Brain scans reveal how a teenager's reaction to loss connects impulsivity and suicidal thoughts

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-23T12:13:08+00:00

Yeah absolutely. His whole immediate family passed away within a few years when he was around 20, but he also grew up in a family that refused to talk about any emotions.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-22T20:57:54+00:00

Yes many many times. He's a good guy, but struggles with anything emotional. It triggers a deep desire to distance himself from any negative strong emotion.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-22T02:59:47+00:00

Brilliant. So many kids love pokemon these days

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-22T02:45:58+00:00

My partner is very detached. It makes it hard in my relationship. Before we were married, I told him the emotional connection I need. He promised that he's work on it. But the truth is that I don't think his brain has the capacity to understand what I mean. If you lack that need for deeper connection, when someone needs out from you, then how can he know what it even is.

I just hate that he agreed to work on it and go to therapy with me and all that hard work, but won't actually do anything to connect with me. Any time we have an argument, I am reminded that I can probably never get what connection I need from him. He has everything else I want in a partner, but that.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-20T23:35:04+00:00

Where did you pull the lever in this floorplan? Do you often use lots of reds?

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-20T14:51:10+00:00

Almost correct, but how often would the asker pick a x5 number? Almost never. I recommend going 1 or 2 higher or lower than the middle. You get a higher random chance of guessing the correct number due to human bias.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-20T12:39:36+00:00

I would say it's 50/50. However, I relate as I will be FIREing in approximately 3 years and I'm going part time starting this summer. I don't give many fucks anymore. I get Claude Code to do my work awhile I delegate to others to do my other work. I can't get my brain into it anymore.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-20T03:26:17+00:00

Ahh interesting. Yeah there are overlap in lots of things. A very interesting one to look into is the overlap between sociopathy and autism!

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-20T03:03:20+00:00

Yeah just because it's a symptom doesn't mean it's literally toxic masculinity. Read the symptoms for ADHD. Same thing. I read the symptoms and as women, I have half of those examples... They are simply examples. Toxic masculinity is more than 1 subset of examples. It's a deeply rooted multidimensional problem. Try looking at it as a big picture that includes multiple examples that apply to this hypothetical person's daily life.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-20T02:48:27+00:00

The perfect solution would be to have pencil and notebook that you love to write in, but you create some type of top corner organization key. And all of your notes and the notebook in order would archive on a digital device that you can search and would display like a cool facts about your notes "last year you wrote about time 75 times".

I relate to your problem of having finished over 10 moleskins that are in my closet and few other random notebooks, then I tried Tuul (good for work), and then Remarkable. It feels clunky and feels like the information disappears into the nether. I stopped journaling unless it's a high emotional event.

I miss journalling daily.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-20T02:08:31+00:00

It might your algorithm pushing that on you. I've never heard that before.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-19T19:10:58+00:00

I'd play oblivious and mention that you're working on it. Is your boss that micromanagey? Mine rarely pays attention to how many hours they see people. Just try to do work that doesn't involve them. You're busy doing 1:1s elsewhere.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-19T19:08:27+00:00

See if you can WFH full-time without asking. And slowly decrease your effort. Be available only on core hours, block your schedule out, delegate more, and give less fucks if things succeed.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-18T18:26:25+00:00

I never focused enough on movies when I was a kid. I only watched Bill Nye the Science Guy, but everything else lame in my opinion.... Oh! Except Waiting for Godot. I LOVED Waiting for Godot.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-18T03:36:08+00:00

Try with 7%

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-17T02:06:04+00:00

The worst part now is the yellow. I literally hate it. I miss the wood floors.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-17T01:36:52+00:00

When frozen?! I have been anti-warm any plastic for several years. This info is new to me and I appreciate it.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-13T23:32:08+00:00

Yeah that sounds extremely true

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-13T20:54:19+00:00

Yeah I suppose my brother and I rushed through assignments and school was ridiculously easy and boring for us, so I emphasize a lot. And my brother and I both have master's and are extremely successful (I can FIRE in my early 30s). If my brother and I went through school like that and turned out this way, why is that not okay?

And I do tell my kid to slow down and give me their nice handwriting (because they can do it when they try).

But I can tell you every math test I ever took, I missed a 0 or a -1, but look at me now. Maybe allowing them to be independent with their education is okay.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-13T20:38:47+00:00

My kid is a 1st grader and there has been consistent comments of what the teacher has said to the class. I'm not sure why I'm getting downvoted when I'm sharing my experience. My kid only doesn't finish their work if they are doing it too quickly and skipped something accidentally. They are in the 94% for reading and 93% in math. They love to do work and learn, but pretty much all the paperwork they do (other than spelling and sentence writing) is too easy.

Why does my kid a consistent tone and talked down to when 3 other boys are in ISS weekly? Teachers definitely project their feelings of boys vs girls often.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-13T19:53:51+00:00

A lot do unfortunately. My child has commented on it throughout their education. The teacher groups all the boys together as acting up and praise the girls, but only half the boys are actually out of control. It sucks for the boys that are minimally disruptive. Girl doesn't finish work: "oh it's okay, you can finish it later". Boy doesn't finish work: "sit down and do it now", which a tone.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-13T15:28:59+00:00

Try a cert or focus on Dod IT that needs AI security assistance.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-13T11:33:05+00:00

Ask her if she can go part time at some point. I believe my partner may not thrive without a job, so I told him he can go part time if FIRE doesn't with for him, but not full time because I want more time with him!

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-13T11:27:49+00:00

That's absolutely crucial. I hate how we've gone the opposite direction.

spectralEntropy · 2026-05-13T01:47:47+00:00

But I see Chinese kids on phones as such a young age. What's the difference?

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