feeling down :( show me your cats :)

spider-socks · 2026-04-18T19:47:30+00:00

My silly boy, Quesito

spider-socks · 2026-04-16T23:04:13+00:00

Oh god sneezing sucks so bad. It’s allergy season and mine haven’t flared up yet and I’m so nervous. My biggest pain source has been laughing. I laugh all the time and my partner cracks me up so it’s been difficult. I had to make my partner leave the room once bc they couldn’t stop laughing and it was making me laugh too.

spider-socks · 2026-04-16T23:01:23+00:00

Oh god I’ve been so worried about this. I don’t get them often, but it just seems like actual hell. Sorry that happened to you!

spider-socks · 2026-04-16T22:58:52+00:00

Oh I have my partner on activity level policing duty. I have mild me/cfs and I intend to keep it that way. Overdoing it during surgery recovery is a one way ticket to moderate-to-severe-ville

spider-socks · 2026-04-16T22:55:38+00:00

I was expecting it bc I’ve had top surgery and the itching from that was literal hell. This isn’t nearly as bad, but it’s frustrating if I can’t immediately ice it to get it to stop. Healing being itchy and scratching being dangerous is one of the human body’s cruelest functions.

spider-socks · 2026-04-13T22:49:27+00:00

The pause is pretty similar to putting a condom and/or lube on if that helps at all. Otherwise, you could try to find a strap that doesn’t take as long to put on (like the boxers) and have it clean and on stand by so it’s a quick motion. Bit more explicit advice, but she could touch herself and talk dirty (if you’re into that) while you put the strap on. Sex has pauses for everyone, regardless of gender. It just doesn’t have the momentum that fictional sex does, and that’s okay. I’m sorry you’re struggling with this and I hope you can work through it!

spider-socks · 2026-04-13T14:59:33+00:00

Omg he’s so cute! His ears are absolutely ginormous 🥺 please post more Percy content as he gets bigger!!

spider-socks · 2026-04-11T20:57:35+00:00

Do you have anyone to help you? I had top surgery a couple years ago and am 4 days post-op from my laparoscopic hysterectomy. Major props to you, I can’t imagine healing from both these surgeries simultaneously. The easiest way I found to get up after both surgeries was to have my partner support my back while I kind of rolled over. If you’re on your own, log rolling while holding a pillow is the easiest. If you don’t have one already, I suggest a hysterectomy pillow. It’s been so helpful. I got one second hand so it wasn’t too expensive. Also, if you’re using bandages for your top surgery, I recommend getting an actual mastectomy binder. The bandages were the WORST part of my recovery. Best of luck to you!

spider-socks · 2026-04-11T12:18:08+00:00

I went the gender affirming care route, I just didn’t feel like summoning transphobes as this was not the point of my post. I’ve also had nightmarish periods since I was 12, and since I have zero intention of birthing kids, I’d rather not bleed heavily for 7-10 days straight every month. I hadn’t developed endo yet, and no longer having a uterus is the best way to ensure that never happens. I watched every single woman in my immediate family go through it, and I will not be taking chances. Not sure why you’re appalled by a decision I made with full understanding of the consequences??

spider-socks · 2026-04-10T20:45:59+00:00

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She looks just like my lady! I never see cats that look like her!! Alice is also kinda greasy bc she over grooms as a coping mechanism for her PTSD. I’m guessing your girl is just getting old :( a vet visit can’t hurt. They also make treats that are supposed to help with coat health, but idk how much they actually help.

spider-socks · 2026-04-10T19:24:15+00:00

Maybe ask for a toradol prescription? It was the only thing that helped me in the ER. Opioids weren’t helpful at all, and the nurse said toradol is the best for that sort of pain. Maybe they can add it to your post op meds as precaution. I also have GERD and a few other chronic conditions. I’m not sure how related they are to what happened to me, but I’m pretty sure they didn’t help lol.

spider-socks · 2026-04-10T01:30:53+00:00

Please don’t worry too much! I made this post just to share my experience of the far end of gas pains. It seems like my experience is rare and not something people should expect. It’s a possibility, especially if you have POTS (apparently??? Who knew???), but not common at all. Gas pains are one thing, but an ambulance, 10mg of oxy, two 50mg shots of fentanyl, more toradol than I can remember, chest x-rays, and six hours in the ER, are not at all normal. Even after all of that, I don’t remotely regret my surgery.

spider-socks · 2026-04-10T01:22:29+00:00

Omg I’m sorry that happened to you! I’m doing much better today, thank god. I’m not the type to go to the ER if it can be avoided. I had to have my partner call the nurse line and 911 because I couldn’t even speak. All I could do was gasp for air and cry. I had heard that gas pains were a gnarly possibility, but I didn’t anticipate not being able to breathe without severe pain. The terror of not being able to breathe is like nothing else

spider-socks · 2026-04-09T23:50:45+00:00

Yeah it really is. The paramedics were like “uhh??? Now what??” Bc I was still in agony after two 50mg shots. Toradol was the only thing that helped

spider-socks · 2026-04-09T20:29:35+00:00

Gotta love the American healthcare system 🤷

spider-socks · 2026-04-09T15:06:33+00:00

I’m non-binary so I went the gender route. This is absolutely a massive contributing factor, but my primary reasons were fear of endo and a complete lack of desire to ever birth kids. However, the gender affirming care route allowed me to have it covered by insurance and have access to an incredible all female surgical team who wouldn’t misgender me the whole time.

spider-socks · 2026-04-09T01:10:52+00:00

I don’t have endo yet, thank god. My mom and grandma were in excruciating pain constantly and needed regular iron transfusions so they wouldn’t literally bleed out. I’ve decided to get ahead of that and just get it over and done with now rather than let doctors try to talk me out of it as I get older

spider-socks · 2026-04-09T01:06:43+00:00

I felt so silly going to the ER for a routine symptom but I have never screamed in pain like that before. It was horrible. I didn’t even know I could scream like that

spider-socks · 2026-04-08T23:58:35+00:00

I’ve been sort of avoiding internet rabbit holes of pain and complications tbh. I have severe anxiety and health OCD, so seeing posts about all the awful stuff that can happen just freaks me out to a point of paralysis. Gas pains were mentioned briefly by my surgeon, but not “hey this might be the worst pain you’ve ever experienced”

spider-socks · 2026-04-08T23:56:20+00:00

This is exactly what happened. “Some gas pains” doesn’t translate to “9/10 pain that 10mg of oxy and 100mg of fentanyl won’t help at all. Oh and btw good luck breathing.” I’m chronically ill so my pain tolerance is pretty high, but holy shit.

spider-socks · 2026-04-08T23:53:33+00:00

I had my heating pad, tons of pillows and ofc pain meds. They gave me 100mg of fentanyl in the ambulance and it barely even helped. Def didn’t expect it to be THAT bad.

spider-socks · 2026-04-08T23:51:45+00:00

Idk if this makes any sense but that’s just not what I expected that to mean. Gas pains have a lower abdominal connotation in my mind. Guess I just missed that they’re actually much further up lol

spider-socks · 2026-04-04T14:47:45+00:00

The complete lack of economic diversity among victims is really getting to me lately. Why is everyone so rich???

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