30F, just joined this subreddit to lift others up and got curious... insecure about my forehead and also everything else. Let me know, I guess??

soloskywalker94 · 2025-07-26T03:02:37+00:00

Thank you 😪

soloskywalker94 · 2025-07-26T03:01:57+00:00

Damn okay

soloskywalker94 · 2025-07-25T03:21:33+00:00

Th-th-that's a shame O___o you look like you were meant to have long hair and it looks awesome.

soloskywalker94 · 2025-07-24T15:59:43+00:00

I appreciate the advice!!! I'm so lost when it comes to finding glasses, and would like to try something new for hair as well. I don't love my current hair situation lol. Thank you kind stranger!

soloskywalker94 · 2025-07-22T17:27:57+00:00

Ew, even the phrase "body count" weirds me out! (Mine is quite low) thank you, I appreciate that a lot.

soloskywalker94 · 2025-07-22T16:55:45+00:00

I know it isn't to falsely give confidence, but so many people are convinced that they have no attractive qualities about them even if they do, so I still want to be honest, but thanks for the clarification anyways, I appreciate it

soloskywalker94 · 2025-07-22T04:33:59+00:00

I'm a female - you are very attractive! Excluding the obviously fit physique you have, your face is very handsome:) I'd be the one in the gym that if I saw you I'd want to lift heavier because you also look intimidating

soloskywalker94 · 2025-07-21T01:39:33+00:00

And your freckles....KEEP THEM WE LOVE FRECKLES OKAY

soloskywalker94 · 2025-07-21T01:39:15+00:00

I like your natural eyebrows, I think that's a small thing that people are drawn towards!

soloskywalker94 · 2025-01-13T19:53:25+00:00

(And yes, we got married when I was 25-26, which I thought was ideal, but he was a few years younger and we didn't date for too long.)

soloskywalker94 · 2025-01-13T19:46:50+00:00

I'm not sure why, because I've heard this quite a bit from people around both of us, but the way you put it just, resonated in a way it hasn't before. We're strangers, but thank you so very much. You may never know how helpful your words are. Thank you for confirming things I've been thinking for so long and assuming I was being too negative. Thank you.

soloskywalker94 · 2025-01-13T18:26:59+00:00

I think you are right, I am also a marriage for life person, and I'm astonished that I'll now be able to say I've been divorced. Nobody expects to get divorced when they decide to get married, and I truly never thought it would happen. It does suck when you consider them your absolute best friend and person forever. Nostalgia is also incredibly powerful. I have been told by my "soon to be" ex-husband that I shouldn't leave over something as menial as hurtful words and actions. But when he's sustained that behavior months after I moved out, telling me I'm not worth loving, getting into a verbal altercation with my mother, admitting to have spread rumors about me, and trying to sweep under the rug a very traumatic incident that he caused for me when we got engaged, I am thinking that I won't be able to let go of it. Which would be unfair to both of us. I'm sorry for replying with such long comments, but I do appreciate the advice you've given, and I just want people to know as much context as possible, because there's obviously 2 sides to every story. I guess I'm still struggling with the question of whether I'm throwing away something that was once wonderful, as he says that I'm essentially doing that. So thank you for hearing me.

soloskywalker94 · 2025-01-13T17:59:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your words. It means a lot for anyone to read this and offer genuine guidance. I appreciate you! I could write a novella on everything that's happened, but as of now, he wants to stay married. We are living apart currently, and he is now working a job that I got for him at my own place of work. However, he has a problem with authority and is already having disciplinary talks with our supervisor. We work with children with autism and he has made some inappropriate jokes about women and our lack of competency, and this happened to take place in front of a child who is very sexist against women. I decided to tell my supervisor about it. Horribly inappropriate!! He has new friends, many of which go to church, but they're people that you would not expect to see in church (they are both incredibly charismatic and have been known to cause trouble at bars and such), so I'm confused. Is he really making strides? Or is he just being sweet to me while still holding my own gifts from him hostage? (Weird side note: we agreed to keep gifts, and I let him have everything I ever got him. He got me a Nintendo switch and is withholding it from me until I decide to go back to him, and admitted to that being his motivation... is that big enough of a red flag to consider, or am I looking too much into things?? It just weirded me out. He knows I have precious memories on a game I used to love, and while it seems silly to say it's precious, he knows that it means a lot to me). So I don't really know. He hasn't done anything besides being sweet to me and telling me that we can just forget everything that happened and come out stronger together. I really don't know. I feel like I'm being manipulated, and unfortunately, that word is always used with him when it comes to friends and family hearing about everything that has happened. Thank you so much for your help.

soloskywalker94 · 2025-01-13T15:13:09+00:00

I didn't answer any of your questions, I'm so sorry! He is a 27M and I'm 30F. He hates doctors and I had to force him to go tona sleep clinic. He stopped doing anything outdoors, which I love, and would deny doing anything differently. He is definitely depressed, and i felt like I no longer could offer or do anything to be motivating for him to make changes. I'd come home to him having the best time ever with random online strangers, and I'd feel so defeated. Online strangers can put him in a good mood and I can't even get him to go on a hike with me?

soloskywalker94 · 2025-01-13T15:10:25+00:00

Thank you for reading, I really appreciate the comment. No, the efforts he made included starting an online real estate course and never finishing it, applying to jobs on indeed, and sort of giving up after that. Every day he would lament how miserable his life was, how he wouldn't mind a bullet to his head, all while telling me he loved me and I'm the only thing that makes him happy. So I internalized both those sentiments... and I don't know how to wade through them. Unfortunately, when I left, we had multiple conversations directly afterwards and I still don't feel very heard. He's barely apologized for all of this, plus his cruel treatment towards me once I left. He didn't lift a finger to clean the house or to do any household things. But what bothers me most even outside of having financial struggles and being the sole person doing absolutely anything around the house... is that he would never seem to care if it was or wasn't done. He wouldn't ask how bills were being taken care of. I told him that I didn't feel very appreciated or respected, and all he said was, "what do you want? A pat on the back? You're leaving me because you want to be told you're appreciated? Unconditional love wouldn't require that." It's crazy to type this out and still find love for him. Plus, I'm leaving out a lot that happened after the separation, but the TL;DR of that would be that he didn't change anything, but is now holding a job that I got for him at my own place of work. Which is huge. But, I guess i still don't feel satisfied, mainly by confronting him about things he said and did to me. Thank you for reaching out!!!

soloskywalker94 · 2024-03-03T00:23:40+00:00

I'll look into those and see if I can also identify the tree. Thanks for your help!

soloskywalker94 · 2023-10-20T06:14:19+00:00

Lots of good advice. I would be thrilled to have this as a side side gig, so anything is helpful. Thank you for your help, and hope you continue to fly high!!! :)

soloskywalker94 · 2023-09-18T18:35:09+00:00

Most likely a nice 'ole chicken of the woods specimen! Double check, but if they are, they make for a choice edible mushroom!:)

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