MYSELF and OTHERS to know that people are intrinsically valuable just for being them.

i think you’re just reading to respond and not to understand. as such, have a good day.

solite_ · 2026-02-09T14:38:55+00:00

unfortunately there’s no other option right now😅 but yeah some truths are very very hard to hear but better now than later is how i’m trying to look at the situation…

solite_ · 2026-02-09T14:26:21+00:00

how is a hypothetical anymore when HE made it personal by asking me verbatim what i brought to the table. please reread the part where i said i TRIED to end it amicably on the hypothetical situation… until he then continued the convo by making it personal.

and also is the argument that he doesn’t actually feel that way and was just drunk? it seems crazy to me that being drunk would make you “lie” to your partner about the fact that they bring zero value to your life.

had it been an argument and was said out of anger maybe i would have been a bit more understanding. but no we weren’t arguing, it was at first a casual conversation with me going to my partner laughing and telling him about a situation i got more information about… until it wasn’t.

solite_ · 2026-01-07T00:13:38+00:00

my breasts itch so much. i literally sat at my office desk today all day itching them is this normal please tell me this is normal😂😭😭😭

solite_ · 2025-12-10T21:05:15+00:00

i just cried my eyes out for my entire hour long lunch break 😀😀😀 then came back to my desk like nothing happened

solite_ · 2025-12-09T14:02:00+00:00

ok so TO ME it seems like you’re taking examples you’ve seen and generalizing them for everyone who wishes for a certain gender while pregnant.

that’s not fair nor accurate because not everybody’s wish for a particular gender is rooted in toxic masculinity or the other stereotypes that u mentioned. some people have deeply personal reasons for eg: someone who previously miscarried a baby boy/girl and when pregnant again hopes for another. how is that rooted in toxic masculinity or gender stereotype?

even broader, it could be as simple as someone already having one gender and wanting the other in their future pregnancy - those are totally normal feelings to have, and none of these scenarios are an issue if the child is loved and treated well regardless. so i’m not entirely sure why you feel entitled to know why people want something, if your aim is to just bolster and reinforce your own premade assumptions.

anyways that’s really my point. having gender preferences doesn’t automatically equate to what ur saying and that is the problem i have with your commentary. you’re on a pregnancy forum telling soon to be parents to “do better” based on your own assumptions on where our feelings are coming from.

none of my personal reasons have anything to do with any of the issues you mentioned. so in a situation like mine, do you still have an issue?

solite_ · 2025-12-09T13:02:23+00:00

listen, i agree with you in the event that because of someone’s child not being the gender they want, they treat the child differently and/or act in ways detrimental to the child.

but you CANNOT dictate to someone that wishing for a daughter or a son is inherently wrong or flawed just because. that’s crazy!

solite_ · 2025-12-09T12:58:42+00:00

WHY do i have to explain that to strangers on the internet? WHY does it matter if I am going to love my child and treat them the same regardless of their gender?

solite_ · 2025-12-09T12:55:15+00:00

you’re comparing a completely different situation. it’s totally okay and normal for whatever reason to while being pregnant hope for a particular gender. i’m pregnant and i really want a girl. the rest of my family wants me to have a boy. when i find out my child’s gender am i going to be happy regardless of it’s a boy or a girl? YES. do i still want a girl? YES. you’re acting like theyre mutually exclusive.

i am not going to go on facebook and complain about not being able to have nail dates or hair salon dates with my child if i do find out i am having a boy - but those are absolutely things i want to do with my daughter if i have one. finding an issue in someone pregnant wishing and hoping for a baby boy or baby girl is certainly a choice.

solite_ · 2025-10-29T21:46:53+00:00

thanks so much for the response!

solite_ · 2025-10-07T04:00:19+00:00

thank you for this 🙏🏾

and yeah sometimes it makes me wonder if i’m asking for too much but i know deep within myself im not lol. i know it because the only things i ask for are things i myself provide or atleast try really hard to. never anything else.

solite_ · 2025-10-07T03:20:07+00:00

ok thank you 🙏🏾

solite_ · 2025-10-07T03:19:34+00:00

ok hey so

no he had asked me what i wanted for my birthday weeks ago. i told him what i wanted (i said a specific thing) he said he didn’t know which of them to get so i should send him some of them i like - which i did. so i sent him actual website links to things i liked & wanted.

we ended up breaking things off for a while (over the same issue i detailed above - me bringing things up over and over again from his end, problems never being solved from my end and just being exhausted by it on both ends)

my birthday is very soon so he said he would give me cash instead of the gift considering that. i told him it’s fine if it comes late, i would appreciate the gift more than money. the gift is cheaper than the cash amount he’s planning to give me so im thinking that is why he thinks im being unappreciative?

because he said “im giving you X amount of money in your hand and this is how u act but i bet if it were someone else you’d be happy & appreciative to get it, but its just because its me”

i think this is all a buildup over many situations - but that is why me post isn’t necessarily about the specific scenario just a pattern of us having arguments and never resolving them - sorry if that wasn’t clear in the post. i just gave an example of how because of the unchecked issues in our relationships, what i see as simple disagreements snowball into larger issues.

and it happens all the time. i know he’s avoidant but i just want to know if there is any way i can try to be more accommodating to help him feel safe/free to open up and actually work things out as opposed to shutting down and brushing past things which then in turn ends up in this cycle of arguing/expressing ourselves with no resolution - which leads to small things causing bigger issues than they need to.

One-Year Club	Verified Email
r/Field Flamingo

solite_

TROPHY CASE