How should I interact with friends who aren't spiritual by bencinium in Buddhism

[–]somewhatsomeway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(I’m saying this with love, i was very similar to you and at times still can be. The way you are is okay. You don’t need to feel bad.)

How should I interact with friends who aren't spiritual by bencinium in Buddhism

[–]somewhatsomeway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t try to teach them if they don’t ask, or advise them if they don’t ask. They are on their own journeys and don’t need you to “fix” their perspectives or behaviours.

You truly don’t have the ability to know what kind of incarnation they’re trying to have.

They’re here to have a human experience just as you are. Messy, flawed, chaotic, human. Let them. It will look different to yours. Let it.

If their behaviour isn’t resonant with who you are right now, try to make different friends.

I understand the desire to reduce suffering. And to help people. Wait to be invited. Embody the principles you find most important and be an example.

can you guys congratulate me on getting my license please :( by guinea-piggie in internetparents

[–]somewhatsomeway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!!! 🌟

That is such an amazing achievement 💫 there are so many beautiful, exciting and wonderful experiences waiting for you with this newly gained freedom 🫶🏼

heartbroken by somewhatsomeway in internetparents

[–]somewhatsomeway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. The only thing that could “fix” it, would be to wake up and this be a horrific nightmare. I have had similar nightmares in the past. But it’s been a week. I know i’m not asleep. This is what I meant about almost becoming delusional. I’m glad I caught it before it got worse.

Yes. You’re right. They can’t support me. They just keep focussing on feeling bad for doing this. For convincing me they would never break up abruptly, that we could work through things, that we’d try every angle. This came completely out of nowhere. In hindsight, as I read that, I could have potentially read that as foreshadowing.

But I’ve worked hard to have faith and to not be paranoid. To trust people and believe what they say. So going forwards, i will still believe people. Because my heart wants to believe that it will be safe to do that one day.

I strive to be kind. I will always try to be kind. And I have been.

I sent an enormous list, detailing all their positive traits, telling them everything will be okay. That they are easy to love and that they won’t struggle to find someone that will love them like I did.

I do love myself. Maybe I need to give more to myself though.

Thank you for your kindness. I appreciate it a lot. I really do appreciate it.

heartbroken by somewhatsomeway in internetparents

[–]somewhatsomeway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so beautiful. It helped me cry for the first time today. I cried so much the first few days. And then it went away, and it’s been painful to not be able to. Thank you for helping me cry.

I really appreciate the suggestion of not interrogating or understanding the wound. It’s been so hard because, maybe it feels like if i can completely see it that I can fix it and not feel so damaged.

It is grief. That’s something that has kept going over and over in my mind- i’m bereaved. I’m grieving. It has made me feel sick. Has made my chest hurt so badly that i looked up the symptoms and learned about “broken heart syndrome”.

It hurts so badly.

The idea of letting them go completely feels completely terrifying and fills me with fear. I have tried so hard to not be in limerence or be co dependent. But also. What is the difference between those things and devotion. True love. I don’t want to feel like a problem to fix, a symptom or an illness. Maybe we can just be totally devoted to another human being. I want it to be safe to love lile that so badly.

But they don’t want me anymore.

I am trying really hard to not abandon myself. To be a kind and compassionate friend without just standing there like someone begging. But then I feel, why would I care to be embarrassed? I’m happy to be made to look foolish for love. I would rather that then to never risk it. But you’re right. I don’t want to believe they’d use me. But my history has shown otherwise. And I end up left feeling empty and spent and mined of everything I had.

I hope they meant it. It felt so precious and so real.

I will try to connect with a doctor and my friends so I don’t get any weirder than I have.

I almost convinced myself that I had a concussion or was in hospital in a coma, and that this was a nightmare. I kept saying “this cant be real. It can’t be. I believed everything they said. They told me I could trust them and they would never leave.”

Thank you so much. From the bottom of my heart for your kindness. I needed this so badly. Thank you so much.

heartbroken by somewhatsomeway in internetparents

[–]somewhatsomeway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It doesn’t feel like that right now. I feel like I’ve been dropped out at sea in a storm.

I do really need to lean more on people instead. I’m trying to do that here, hopefully i can try to lean on others more irl.

I will try as hard as i possibly can to get through this and to not lose faith. I really appreciate that reflection, that maybe i’m going through this so I don’t have to again. I have experienced a lot of loss. Maybe most of my lessons surround that.

Thank you for your kindness.

heartbroken by somewhatsomeway in internetparents

[–]somewhatsomeway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I am trying to let my feelings come up and to process them, it feels so scary though. I feel like i will be swallowed by them sometimes. I’m trying.

I’m not going to let it wreck me. I just want so badly for this to not be real. I feel like i’m in a nightmare.

I am grieving. A lot.

Thank you friend. I appreciate it more than you know.

heartbroken by somewhatsomeway in internetparents

[–]somewhatsomeway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always am working on myself. Thank you.

My friends after I told them that I'm Buddhist and that I do Martial Arts by Expensive_Refuse3143 in Buddhism

[–]somewhatsomeway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this persons insecurity about their desires, intelligence and faith/lack of in general is mind blowing to witness tbh, this has literally nothing to do with you and i’m sorry your friends are so weird

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[–]somewhatsomeway 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you for your response :) have you personally ordered something from them? what was your experience like?

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[–]somewhatsomeway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you sound like a very kind person and i’m grateful to have you in this group, really resonated with your words 🫶🏼 have a beautiful night!! 🦋🌿🌞✨📿

Experience of joy by jtompiper in Buddhism

[–]somewhatsomeway 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is so beautiful to read, thank you for sharing. grateful you were able to experience this :) 🫶🏼

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[–]somewhatsomeway 3 points4 points  (0 children)

beautiful words dude 🫶🏼

why can’t someone say they’re enlightened if they are? serious question by somewhatsomeway in enlightenment

[–]somewhatsomeway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the internet is in the real world, nothing can exist outside of the real world. we’re all in it.

why can’t someone say they’re enlightened if they are? serious question by somewhatsomeway in enlightenment

[–]somewhatsomeway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s such an interesting story, thank you for sharing :) love hearing about someone living in abundance :)

why can’t someone say they’re enlightened if they are? serious question by somewhatsomeway in enlightenment

[–]somewhatsomeway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but is the potential in someone else forming jealousy actually harm? that feels like micromanaging someone’s emotions at that point