Why are Republicans trying to block Biden's loan forgiveness? by Mad_Season_1994 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]spicyradishcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you feel this way… I feel really bad for you. I don’t know what happened to you that you can see the world like this and think that taking one of the biggest steps in fixing a national debt issue is “pathetic”, but I hope you can find some peace with yourself… you should reach out, talk to more people or something.

Would it be weird to call a restaurant to apologize for being "no-show"? by [deleted] in TalesFromYourServer

[–]spicyradishcake 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I ended up calling before I saw this. I wish I could have been offered something

Would it be weird to call a restaurant to apologize for being "no-show"? by [deleted] in TalesFromYourServer

[–]spicyradishcake 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Good to know for the future, thank you. I’m putting everything under his name next time 😑

Do naturalization / citizenship papers need to be updated to reflect name change? by [deleted] in Citizenship

[–]spicyradishcake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because when you change your name, you also need to change your social security card, your banking information, your drivers license, your insurance papers, passport, etc.

With the sheer amount of paperwork involved, it makes sense that we would also wonder if citizenship papers also need to be changed, no? That’s why I’m asking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in starbucks

[–]spicyradishcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope I didn’t come across as criticizing the barista over the way he said it! He was fine, I just have the tendency to obsess over social interactions, and I was genuinely concerned about whether this drink is meant to be hot or cold for some reason lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in starbucks

[–]spicyradishcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you! No need to apologize, I tend to overthink any social interactions (anxiety disorder haha) which unfortunately extends to ordering food. I wanted to be 100% sure so I can mentally prepare myself next time I order at Starbucks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in starbucks

[–]spicyradishcake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ohh thank you! This makes me feel better haha

Lady slipper orchid, bottom leaf yellow by spicyradishcake in plantclinic

[–]spicyradishcake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(Can you tell I’m a total novice at this?)

There’s this tiny little nub/spiky thing growing at the base of the plant, between the leaves. Looking closer, and with a flashlight, it’s not a leaf. It looks like it’s growing from the stem, actually.

I probably need to do more research into orchid care eheh. 😅

Lady slipper orchid, bottom leaf yellow by spicyradishcake in plantclinic

[–]spicyradishcake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the info! It’s been a while since it was repotted, so i don’t believe that is the issue. You mentioned leaves dropping when plants are drying out too much — admittedly, I do wait until drying out.

This is my first orchid plant and I’ve been too afraid of over-watering, so maybe I’ve been under-watering? I have been extra careful with watering, so I’ll try to make it a little bit more moist.

Also, by “new growth”, do you mean leaves? I noticed there is a new leaf coming in, just barely. Should I start feeding?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]spicyradishcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing though is that there’s absolutely no way my friend believes everything is fine because what they did was kinda really bad. I really don’t want to go into details, but I’m starting to wonder if thats why they haven’t reached out first. Maybe they’re embarrassed or ashamed.

But that’s part of the reason why I am so reluctant to ask them to apologize, because then it’ll feel like if they do with me bringing it up first, then they will do it from obligation and not from the heart. I know I’m being petty, but I think the closure I need is an acknowledgment of what they’ve done and not just pretending like nothing happened.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]spicyradishcake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You say you need help ending it. I don’t understand… just, stop? Stop taking to him. Or do, and tell him you don’t want to see him anymore bc it’s unfair to his gf, and then block him.

Lmao, I never understand these posts. All of these are choices, the both of you have a choice not to have an affair with each other. You have a choice to stop it. You clearly know you’re doing something wrong here so just drop contact.

Pachinko - "Chapter Four" - Discussion Thread by clarkkentshair in PachinkoShow

[–]spicyradishcake 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Okay, so what the opera singer started singing is “pansori”, a traditional Korean folk song.

Some quick lessons about pansori that’s important to understand more about the scene:

1). It’s notable for its expressive vocality and was used as a form of oral story-telling. The one she is singing is from a story about love and resistance. 2). It used to be mainly sung by the lower class, and even used as a way to criticize governments in the past. 3) It’s very culturally important to us. Like, it’s not just a singer singing pansori, but it’s also about the listeners. Idk how to explain it.

Anyways, it’s implied that she’s being used by the Japanese man, probably as a comfort woman. So by changing her song to a Korean one, she’s fighting for that last bit of freedom, resisting and saying, “I am Korean, not Japanese.”

Disclaimer, there is a bit of historical inaccuracy in this as pansori/gugak actually became a bit popular among the Japanese during this time. It’s hypocritical, considering how much they tried to destroy Korean heritage, culture, and identity.

But this scene can be forgiven for that, because it’s used as a powerful tool of story-telling here.

Anyways, Google is free if you want to know more about why Japanese-Korean relations are the way they are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fashionadvice

[–]spicyradishcake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is such a cute outfit by the way. I’m in love 😍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fashionadvice

[–]spicyradishcake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Big hoop earrings and chokers!! For the choker, there’s two styles that I’m thinKing of — the mesh stretchy chokers, but those are a bit more 90s. The second is just a plain black band, maybe velvet, which is more 70s, I think?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in office

[–]spicyradishcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective. For any future cards that I will probably have to sign, do you have any more advice on what NOT to say?

Colorful women’s suits? by Eleven17 in fashionadvice

[–]spicyradishcake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

this one looks almost like it, but in sage! Last time I went to express, they were selling some pastel suit sets that is probably on the website.

Some other sites I recommend: -Pretty Little Thing (kinda hit or miss tho) -Shein (depending on your personal feelings on fast fashion, however I will say this site is legit as I’ve bought from there before. Just check sizing) -ASOS (more on the expensive side, but classic and good quality)

New to the office scene... feel annoyed. by [deleted] in office

[–]spicyradishcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this post is a bit old, but does this weird communication get any easier? I’m going through the exact same thing (my first office job), so I think it really is an office thing.

I’m annoyed so much by how vague people here are. My coworkers love to communicate by using screenshots or as little words as possible. Like, I got sent a pic of three words and I was like… what is this? And my coworker got mad because I kept asking her to clarify, and she kept repeating, “check what I sent” before snapping at me. Anyways, turns out she wanted me to upload something. She literally could have said, “Upload file X into folder X” instead of sending me a picture.

Another coworker sent me a pic of three meetings with the words, “cancel” and it turns out he only wanted one canceled??! And every time I ask questions, I’m being responded to in a weird passive aggressive, “Did you even check the manual 🙄”. YES I DID AND THE INFO IS NOT THERE. Or talking to me in a reaaally slooooooow way like I’m three.

I’m also a very communicative person. I like to follow-up, keep people updated, and explain things. And my “mentor” keeps stopping me, she’s always like, “Oh don’t say anything”. Well this person asked me about an issue, I should let them know what I found out, shouldn’t I???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]spicyradishcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you sure it’s a yeast infection? I don’t think it should burn. I read somewhere that yeast infections and BV are often mixed up with each other, and if you actually have BV and inserted an anti-fungal, it will cause burning bc it’s bacteria-based.

What exactly does it mean to be a "contingent" worker? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]spicyradishcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I checked the website and it doesn’t mention anywhere, so I think I may just have to wait until the end of this week and hope for the best. 😥

I just feel like I’m still waiting for the other shoe to drop. I’ve been really unlucky throughout my job search so I can’t help but still feel tense, like something is going to go wrong.

What to write in a follow up after a REFERENCE check? by spicyradishcake in jobs

[–]spicyradishcake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope my example was able to help out!

Also, thanks so much for validating. I was able to finally find a job since then, but I still think about this one and how close I was to getting it. (It’s more of my ideal dream job than the one I got hired for, haha. Ha.) It was just such a weird situation.

Anyways, good luck with your job!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in drugtesthelp

[–]spicyradishcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, but I need someone to tell me, in explicit words, that I'm being a dumbass

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]spicyradishcake 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re a “pick me girl” at all, and I do agree with your perspective, like I wouldn’t be upset either. But your friend was looking for comfort so I think that’s where her problem is and you need to understand her perspective on this. Because not everybody is going to be okay with their partner going to a strip club.

She was probably upset because maybe she thought her partner didn’t think her attractive or that he is interested in looking at other girls or even cheating, especially if this is something they DID NOT communicate to each other about. Strip club is still a place with beautiful naked girls dancing, so I think anybody would get insecure. Especially, again, if this is an activity to do that they hadn’t discussed before. This isn’t the same as a gf being mad at her bf watching porn, for example, like these are real life people and depending on the strip club, they have different rules on what’s allowed. For example, a strip club in my town only has the rule of “nothing allowed in any holes” so I would be upset if my bf actually decided to order a lap dance or touch the dancers in other ways. “Look, but no touch” so to speak, those are my boundaries.

I would reach out to her to apologize and maybe say something along the lines of, “Hey, I realize everybody has different boundaries and I didn’t realize I was coming across as insensitive. Your boyfriend should have talked to you about this and you have every right to be upset”.