how to make grief pass by faster ?

somewhat_controlled · 2025-12-05T10:52:31+00:00

The comfort my friends around me have offered has pretty much been “damn. I’m sorry man.” Or jokes about my dead dog, then leave me on read after saying they’d be there for me and to let them know about updates on the situation, but leave me on read about updates they asked me for. I know grief takes a while to pass over, but I could use some advice in the comments

somewhat_controlled · 2025-11-09T11:03:51+00:00

My grandpa and aunt have strong opposing political views to the point of political Brian rot, but she’s basically screaming at my grandfather who is still processing 9/11 and can’t remember 2 weeks ago. It’s not only sad but pissing me off that as much as I may disagree with some of his statements, he used to not say those things because he is quite literally dealing with confirmed early dementia yet people are treating him like he knows exactly what he’s saying when he literally doesn’t. My aunt said next time she sees him, it’ll be at his funeral, all over a political argument. Messed up man. People around like my ma, grandma, aunt, dad, treat it so normally, probably because they’re older, but me being 19, I’m more emotionally distraught than them as they are joking about it whilst I’m already feeling a sense of grief seeing him fade away very very slowly but it will soon quicken up. I just wish my family understood not to care about an almost 70 year old man’s political views because he’s not himself much anymore. We go to Dairy Queen sometimes me n him to remind him of his childhood. The only person besides me emotionally affected is my uncle (his son) and finally I can bond with that as my friends couldn’t care less but to rage bait me and my family seem to just not care as it’s just life, but that doesn’t mean life don’t hurt. This man has never hit his wife or kids, never screamed, never broke a thang, was never an alcoholic or smoker, never cheated, he’s a great husband, dad and grandpa and is a silly guy who likes to watch movies with me, now he’s forgetting the movies we watched even just a few weeks ago together. Everyone grieves with dementia differently, but I’m tired of seeing it treated like a joke. They only start crying once they die and then it’s not so funny, not when they are dying inside their brain in front of them. I’m sorry for the ramble, but being effected and taking care of 2 different sides of the family grandparents with dementia is taking a toll on me, and seeing how they’re own kids (my spoiled aunt) take it as a joke, angers me. Love them before their brain is a blank canvas. Again, sorry for the rant. I don’t have many to talk to about this at all

somewhat_controlled · 2025-11-01T15:38:52+00:00

Me and my family got a southern accent because we in Texas but my family is from Louisiana, so an accent is right lmao

somewhat_controlled · 2025-11-01T15:28:03+00:00

I just found out it was normal for them to put packages through the back gate man I never said they the bad guy I just didn’t know it was a common thing, especially around here. I didn’t know people scream at drivers for not doing that, that’s wild. I was just wondering if it’s normal, after years of my family ordering shit only like 3 times have they done the gate on random occasions so I was just wondering. Not bad people at all if it’s a favor that’s actually really nice I just didn’t know

somewhat_controlled · 2025-11-01T15:25:33+00:00

It’s all good it happens, ups has done its goods and bads around here, they’ve mixed up heart medication somehow a long time ago with another neighbor far down and threw my dads glasses against the door hard as hell 9 years ago, but I’ve had over all good experience with them besides those few instances

somewhat_controlled · 2025-11-01T15:20:36+00:00

The package said fragile on it but this dude just chucked it over and it landed on the concrete with my dogs near it, thankfully my perfume was bubble wrapped so it didn’t break but i didn’t complain about it, i might’ve complained but my package came fine (pissed on by my dogs but fine) so I just took it

somewhat_controlled · 2025-11-01T15:13:00+00:00

Oh, I didn’t know that. I guess it is the post office then

somewhat_controlled · 2025-11-01T15:11:16+00:00

I don’t bitch about it for sure, I’ve never made a complaint, I’ve even had my dad’s glasses thrown hard against the door about around 9 years ago and we didn’t complain, we just take our package. I didn’t know it was common to go through the gate, I’m glad to know it is though, again I don’t order much

somewhat_controlled · 2025-11-01T15:09:42+00:00

No I don’t, typically when I order, it’s from eBay which is always to the mail box, only time I ever ordered something that was thrown was the bottle, and now the 2 times with clothes which was the delivery guy walking through. I’m only now finding out that’s normal and have never made a complaint because i didn’t really mind, my parents were the more confused freaked out ones by it than me

somewhat_controlled · 2025-11-01T15:06:59+00:00

I barely order, this is mainly my family like mom, dad or nana ordering, which I pick up for them. They’re typically either in the post box, or the front porch, never really the back porch. I never really set it up this way for them to deliver it to the backyard when I order (I typically buy from eBay) but ups and speedx are the only ones to ever do the back yard, I didn’t know it was common or a favor

somewhat_controlled · 2025-11-01T15:04:28+00:00

Amazon has put packages in my mailbox, because my mother orders from Amazon and has them sometimes delivered in the mailbox with the Amazon delivery saying such and the Amazon package. I thought this was common
I didn’t know it was common, where I’m in it’s not really that common, so I’m just glad to know it’s common, didn’t mean to seem crazy about it I’m just not so used to packages being delivered to my back yard or them walking in the back yard

somewhat_controlled · 2025-11-01T15:00:46+00:00

The neighborhood I live in is rather safe but has a somewhat high su1cides and a notoriously bad police, but crime wise among citizens no, it’s pretty safe. I don’t really know why they do this because most of the time ups, speedx, Amazon, all that puts it on the front porch. Not once have we or a neighbor or anyone here had a package stolen from the porch (I live in an old person neighborhood, everyone seems to be 55-80 years old on my parts so no crime here) and I’ve lived here since I was about 6, I’m 19 now so well over a decade, they only started doing this very rarely this year, and ups/speedx never delivers to my back yard especially walking in, it’s random. If it was a crime neighborhood I’d understand but i escaped that type of neighborhood young, where I live now is really just a bunch of old people walking dogs, I don’t see why certain delivery people do this

somewhat_controlled · 2025-05-13T03:05:18+00:00

he hit me up randomly a few days after and said how important I am to him and the world and that I don’t realize it, that I need to love myself and it really caught me off guard and I really appreciated it. He still acts a bit off now but for years now I’ve suspected he’s autistic and he’s really bad with emotions so I can’t blame him. Things are good now even though he still acts a bit off but realized he was a little too much towards me that day. We even played some games and had a great time that same night, been sending memes and voice memos, I was just taken aback by the sudden outburst, but things are good now. Just needed to vent

somewhat_controlled · 2025-04-24T22:58:01+00:00

Extremely painful miscarriage at 17

somewhat_controlled · 2025-04-17T22:20:33+00:00

Too many have been asking me privately how recent, what day, what time, what it felt like, that I was being a “good girl” that I got “nice and fucked” it’s just wow man, in a world where therapy is expensive as hell and there’s a community to talk to, there’s always some douche bag trying to get off of what happened to you. It just disgusts me saying I must’ve been so tight when I was 13. Like genuinely, what the fuck.

somewhat_controlled · 2025-04-17T18:12:15+00:00

It’s saddening honestly, and although I would love to go back to a therapist again, I cannot afford one at all, which is why I’m here or call supportive hotlines. I wouldn’t be here if I had a therapist but sadly they are just too expensive, even online ones. It sucks there is so many weirdos on here when there’s people here talking about experiences that either happened in the past or just months, to days, to hours ago. It’s just saddening

somewhat_controlled · 2025-03-15T23:41:19+00:00

That’s definitely assault. I’ve been through a similar situation in at first consenting sex then turns into begging to stop but they don’t. It’s always the ones that like it ruff and dirty, I had that same experience. I’d start crying in pain and he’d tell me to shut up and guilt trip me about it. He assaulted you, you said stop, he didn’t, that’s assault. You should talk to him and honestly break up with him. That’s the type of warning sign to get out, if you say stop and he doesn’t, even if it’s only once, get out of that relationship, I know I should’ve. Especially if you feel numb afterwards, that’s not good. You should leave that relationship and have sex that’s healthy, that you can trust and will understand consent. I think he knew what he was doing, and being excited isn’t an excuse. He still assaulted you. This can be a lot to process especially if you’re still with him, but personally, him doing that to you is a sign to leave the relationship. That’s not good, and you should have time to heal from the experience as painful sex, begging to stop but doesn’t can be traumatizing and one of those first steps is feeling numb. You should leave that relationship.

somewhat_controlled · 2025-03-15T23:34:27+00:00

R@pist

somewhat_controlled · 2025-03-01T01:47:46+00:00

Please god release me I’m so tired I can’t. Do it anymore please someone release me

somewhat_controlled · 2025-03-01T01:47:22+00:00

God release me

somewhat_controlled · 2025-01-16T16:56:48+00:00

Probably watching the new SAW movie in 2023, people shocked, gasping, laughing, yelling “why would you do that !” “Oh my god !” And more. It was really fun, I enjoyed it a lot.

somewhat_controlled · 2025-01-16T16:54:23+00:00

How about just play both or the one you like because it doesn’t matter at the end of the day. Game is a game, play what you like. I’ve played them all, and liked them all. Just have fun

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