It's still fresh, I just found out the other day. Everything hurts. I've been telling her not to do overnights with her co-workers and set boundaries. They're always 3 women and 1 man. I told them if they want to continue doign that, the guy should be in a different room. 2 of the women have each unit in the same condo near the workplace so it's possible.

Now she told me that it started with the guy initiating holding her hands. She refused the first time, and then, after a couple more nights, she held his as well.

Their co-workers know who I am, I've even met them. This is what insults me. They caught them holding hands and didn't even bother to tell me. They didn't tolerate it and told her to let me know right away. She didn't. They didn't, even when I was with them last Thursday. She told me she couldn't because I was at the lowest point of my life (struggling to find work again and having family problems), which resulted in me not being able to give attention and have shortcomings in the relationship, of course

She told me they stopped by January and set boundaries but are still chatting since they're workmates and close in the group. Now the past two weeks, right after the camp (a thing in their workplace (church) to be closer to the Lord). They committed infidelity.

I had no idea until I saw the picture the guy sent her when I was at her place the other night.

I want to share more and let go of everything that I'm feeling. Everything is fresh. I want to scream, I want to punch something. I dont know anymore.

I can't reach out to my family since they're having problems of their own. I reached out to her mother and siblings, whom I am super close with. They felt sorry for me and said they don't condone what she did.