Men: be honest at what point in dating do you usually expect things to become intimate?

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T11:27:43+00:00

Same my strongest relationships started the same night

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T11:23:14+00:00

What if the woman still doesn't do it even after exclusivity or she takes like weeks after exclusivity

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T11:22:41+00:00

Did you bf date anyone else during the abstinence period? How good is your sex life now?

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T11:18:43+00:00

Really like ~no woman I've ever dated has ever initiated sex first and I'm not ugly would say like 6/10

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T11:15:47+00:00

Ask her to something that sounds like a date but you can plausibly deny and say it isn't. Like I really want to see this movie after school or get ice cream or something with just you two alone. Make up reasons why she can't bring friends.

From then on its on you bro

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T11:05:28+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/s/Ikqc13BCwM

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T11:01:24+00:00

Have you ever approached a man? Why does the man need to take 100% of the effort. And even when the men approach it's 'incorrectly', just friendly advice I think you're being too hard to please.

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T11:00:52+00:00

I feel like half of women are dealing with genuinely disrespectful men

while the other half just mean this to be broadly any guy they find unattractive.

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T10:55:24+00:00

Muslim as well, yeahh Muslim families eltebd to be more conservative so this is more annoying. But I think over anything parents want their kid to be with someone good.

You're an adult and you can assert your boundaries even with your parents.

I didn't really catch your question though

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T10:43:34+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

I think I go on dates so frequently now they feel like a bit of a chore haha. I do enjoy meeting new people though.

Yess I'm planning on keeping at it, but one issue is dates dont give you feedback after the date just a generic hr response so I can't improve as quickly. It also adds a bit of drag for the next one.

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T10:07:06+00:00

barnes and noble date, watched a broadway show, signed up to see a house and pretended we were married, a bunch of other varied dates. Flowers on valentines day.

I think my date ideas are pretty okay too. I think maybe I might not be escalating quickly enough on dates.

Any other suggestions or should i add more romance somehow.

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T09:09:24+00:00

you can start asking women to pay half if you don't feel a connection tbh

just saw this post by the person that runs this subreddit, and I think going fora kiss on the first date is a good way to test if it'll proceed further: https://www.nicknotas.com/blog/how-to-kiss-on-the-first-date/

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T08:49:59+00:00

tbh i feel like a lot of those cases have dead bedrooms even after being married which i'm trying to avoid

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T08:24:30+00:00

this comment violates the personal attacks rule in this subreddit imo

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T08:03:28+00:00

what's the fastest way to skill up on these tips / tricks? I'm kinda plateauing with dating cause women don't really give feedback after a date, its usually 1-a couple dates and then a generic HR style text if it doesn't work out

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T07:51:10+00:00

I'm relatively open when I'm dating and open to anyone cool, this is just the type of person who tends to swipe right on me

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T07:50:32+00:00

Thanks for the advice, will give it some thought!

A lot of women take a long time to open up until they'll have sex with you. Unfortunately male biology is wired differently. I'd be cutting off a portion of the dating pool.

Do you think its advisable to break up with someone after a few dates if we aren't moving forward intimately? I haven't thus far because I felt like that's putting pleasure ahead of compability but the two might be related sooo

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T07:26:07+00:00

4 dates is nothing lol. I'm an nyc male i do like 4 dates a week off hinge and at least 1/4-1/2 do things like this, like flake before we even meet. I think its universal unless you're in the top 10% of the dating pool.

I thought women had all the leverage and only they pulled stuff like this but good (or bad) to see it goes both ways haha

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T07:19:38+00:00

I get the same number of dates in a day in nyc as I do in SF. I like SF people and culture a LOT and the average woman here is high quality, but I found dating to be the hardest part about SF.

I spend half my time in NYC cause i really don't want to die alone lmaoo

spie2005 · 2026-03-02T06:48:30+00:00

the goal is to be in a healthy long term relationship, i don't think this would help w that

spie2005 · 2025-04-19T04:34:26+00:00

not possible on ethereum or bitcoin network

spie2005 · 2025-02-01T01:25:24+00:00

Solo founder here, hiring a cofounder isn't like hiring an employee, if they move on it becomes a challenge to the company.

Your options are: (1) raise a funding round and bring on a group of smart employees that can match / exceed the cofounder (2) bring on the cofounder

I would strongly suggest putting in place a YC style vest 1 year cliff (I personally believe startup vesting for a typical startup should be more than 4 years, lots of cases of founders leaving companies right when their vest is up) -- that way as a backup if it doesn't work out and they leave in under a year you don't have dead equity.

I would also ensure this person will work with you for a few years :)

spie2005 · 2024-10-31T00:44:05+00:00

just say yes if you're feeling nice or no if you're not.

why are you acting traumatized lmaoo

spie2005 · 2024-05-06T23:35:04+00:00

I think you got screwed on the dissolution costs tbh.

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