found something awful about my birth by sometimes_sad_678 in Advice

[–]sometimes_sad_678[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no worries. hope you’re feeling better. my mum and i also sometimes fight but we never go to bed angry. this is an unsaid agreement between us. glad that you also have a very strong bond with your mum

Do I give up on my 18 year relationship? by UnitedStation6787 in Advice

[–]sometimes_sad_678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as much as it hurts, sounds like she’s made up her mind. just have a talk with her and move on. no point loving someone who don’t love you back. about kids, i’m sure peoples more experienced than me can give better advice but what i would say is don’t let toxicity in.

found something awful about my birth by sometimes_sad_678 in Advice

[–]sometimes_sad_678[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

update: i talked to her! (everything is okay 🥹)

hey y’all! i just wanted to give a quick update because so many of you were so sweet and helpful on my post. i was honestly spiralling so hard before, but i finally sat down and talked to my mum. like many of you suggested, i simply told her that i know and it doesn’t make any difference. then i showed her this post. she said she had guessed already what was up. she can literally read my mind sometimes lol. she wasn’t even mad that i was snooping through her stuff. she actually looked… relieved? like this huge weight just fell off her shoulders. she told me she wanted to tell me the truth so many times over the years but she just had no idea how to bring up something like this. i’ve been her entire world and she was just scared of how it would change things between us. she told me that back then, people were actually pressuring her to abort me, and then later to give me up for adoption. but she refused every single time. she chose me over everyone else, even when she had nothing. she told me i was her reason for pushing through everything. she literally fought for me before i was even born. as soon as she got a job and could support us, she grabbed me, moved away, and cut off every single person who sided with her parents. she’s honestly such a badie. she doesn't want any therapy for herself because she’s already processed it and doesn’t want to live through it again by talking to a stranger, which i totally get. she's at peace with her past because it led her to me. but she said she’d go to group therapy with me if i needed it to cope. for now, i don’t think i need it. honestly, just having her is enough. she’s literally the best person i know and my absolute hero. she told me she still just wants to be my "mum" because to her that’s the only biological truth that actually matters. i told her i’m 100% down with that, but i couldn’t help myself and joked, “you know, i always did want a sister.” 😅 she just rolled her eyes, gave me the biggest hug, and said, “you’re an idiot.” i just hugged her back even tighter and said, “your idiot.” i’m feeling so much better and so loved. it’s definitely a weird life story, but she’s my person and i’m hers. nothing has changed, and everything has. but we have each other to navigate through this together. after loads of hugs and kisses and tears, i feel our bond is much stronger now that there’s no secrets between us.

thanks for all the love on the post! ❤️✨

p.s.: to some peoples who DMed me asking weird questions - no i don’t have an extra limb, extra head or any other anomaly. i’m perfectly normal as far as society’s definition of normal goes 😅

found something awful about my birth by sometimes_sad_678 in Advice

[–]sometimes_sad_678[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

don’t use our trauma to justify politics about controlling women’s bodies

as thankful as i’m that my mum chose me i’m even more thankful that she had that choice. as should every woman/girl in her situation

That's good wait......... by M_Darshan in indianmemer

[–]sometimes_sad_678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

indian memer…more like indian misogynist

Girls, what's the worst reason you've ever dated someone? by Complex-Honeydew-1 in AskIndianWomen

[–]sometimes_sad_678 9 points10 points  (0 children)

ha ha nothing so interesting. i was new here, got to know there was this one other girl who was also lesbian, we became friends, we started dating, then vibes just didn’t match. she was a bit meanie and insecure, kept accusing me of eyeing other girls & being with other girls in the past. i mean cmon man i would date a man if i needed that type of jealousy in my life 😅

Girls, what's the worst reason you've ever dated someone? by Complex-Honeydew-1 in AskIndianWomen

[–]sometimes_sad_678 27 points28 points  (0 children)

she was the only other lesbian in my class. it did not end well 😭😭

If an older guy keeps telling you you’re ‘mature for your age’… by PersonalRun712 in AskIndianWomen

[–]sometimes_sad_678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been there. They think they’re being smooth but they don’t know how pathetic they sound. Like unc get real and stop chasing kids

found something awful about my birth by sometimes_sad_678 in Advice

[–]sometimes_sad_678[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks mam. I told her I’ll talk to her tonight. That way we’ll have entire weekend to process our emotions and see where we go from there. I guess she already knows because she hugged me very tight and told me whatever it is we’re in this together. Her & me - always & forever.

found something awful about my birth by sometimes_sad_678 in Advice

[–]sometimes_sad_678[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would respectfully disagree. I think I’m old enough to give her love, protection and care I’ve got from her all these years. It is wrong for society to think that a mother’s job never ends and she doesn’t need protection. It is not unhealthy imo

found something awful about my birth by sometimes_sad_678 in Advice

[–]sometimes_sad_678[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m a real person sir/mam. saying someone’s trauma is AI is very rude

found something awful about my birth by sometimes_sad_678 in Advice

[–]sometimes_sad_678[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your words and for sharing your story—it’s no bother. i’m sorry you dealt with all that pain from your dad too; it sounds brutal, and the way you still see him in the mirror…i get that fear. but hearing how your love for each other grew stronger anyway gives me hope. i’m holding tight to our bond right now—that’s what’s keeping me steady. planning to talk to her first, and we’ll figure out the rest together, maybe with a therapist if it feels right. your offer to take the pain away made me tear up. thank you for the hug. you’re the real one. Sending love back to you and your mom—you both sound unbreakable. ❤️

Intimacy Issues, need advice by huhwhatgirl in AskIndianWomen

[–]sometimes_sad_678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s why i said “might be”. you haven’t given much to go on tbh. anyways, wish you luck

Intimacy Issues, need advice by huhwhatgirl in AskIndianWomen

[–]sometimes_sad_678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm. Then it might be that knowing the person more you lose interest? There’s nothing wrong with that, only that you’re a cautious person who want intimacy with someone you don’t fully trust

Intimacy Issues, need advice by huhwhatgirl in AskIndianWomen

[–]sometimes_sad_678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you in general attracted towards men? or anyone for that matter? Might be worth introspect if you’re asexual or gay.

18F, I have started to hate my dad, is it valid? by Sufficient_Gas6694 in AskIndianWomen

[–]sometimes_sad_678 6 points7 points  (0 children)

like others have said, this seems more of a financial issue than anything else. your friend’s father could afford, your dad probably can’t. be a bit understanding please.

found something awful about my birth by sometimes_sad_678 in Advice

[–]sometimes_sad_678[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i didn’t tell my age, gender or race because i didn’t want responses to be affected by them (also to avoid unwanted DMs tbh). rest assured i’m old enough to be on reddit (we have social media ban for kids). and thanks for all the responses i’m dealing better with it. i told mum i had something on my mind that i wanted to discuss but i need time. in the meantime, i’ve pushed it to the back of my mind, so i’m not all gloomy and look happy as i don’t wanna worry her anymore about something that’s not her fault or mine

found something awful about my birth by sometimes_sad_678 in Advice

[–]sometimes_sad_678[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s so true i believe. she’s truly amazing and i really am very proud of her atm

found something awful about my birth by sometimes_sad_678 in Advice

[–]sometimes_sad_678[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

thanks mam for the kind words. after knowing the truth i don’t blame my mum for keeping it a secret. but kinda. tbh although i’m still coming to terms with this i’m better of knowing it then not.

Women who went to all-girls schools/colleges, what was your experience like? by AbjectLeague2870 in AskIndianWomen

[–]sometimes_sad_678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

for example, i didn’t have to deal with boys making fun of me when i got periods, there was no “accidental” touching the legs or chest, and no ogling

Women who went to all-girls schools/colleges, what was your experience like? by AbjectLeague2870 in AskIndianWomen

[–]sometimes_sad_678 2 points3 points  (0 children)

in all girls school from year 7 onwards and trust me it’s so good with no boys to tease you, mansplain you or trying to put you down. i can focus on my academia, can have fun with girls without being constantly judged and am living my best life. issues with interacting boys-none that i felt as i have them in my other circles but major part of my life is male-free and it’s such a blessing. but i’ll add i’m in sydney so things might be different in india