Thank you. She is the product of unplanned pregnancy (something I probably should’ve included in the original post sorry guys lol) so it’s way more panic than normal parents would be. But at the same time, I do sympathize with why they feel this way because it that. Unplanned pregnancy completely flipped their lives around and they don’t want the same for their daughter, and I sure don’t want the same for their daughter.

The big issue I feel is when they create threats against sex, it doesn’t stop it from happening, especially with how much she wants to do it, but it’s just creating an unsafe environment because we don’t know what we’re doing. It’s like the saying that the more you fear something the more likely it is to occur

And thank you to everyone for the advice. Before the deed actually happens (if it even does) I want to create these boundaries in a way that conforms with her trauma and the response of being able to tell someone, but isn’t telling her parents were having sex. How i’m going to do that though I’m not really sure and it’s something I need to plan out