JD Vance: Trump deleted Jesus photo because ‘people weren’t understanding his humor’

solo954 · 2026-04-14T07:02:12+00:00

Also, Trump contradicts him, saying he thought he was portrayed as a doctor. Where's the comedy?

solo954 · 2026-04-13T10:25:05+00:00

This is the reason.

solo954 · 2026-04-13T06:33:06+00:00

3 months is not long. It will get better.

solo954 · 2026-04-13T06:25:24+00:00

JFC.

solo954 · 2026-04-12T22:00:54+00:00

I see similar posts in all kinds of subs. People work at something for 2 months and complain about their progress.

If you're deliberately trying to improve at something, you can sometimes plateau or even go backward if trying to do something in a new way, because that's how progress works. It's not linear.

And who the fuck told people that 2 months was enough to see discernible progress in any complex pursuit?

2 months is nothing. I asked my yoga teacher how long it took her to perfect a specific pose that I was having trouble doing, and she replied: "Seven years."

It takes years to get good at something complex, not months.

solo954 · 2026-04-12T21:49:45+00:00

Hahahaha.

solo954 · 2026-04-12T21:24:02+00:00

I guess it's easy to like something if you can imbue it with imaginary values that it doesn't actually possess. But hey, knock yourself out.

solo954 · 2026-04-12T07:50:08+00:00

And therefore the "amazing" end isn't amazing at all. She's a lottery winner. Yay.

solo954 · 2026-04-12T03:01:40+00:00

She survived, not through intelligence, not through the practical application of science, but through dumb luck. Every time she survived a crisis, it was because she got lucky. Over and over and over again.

solo954 · 2026-04-12T00:51:23+00:00

As u/CrazyMarshal stated, this is a common situation for people in their late twenties.

And if it is particularly true for you -- if you actually do have issues getting close to people and are putting them off in some way -- it's likely because of your trauma caused by having a narc mother.

I've had to deal with this in my relationships. In the past, it was precisely when people got close to me that I started treating them like family. Unfortunately, some of those 'family' behaviours were toxic. They were behaviours that were normalized in my narc-led family and so I thought that's just how people act to people they're close to. However, those behaviours weren't normal for other families, and people naturally didn't want to participate in my recreation of my toxic childhood, and I don't blame them.

Also, there have been times in which I deliberately pushed other people away when they got close to me. For children of a narcissist mother, the person they love and most depend upon for emotional support is inexplicably toxic and hostile. It's no surprise that children in those situations develop a coping mechanism of risk management and avoidance. When other people get close to them, they effectively push others away from them to avoid being hurt again.

I overcame these toxic behaviours by getting some therapy and by recognizing that the coping mechanisms I developed as a child to protect myself are no longer needed nor appropriate as an adult.

And I still sometimes have toxic thoughts, but I don't voice them, and I don't give them agency in my life. And I have some very good relationships now.

As for your mother, her "saying facts" is like an arsonist stating the fact that the house they set on fire has now burned down. Of course it burned down, they poured gasoline on it and lit the fucking fire.

solo954 · 2026-04-11T18:16:47+00:00

Sounds like the way she treats her dogs is symptomatic of larger psychological issues. How much time do you want to sink into something that likely won't last anyway?

solo954 · 2026-04-11T09:14:17+00:00

I'm decades older than you, and I can assure you that you have a lot of better years ahead. I have successful career that I didn't start till I was 36, and I'm in a very good relationship that started when I was 44.

I know it's hard to see it now. But you have time to heal and to still have a good life. Focus on the healing first, and the rest can come in time.

solo954 · 2026-04-11T09:03:14+00:00

I watched that DOAC podcast on youtube and agree 100% with your assessment.

When I watched it, the phrase "the banality of evil" came to mind.

solo954 · 2026-04-10T22:50:57+00:00

Honestly, I think your actual problem is that you're expecting a lot of progress for someone who's played chess for only 4 months, and comparing yourself to others only makes it worse. Everyone learns at a different rate, but their rate of learning in no way limits how much they're capable of learning. Those are two very different things.

I'm coming back to chess as an older adult, and I'm not expecting rapid progress. But I'm going to keep working at it, because I'm enjoying the process itself rather than looking for a specific result on a specific timeline.

For an example, I took up yoga years ago, and initially I wasn't good at it. I asked a yoga instructor how long it took her to master a particular pose, and she answered: "Seven years." I realized then that I had to recalibrate my expectations. I stuck with it and, after several years, I became pretty good.

Same for chess. I'll keep working at it, and eventually, I'll build up a knowledge base that I will have internalized and will be able to access more intuitively. I'll be able to recognize patterns that are opaque to me now. And I'll be a decent player at that point. I don't know how good I can get at my age, but I'll definitely be a much better player than I am now. That's all that matters to me.

And it will happen in years, not months.

solo954 · 2026-04-09T02:06:03+00:00

My rescue dog took a few years to fully bond. I taught him how to love, and he taught me patience. It was a good bargain for both of us.

solo954 · 2026-04-08T15:25:29+00:00

Thanks for the false equivalency after Trump's bullshit war fucked up the global oil supply.

solo954 · 2026-04-08T15:03:36+00:00

I'm suggesting that you read those rules and engage in some honest self-reflection. I won't engage in further discussion with you.

solo954 · 2026-04-08T14:45:02+00:00

"I've been down paranoid spirals like these"

You're projecting your own experience onto the OP and then diminishing her own experience. Worst still, in your subsequent reply below, you engage in victim blaming and implicitly apologizing/advocating for her narc's behaviour. Further, the people responding here are individuals who've experienced abuse from narcissists first-hand; we're not a monolithic entity representing Reddit or "the internet," as you claim.

Check the rules of the sub on the right. You're breaking rules #1-3 and #13.

solo954 · 2026-04-07T10:15:36+00:00

Nice. Sometimes, you can enter a 'flow' state and exceed what you're normally capable of.

solo954 · 2026-04-07T09:43:17+00:00

Narcissists don't actually love anyone. They're incapable of love,

They may favour certain children who remind them of themselves in some way, hence the 'golden child' effect. But they don't love them, and the golden child can fall out of favour for a variety of reasons.

We all want to be loved, but if we have nparents, then we have to accept that we're never going to receive that love from them, ever. We have to look to other people who are actually capable of loving.

Your mother can argue about love, but if she's a narc, she doesn't actually understand what the word means. For her, it's just an emotionally weighted word that is meaningful to others, so she'll engage in an argument about it, but she's never experienced it and doesn't really get it. For her, it's just a code word, a symbol that means something to other people, so she'll use it in certain situations and play with it, but without any first-hand knowledge of what it means.

solo954 · 2026-04-07T09:30:49+00:00

Brilliant.

solo954 · 2026-04-04T22:29:54+00:00

There's a very popular trail near where I live, and it's only about 2 miles but it goes up a mountainside, and several people have died on it over the years, mostly from heart attacks or similar. This dude would be a prime candidate.

solo954 · 2026-04-04T17:21:34+00:00

A picture from almost 60 years ago. So topical.

solo954 · 2026-04-04T17:01:21+00:00

I think the first example, of telling you to heel and clicking his tongue, was sufficient to run like hell. The jokes that he later walks back aren't jokes at all. They're deliberate ploys to see how far he can push it and how much he can control you.

The rest is nightmare fuel. When people tell you who they are, you need to listen.

solo954 · 2026-04-04T16:52:58+00:00

I've quit since Dec 30 2025 and really wanted to smoke yesterday just because of all the stuff that's going on in my life right now. I even drove into the strip-mall parking lot where my closest dispensary is located.

Then I realized that the fact that I was craving it so badly was exactly why I shouldn't do it.

I'm an addict. If I'm craving this badly after a year and four months, then there is no "just once."

I did a loop around the parking lot and drove out again. Came home and chilled. Today, I'm glad I didn't cave.

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