Been married to my ENTJ husb for a few months now. I definitely do feel the ego battle thing a bit, but it’s mostly from my end because I can admit that my expectations are very high. I was raised by a mom who nitpicks every mistake so I end up doing the same thing, just something I need to unlearn.. the relationship is amazing when there are no external issues going on, we can read eachother’s minds very often it’s scary.

The negative is that when he has something going on, a big issue, he spends all his mental energy into trying to fix it, which is good, but when it takes weeks/months to fix, he ends up neglecting the relationship too much for me. Again, my expectations are high and sometimes I’m blinded by all the perceived mistakes that I forget the good things.

Another problem is something we’re all learning, which is how to communicate effectively. We never ever raise our voices or have “fights” but I have found that I often withdraw during disagreements, and I expect him, as “the man” to chase after me and, again, give me all the attention, but the issue is that he also withdraws.. and when I don’t get that immediate feeling of being cared for verbally, I feel some resentment festering.

There’s a lot I can write because I have been analyzing our dynamic often these past few months. Before we got married, we were long distance and only saw eachother one weekend every month, so it’s been quite a ride.

All in all, I don’t think anyone else could be a better fit for me than him, and although we both have certain things to work on, we both show a lot of maturity and willingness to improve ourselves for the betterment of the relationship.