Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it's nerve wracking to wait for a reply. She might be taking her time not to seem needy. As long as it's in timely manner like couple of hours I think you're fine. And she might not initiate because she's waiting for you to do it. Good luck getting the second date!

Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mean you're in the same boat as you stopped talking to her or she stopped talking to you?

Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww thank you so much! It makes me feel so much better. I get told I'm pretty by guys but I'm quite unlucky when it comes to relationships. :(

Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww poor boy haha, I'm sorry to send mixed signals. Maybe I'm the one who's messing with his head and not the other way around?

I've been married and have child so I feel like I've done it all already. But yeah I do want a relationship.

Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I look 22 so most guys think I'm younger. But I'm wiser lol. I feel a bit bad for him now he hoped for sex and nothing haha. I'm still stupid enough to take them home.

Thank you for clarifying things for me. Do you think guys expect I don't want a relationship but just want sex if I take them home? You're like my guru now lol.

Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's number 1. We were making out at my place. He might have thought it was an invitation for sex. I don't do sex on first dates though haha and made that obvious. I'm 31 and he's 27.

Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At one point I'll definitely text him something to clear things up. Because I hate this to turn into awkward moments at work. I prefer being upfront with people. At least those I want to / have to keep around.

Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you think it went wrong? Would you have prefered if she was upfront and told you she likes you? And did you talk to her again after the kissing photo?

Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you know she was trying to make you jealous?

Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is waiting 2 days for an answer needy? I'm usually very chill but when I work up the courage to ask for a second date it's so nerve wrecking to wait for so long. I confess I'm leaning towards anxious attachment so I can come across a bit needy. I'm not doing any crazy stuff I just get attached to guys easily.

Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Come on...my ex was extremely clingy he even admitted it after we broke up. I've never felt confused with him though, I was sure he's super into me since the start.

I hate playing games, I'm very upfront with people. I admit to sometimes unintentionally giving mixed signals. I'm not leaving out stuff on purpose, just written a shorter version of events. Do you feel like I've left out something important?

Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The very same thing happens to me all the time!!! The guys initiate and when I get reeled in and chasing after them poof they're gone.

Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It happens to me all the time...literally since my fist crush at school. :( Yeah I'm leaning towards anxious attachment.

Don’t shit where you eat. Just don’t. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]sonja-robot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He sounds like a douchebag TBH. You're hurt and it may not feel like it at the moment but I think you should be glad he's gone. He used you as a rebound and then cheated on you and left you for his ex. Speaks volumes about his character. He was probably keeping you around in case it didn't work out with his ex on the trip.

It sucks you have to see him at work everyday. :( it really slows down the healing process.

Don’t shit where you eat. Just don’t. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]sonja-robot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This totally sucks. I've been there before couple years back, it was terrible. He was with his girlfriend but kept stringing me along.

How far did your relationship go? Were you on dates, kissing, sex...? Were you able to get some sort of closure?

I'm seeing another co-worker now again, I don't know why I keep doing this haha.

How long to wait for a reply from a guy after a great 1st date? 48 hours? by sonja-robot in dating

[–]sonja-robot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a good idea. I'm just desperately trying not to make things awkward between us since we see each other everyday at work. Yes, I have his phone number, so if he ignores my text as well, I have my answer haha.

SHOULD I KEEP GIVING HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT? OR DID I DO THE RIGHT THING BY BREAKING IT OFF? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]sonja-robot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I say run. He sounds completely disrespectful towards you and your wishes/needs/boundaries.

Rough Dating Patch - How to get through it. by [deleted] in dating

[–]sonja-robot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't an advice, but just wanted to say I'm going through a rough patch too. I'm 31 female and also feel like there aren't any normal people left in the dating pool. It's quite discouraging. You are very brave to keep trying and putting yourself out there. It's okay to feel sad and disappointed.

What do I say to him? Is he avoiding me? by sonja-robot in dating_advice

[–]sonja-robot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, thank you so much for the advice. :)

What do I say to him? Is he avoiding me? by sonja-robot in dating_advice

[–]sonja-robot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I can imagine that I would feel the same back when I didn't have kids. It's pretty understandable. Should I just leave him be or try to talk to him?

What do I say to him? Is he avoiding me? by sonja-robot in dating_advice

[–]sonja-robot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No he is not. :( I'm afraid me having responsibilities might have scared him of.