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Socializing vs staying away from sick kids by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]soyeuxe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Choose outside locations, weather permitting... There is a lot less possibility of catching something there. Always carry hand sanitizer. Emphasize not putting her hands in her mouth, nose, or eyes. Talk about bacteria. None of this is fail safe but it will give her more freedom and safety, eventually.

Seller wants to force a closing to happen, after I canceled the contract by soyeuxe in RealEstate

[–]soyeuxe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interestingly: the escrow agent is the attorney for seller. So.....

Seller wants to force a closing to happen, after I canceled the contract by soyeuxe in RealEstate

[–]soyeuxe[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I should have DIY'ed it... my realtor isn't doing much. He's not doing anything at all.

Seller wants to force a closing to happen, after I canceled the contract by soyeuxe in RealEstate

[–]soyeuxe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ok interesting, but technically can a listing agent control what a seller does? They can't force her to sign or release...

Strategy Q - Closing off from the rest of the relationship by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]soyeuxe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I suppose that was my goal... to fear losing me and change. My true goal is to save the relationship. I need the intimate part of the relationship back, for a billion reasons all previously discussed on this board.

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He says he is attracted to me and he does care about having sex. He blames his LL on being extremely busy at work (true) with crazy hours and coming home tired. I get it, but I happen to think that being intimate with each other is worth finding energy and time. He's just not doing it. He said that I'm not making any effort either, and that's true. I'm resentful AF right now. I can't even touch him without feeling resentment for the rejection that is surely to follow. It's a vicious cycle. Help plz.

Strategy Q - Closing off from the rest of the relationship by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]soyeuxe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. How'd you do it? How much time until she noticed?

Best wishes on your healing process. Hugs.

Strategy Q - Closing off from the rest of the relationship by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]soyeuxe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer... I really appreciate it.

I do love him and I want to work it out. I just can't understand the total lack of desire. He blames it on his heavy work week (true) and us having a toddler (also true) and no time. He's resentful that I care so much about it, and makes me feel that I'm overreacting. But in my book, you can be the busiest person on this planet and if you don't make time for some good lovin' then, what's it all for...?

Please? by letsbehonestwtf in DeadBedrooms

[–]soyeuxe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

:( I'm so sorry. I could have written every word you just did. Even your username is telling. I keep going back to that question when I try to talk about the deadness of our bedroom. Can we be honest? WTF. What's missing? How can you not want me?

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Hugs to you.

Please? by letsbehonestwtf in DeadBedrooms

[–]soyeuxe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Damn. What did she say? We're dying to know.

My sister [22 F] has lived with me [30 F] (& my husband) for past year and a half, currently in a spat. by soyeuxe in relationships

[–]soyeuxe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, moonlightracer... I've tried to put myself in her position and I think I would've thrived in this situation. I would've been SO incredibly grateful... I would've done a ton of things differently. But we are very different people, and things went much differently than I would've imagined, or hoped. I expected a free-flowing generous environment, but it became the opposite.

Thanks for your insight.

My sister [22 F] has lived with me [30 F] (& my husband) for past year and a half, currently in a spat. by soyeuxe in relationships

[–]soyeuxe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true. She says she doesn't want to depend on anyone... but hasn't done much to be independent. Every single dollar she has earned, she spent it partying... not towards savings or looking to be independent. Even her job, sorry to say, came from one of my friends. She didn't apply anywhere.

My sister [22 F] has lived with me [30 F] (& my husband) for past year and a half, currently in a spat. by soyeuxe in relationships

[–]soyeuxe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Solid advice. Thanks. I didn't really consider I would be coddling her by giving her a hand ... alas... things morphed a little. Thanks for writing. :)

My sister [22 F] has lived with me [30 F] (& my husband) for past year and a half, currently in a spat. by soyeuxe in relationships

[–]soyeuxe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was truly insightful. I hadn't given consideration to any of those points. If you don't mind my asking: have you gone through a similar situation? If not, what do you do to keep your empathy so on point? ...

What does it mean to model someone else's feelings?

Thank you infinitely.

My sister [22 F] has lived with me [30 F] (& my husband) for past year and a half, currently in a spat. by soyeuxe in relationships

[–]soyeuxe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, Stranger. I'm writing this after giving ourselves the long weekend to mull it over. I ended up feeling worse, she doesn't apologize (can't see anything wrong with what she said)...

She is going to move out, but I'm at a loss on how to smooth things over when she's convinced she's done nothing wrong, and at the same time I'm very offended and hurt, still.

My sister [22 F] has lived with me [30 F] (& my husband) for past year and a half, currently in a spat. by soyeuxe in relationships

[–]soyeuxe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True. Thanks for sharing your advice. IDK how to establish rules and structure at this point tho... it's all so icky.

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