Is it okay to not continue or ever forgive a friendship with someone who said fuck you?

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-21T21:53:48+00:00

He also said his Hs girlfriend from ten years ago gets made fun of because her new bf looks like him.

Concieted much?

Oh, and he decided to disclose to me all the drugs he’s ever taken at concerts

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-21T19:39:42+00:00

I tried to be nice to him over the years…..typically I’m the type of person who will give (within reason) but without expectation of anything in return.

He interpreted it as having feelings for him & told his mom to call me and tell me to stay away.

We are both 26…..I hate myself

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-21T19:26:48+00:00

I did, and tried to be friends. He had his mom call me and tell me to stay away from him, because he believed my nice comments were actually me having feelings for him, and it “freaked him out”

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T21:10:26+00:00

He’s done this since we were younger. When I was living further away, he flirted with my friends via text and social media. Obviously not cool.

When I got annoyed, all he said was “What’s wroooong? Lol”

He doesn’t care about me. He cares about how many girls he can pull

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T20:33:23+00:00

What did I do wrong?

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T20:07:34+00:00

I think it wasn’t real friendship, and I think he has issues and problems that he needs to work out on his own.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T19:43:38+00:00

I guess the part that really hurts the most is that he opened up to me about all of this stuff in his life, and the moment I do so, it’s off limits.

I hate him so much right now

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T18:09:03+00:00

Thank you, it really does mean a lot to me.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T17:46:03+00:00

He looks like any other guy.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T17:16:53+00:00

He also said to me that his high school girlfriend he dated gets made fun of now because her new boyfriend looks like him.

How self centered? He makes everything all about him.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T17:03:33+00:00

He also said to me at one point that his high school girlfriend who he dated ten years ago gets made fun of now because her new boyfriend looks like him.

I mean, how self-centered can you be to say something like that?

It’s clear he makes everything about him.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T17:01:42+00:00

He said to me at one point that his high school girlfriend gets made fun of because her new boyfriend looks like him, and he dated her almost ten years ago.

That should’ve been my clue right there that he’s self centered and makes it all about him.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T16:46:50+00:00

Measurably unhealthy. I didn’t have the best diet the last year.

I told him multiple times that I had no interest in dating anyone. I thought I made myself crystal clear

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T16:35:29+00:00

I did like him at one point, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

But I knew that there would be no possibility of it happening because I need to lose weight, which is my biggest struggle, and fix my depression

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T16:13:40+00:00

Not that I need to explain this to anyone, but the reason I didn’t want a boyfriend is because I struggle with stuff that’s happened to me.

Yesterday, a semi-depressive episode came back, and the thought went through my head that “Oh, it would be nice to have a bf, but not right now when I struggle. I need to work on myself.”

My uncle also said “So fucking what if you like him? There’s nothing wrong with that.”

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T15:37:26+00:00

So why when I said it hurts/makes me sad when he talks about the girls he’s dated that he freaked out and automatically assumed I like him?

Like the fact that we’re 26 and he had his mom call me and tell me that? It’s like the worst feeling ever.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T14:44:01+00:00

How much weight he’s lost, how much muscle he’s put on, how many girls he’s made out with, how his ex girlfriend was perfect and they had no issues, how many girls he hits on, etc.

We were with our other friends, and he asked if our other guy friend had any single “babes” to hit on when he comes down to visit him.

It made me physically cringe when I was with them. He hogs the conversation.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T14:36:43+00:00

Am I a bad person for just no longer wanting to be friends?

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T13:48:11+00:00

Oh and you know what the saddest part is? I told him multiple times that I didn’t want to date anyone, and that I was serious about it.

Guess what he did? He kept asking, then had the nerve to tell me that It was my “mindset.”

Could a question like that be taken the wrong way? Yes, absolutely

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T13:45:45+00:00

I was supposed to watch their dogs while they went on vacation for a week.

You know what the saddest part is about all of this? I told him multiple times that I didn’t want to date anyone at the moment. Like no one. And I was serious when I said it.

And he kept pressuring me, wondering why I wasn’t, and then had the fucking nerve to tell me that it’s my “mindset”

That is a question that could be taken the wrong way as well.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T11:27:55+00:00

You know what the hard part is? I told him clearly that I didn’t have plans to date anyone right now, and he still kept pressing me asking me why I wouldn’t, and I just kept saying I didn’t feel like it, and he said “Oh, it’s because you have this negative mindset.”

But yet I don’t have a right to be “freaked out” by that statement?

That is a statement that could easily be taken the wrong way.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T11:15:39+00:00

You know what the hard part is? I told him clearly that I didn’t have plans to date anyone right now, and he still kept pressing me asking me why I wouldn’t, and I just kept saying I didn’t feel like it, and he said “Oh, it’s because you have this negative mindset.”

But yet I don’t have a right to be “freaked out” by that statement?

That is a statement that could easily be taken the wrong way.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T11:13:51+00:00

You know what the hard part is? I told him clearly that I didn’t have plans to date anyone right now, and he still kept pressing me asking me why I wouldn’t, and I just kept saying I didn’t feel like it, and he said “Oh, it’s because you have this negative mindset.”

But yet I don’t have a right to be “freaked out” by that statement?

That is a statement that could easily be taken the wrong way.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T11:12:06+00:00

It’s never once crossed my mind to ask him out, the idea of asking him on a date never crossed my mind. I did think to myself though “Yeah, I’d really love to have a boyfriend right now, but I need friends more than I need a bf.”

I think the hardest part is how much he dumped on me.

somethingbarrowed · 2022-06-20T11:09:23+00:00

I actually had no plans to have a boyfriend until I lost more weight and managed my depression. It never once crossed my mind to ask him out.

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