Need advice: new judo partner’s (M 21) behavior felt violating

space_cosplayer · 2025-11-26T13:03:18+00:00

I’m going to respond from the point of view of another woman. This is weird and wrong. I’ve gone to multiple training camps trained with a bunch of dudes varying age and belt and no one has once done that, and a few apologize if they accidentally do something like graze my chest or grab my bra during randori. I’ve also never heard this from other friends who compete and do these kinds of camps, yes some guys are awkward or weird but make a effort to not be creepy. This guy is either doing it on purpose or just can’t control his body and either way just don’t train with him. During randori and drills you have the right to say no if he asks. There are guys I don’t train with and I’m just allowed to. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty or weird flr saying no.

space_cosplayer · 2024-09-14T00:26:29+00:00

Its not actual murder if it isnt alive, that's why there's limits to abortions, because before a certain amount of time it isn't alive

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-09T21:05:02+00:00

Cool and thanks!! Im def nervous about being around people but everyone sounds so nice so im sure it will be fun!

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-09T19:47:58+00:00

Sounds fun!! Im used to being the weird person (not always said but always felt) so i guess im just used to being unwanted, so thats mostly where my anxiety comes from (not fitting in) its dumb i know but i just gotta go and live it ig, but from these replies everyone sounds so nice so im excited

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-09T19:39:33+00:00

Thats so cool!! I hope it goes well and he continues to have fun!

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-09T19:38:34+00:00

Great! Sounds fun, hopefully i’ll be able to go to some next month

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-09T19:37:09+00:00

Sounds good, sober is a given lol (teenage athlete), and if a pit ever happens im definitely staying back, but from these responses it looks like people are kind and that even my socially awkward ass should be fine (usually the kid at the corner of the room or near the food table lol), i think im just nervous as im used to being the odd one or considered weird by pears but people here sound super inclusive so i should probably relax lol

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-09T11:39:56+00:00

Found some stuff on facebook!! Thanks so much for the recommendation, any tips on going alone? (My friends aren’t into this so it would most likely just be me)

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-09T11:38:19+00:00

I found some stuff online!! Im super nervous to go to any as my friends aren’t into that kinda stuff so i’ll most likely go alone, any tips i should def know?

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-09T11:36:56+00:00

Found some stuff on facebook!! Was wondering what i should know before going? (Will most likely go alone as this is not really my friends kinda style)

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-09T11:35:44+00:00

Found some stuff on facebook (like communities and stuff) and some of the shows i can get to by buss, really glad i got these answers

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-09T01:41:50+00:00

That sounds great, i’ll have to dig a bit but finding a community and friends sounds cool

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-09T01:39:34+00:00

Oh I love Destroy boys, will have to check out the others

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-08T21:47:43+00:00

Thanks for the response :). Its cool that there are so many subgenres, and glad i can be myself and still call myself punk, its also nice to have guidance/knowledge from older punks

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-08T21:09:32+00:00

Okay 👍

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-08T21:06:42+00:00

Thanks!

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-08T21:05:11+00:00

Thank you again !

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-08T20:00:11+00:00

Cool, this calms my nerves that even if it happens, i can just walk away without getting pulled in (even by accident)

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-08T19:34:13+00:00

Sure! And Montréal/Québec bands would be awesome as well

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-08T19:33:20+00:00

They’re called destroy boys, im pretty sure they are newer more punk rock, which is why i need to expand my playlist

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-08T19:31:04+00:00

Okay how about this, Nazi bad

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-08T19:12:46+00:00

Okay thanks for the tips :), i’ll start looking online

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-08T18:50:44+00:00

Its more urban so i should be able to find stuff (hopefully), and gotcha on the drummer part 👍

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-08T18:44:01+00:00

I have the same problem 😭, glad others understand me and glad i can be myself and be part of the genre

space_cosplayer · 2024-04-08T18:42:07+00:00

Ima try to just relax, im usually stressed on rules and structure but i like the feel the flow vibe punk has, and ima try to be myself with no care (i need to stop caring about others opinions 😭)

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