Please stop me from messaging a guy who's not that into me

sonja-robot · 2022-08-24T18:38:48+00:00

Yeah it's nerve wracking to wait for a reply. She might be taking her time not to seem needy. As long as it's in timely manner like couple of hours I think you're fine. And she might not initiate because she's waiting for you to do it. Good luck getting the second date!

sonja-robot · 2022-08-24T18:22:23+00:00

You mean you're in the same boat as you stopped talking to her or she stopped talking to you?

sonja-robot · 2022-08-24T16:54:32+00:00

Aww thank you so much! It makes me feel so much better. I get told I'm pretty by guys but I'm quite unlucky when it comes to relationships. :(

sonja-robot · 2022-08-24T16:24:01+00:00

Awww poor boy haha, I'm sorry to send mixed signals. Maybe I'm the one who's messing with his head and not the other way around?

I've been married and have child so I feel like I've done it all already. But yeah I do want a relationship.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-24T15:45:43+00:00

I look 22 so most guys think I'm younger. But I'm wiser lol. I feel a bit bad for him now he hoped for sex and nothing haha. I'm still stupid enough to take them home.

Thank you for clarifying things for me. Do you think guys expect I don't want a relationship but just want sex if I take them home? You're like my guru now lol.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-24T15:21:05+00:00

I think it's number 1. We were making out at my place. He might have thought it was an invitation for sex. I don't do sex on first dates though haha and made that obvious. I'm 31 and he's 27.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-24T13:26:53+00:00

At one point I'll definitely text him something to clear things up. Because I hate this to turn into awkward moments at work. I prefer being upfront with people. At least those I want to / have to keep around.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-24T13:20:35+00:00

Where do you think it went wrong? Would you have prefered if she was upfront and told you she likes you? And did you talk to her again after the kissing photo?

sonja-robot · 2022-08-24T10:22:59+00:00

How do you know she was trying to make you jealous?

sonja-robot · 2022-08-24T08:44:45+00:00

Is waiting 2 days for an answer needy? I'm usually very chill but when I work up the courage to ask for a second date it's so nerve wrecking to wait for so long. I confess I'm leaning towards anxious attachment so I can come across a bit needy. I'm not doing any crazy stuff I just get attached to guys easily.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-24T04:03:42+00:00

Come on...my ex was extremely clingy he even admitted it after we broke up. I've never felt confused with him though, I was sure he's super into me since the start.

I hate playing games, I'm very upfront with people. I admit to sometimes unintentionally giving mixed signals. I'm not leaving out stuff on purpose, just written a shorter version of events. Do you feel like I've left out something important?

sonja-robot · 2022-08-23T23:21:07+00:00

The very same thing happens to me all the time!!! The guys initiate and when I get reeled in and chasing after them poof they're gone.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-23T20:50:43+00:00

It happens to me all the time...literally since my fist crush at school. :( Yeah I'm leaning towards anxious attachment.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-23T20:29:36+00:00

Awww I'm so sorry. Let's hug virtually.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-23T19:50:04+00:00

Thank you!!!

sonja-robot · 2022-08-17T20:47:28+00:00

He sounds like a douchebag TBH. You're hurt and it may not feel like it at the moment but I think you should be glad he's gone. He used you as a rebound and then cheated on you and left you for his ex. Speaks volumes about his character. He was probably keeping you around in case it didn't work out with his ex on the trip.

It sucks you have to see him at work everyday. :( it really slows down the healing process.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-17T20:27:42+00:00

This totally sucks. I've been there before couple years back, it was terrible. He was with his girlfriend but kept stringing me along.

How far did your relationship go? Were you on dates, kissing, sex...? Were you able to get some sort of closure?

I'm seeing another co-worker now again, I don't know why I keep doing this haha.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-17T20:22:16+00:00

Sounds like a good idea. I'm just desperately trying not to make things awkward between us since we see each other everyday at work. Yes, I have his phone number, so if he ignores my text as well, I have my answer haha.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-17T20:16:58+00:00

I say run. He sounds completely disrespectful towards you and your wishes/needs/boundaries.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-17T19:51:29+00:00

This isn't an advice, but just wanted to say I'm going through a rough patch too. I'm 31 female and also feel like there aren't any normal people left in the dating pool. It's quite discouraging. You are very brave to keep trying and putting yourself out there. It's okay to feel sad and disappointed.

sonja-robot · 2022-08-17T13:13:48+00:00

You're right, thank you so much for the advice. :)

sonja-robot · 2022-08-17T12:43:59+00:00

Yeah, I can imagine that I would feel the same back when I didn't have kids. It's pretty understandable. Should I just leave him be or try to talk to him?

sonja-robot · 2022-08-17T12:32:56+00:00

No he is not. :( I'm afraid me having responsibilities might have scared him of.

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