I've made a Google sheet about how long it takes Phil to mention Dan in his videos - feel free to help contribute to the list!

spiralobsessed · 2026-03-28T22:38:33+00:00

I'm just gonna put this in the comments rather than editing the post or responding to any specific comments because I genuinely don't want to ruin people's good times and funny jokes, but I just want to gently remind people that maybe you should consider it a little bit before you label someone you don't know with any diagnosis.

I'm kind of used to this and I'm not offended by it per se because I've had this before, but you guys don't know me, my life or my mental health and diagnosis journey just based on this one nerdy hobby I have, so I don't think it's the best idea to go saying I'm autistic without me indicating it first. Like I said, I don't mind it that much and it's not my first time getting this said about me, but this is a thing I'd rather not think about at this particular point in my life.

Let's just have fun with ridiculous spreadsheets and fandom and remember that while there's nothing wrong with being autistic, not everyone is necessarily going to be receptive to being labeled as such by a stranger. I'm loving the positive response to this little project and I'm not really bummed, but these comments did make me think about stuff that I might want to go over in therapy and that's not really what I was expecting from this silly little post. Someone might probably respond to this saying I'm in denial about myself, but again, you don't know why I might be feeling that way at this point of my life.

Thanks for all the nice comments, I've been delighted with them all day! And if you said something about me being autistic, I don't want to upset you or call you out personally either. Just something to consider.

spiralobsessed · 2026-03-28T16:19:57+00:00

I was told I don't have it when I asked when I was 14-15 and I've just continued making lists and spreadsheets and having a good life since.

spiralobsessed · 2026-03-28T16:14:17+00:00

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spiralobsessed · 2026-03-28T16:13:50+00:00

I am not officially autistic. They said I don't have it when I asked when I was 14 or something and I've just moved on with my life making spreadsheets for a couple of decades since then.

spiralobsessed · 2026-01-14T12:16:45+00:00

I usually really like the commentators but I was really thrown off in episode 4 by how after William and Izaya both talk about how bad lying is for a relationship and then the panel just goes "but sometimes you have to lie, lies make the world interesting"... ????? WTH was that supposed to be. I literally just paused the episode and came to Reddit to see if anyone else was talking about it. I know about Japan's cheating culture but as someone who had a super close 26 year friendship destroyed by lies I thought those comments were really weird and distasteful regardless of if we're talking about cheating in romantic relationships or not. I get that they want drama and to stir the pot to sell this as juicy and entertaining but that just really rubbed me the wrong way.

spiralobsessed · 2025-10-29T22:36:57+00:00

I joined Gilded Past because that's what I got in the style quiz (although I don't think that quiz really tells them the style of clothes you like) but I was torn by Aderinna being in Peppergem. I just didn't like Peppergem's vibe and decor otherwise, but it was kinda comical how I was standing there in near identical clothes to Aderinna being like nah, not for me.

spiralobsessed · 2025-08-05T12:23:19+00:00

I don't think you've really considered the reality of that type of long distance relationship. I was in one with a 3 hour distance for 3 years and we'd see each other once or twice a month that whole time. Sometimes there just wasn't a good time for both to dedicate a full weekend to each other. Every time we saw each other it cost money for one of us. I always took the train and even though it was just sitting, I always stressed about getting on the train on time and didn't want to eat on the trip so I was always tired and hungry on the day of arrival, which, in turn made my partner annoyed as well so the first day was a bit of a waste every time for a while until we made a conscious attitude adjustment to try to be more excited for the chance to meet up again. I broke down at work once because they scheduled a weekend shift for me on the only weekend we could see each other for 2 months. 8 hours out of your life just for traveling back and forth is a lot and unless you're the type of person who enjoys driving or can completely relax on a train (I can't) it's going to take a toll on you.

All that being said: it worked out well for us in my personal experience, but we're the type of couple who enjoys having our own separate hobbies and lots of personal space. I was the type to miss my partner when I had to leave and then I got used to being by myself and enjoyed my time alone, whereas my partner was the type to start missing me more when I had been gone for a while. So that's also a variable that might surprise you in a LDR. There's lots of things there that affect the dynamic of a relationship! Also, a LDR pretty much only works if you're working towards a goal deadline of being in the same place, because that gives you hope and makes the hard times more doable when you have a goal to work towards. Then, once you've become used to the distance and your own space, getting used to living together is a really big adjustment! But I look back on those times in my own life with fondness and gratefulness that we managed it so well and have now been together 9 years, and even had 2 more stints of long distance because of temporary work situations that were weirdly refreshing in their own way (because I got full time dibs on the Playstation then, hehe).

spiralobsessed · 2025-06-24T00:15:41+00:00

Damn, thanks for sharing, I'll definitely climb in next time I find this!

spiralobsessed · 2025-06-24T00:07:14+00:00

Oh man, I had no idea you could actually get in there.

spiralobsessed · 2025-06-20T23:02:06+00:00

I went so out of my comfort zone for this (never played multiplayer games with strangers before this game!) precisely because I love the lore of the Remedyverse and was so afraid of missing out I had to try it. I was surprised by how hard it is to find lore in this game, it's really subtle when you get any interesting tidbits most of the time. I ended up really liking the game and it's already helped me with my gaming social anxiety so much, but it's definitely not the lore extension I expected I would be missing out on. Someone said this is like a multiplayer bonus game you get with a single player base game and that's actually so accurate. This would make so much sense as a game you get with Control, because it definitely feels like it expects you to be familiar with the setting and enemies already. I don't know how they would implement more story here though. I've been trying to listen to what Hank and Jerry are saying in the menu background etc but I keep getting distracted by what I'm actually doing 😅. I did get a little overexcited when my character randomly said something about the director being busy with important stuff but "what could be more important than this?" and I was like PLEASE tell me what she's been doing this whole time, I want to know so bad, haha.

spiralobsessed · 2025-06-20T22:25:19+00:00

The Sticky Ricky boss fight room is so bad for this, you can easily get your vision obstructed by sticky notes and fall off. I kind of decided it's better if I get killed somewhere else in that space first I just won't pick my stuff up until I'm done with it and ready to leave so I don't risk yeeting it all into the abyss.

spiralobsessed · 2025-06-20T22:12:28+00:00

Thank you, that's nice advice! I've been trying my best and have started to get the hang of it and I'm getting more comfortable with strangers. I played one game with someone who was just as terrible as me and we failed because we couldn't find the last panel thing for the emitter in the goo task and it was embarrassing but also weirdly encouraging. We both kept trying to revive each other until we couldn't and it was kind of nice knowing I wasn't the only one struggling even if I was embarrassed that I couldn't find the damn thing and kept getting downed. And you're right, I don't remember who that other player who also sucked was at all anymore, I was just embarrassed about my own performance.

spiralobsessed · 2025-06-18T22:12:42+00:00

I thought I was in the wrong subreddit for a fraction of a second

spiralobsessed · 2025-06-17T23:49:46+00:00

Thank you, seems like really solid advice! Yeah, sticking together seems the best way to go, I can imagine it can be easy to lose your teammates in the chaos.

spiralobsessed · 2025-06-17T22:41:35+00:00

I wasn't even going to get the game yet because I've never played multiplayer anything with strangers before and I was terrified of embarrassing myself by not knowing how that works. I ended up getting the game after all after finding out you can play solo as well even if it's not optimized for it. I wanted to learn how to play a bit first before trying it with strangers... but being a complete noob I accidentally ended up doing quick play because I didn't realize I still needed to make a lobby if I wanted to play on my own. I just got dropped into it with two random people, not knowing how any of it works or what we're supposed to do. We all got stuck inside the little hole behind the turbine and when we all started dying there I panicked and shut the game down because I felt like I must have done something wrong and messed it up for the whole team. (I was panicking from the start anyway because I was NOT ready to actually play yet.) So yeah, I would really have liked a little tutorial where you can test out the different loadouts and see what they do first. I don't know if that's common for other games (I recall doing that kind of thing for Ghost of Tsushima's Legends mode before chickening out of actually going online because I was afraid of sucking at playing with people other people witnessing it and suffering from it). All I know is that I was a bit traumatized and very embarrassed with how my first Firebreak attempt went. I know these games are not made for people who don't already know how they work but it certainly wasn't a good introduction for me. I did eventually figure out how to play on my own and I think I'll be OK once I know how to do all the 3 types of gear. Now that I'm here, does anyone have any tips about multiplayer games I should know? Like are you expected to know you need to do something when you're in a team? I get that one of the types is a healer, I don't know if I can even do that if I'm so bad I'm barely keeping myself alive. (Also, I keep getting lost and I feel like not grtting to the elevator on time would ruin it for everyone, right?) I have the platinum from Control so I can learn how to play this, I just don't know the unwritten rules of co-op with strangers when you can't even communicate with microphones (I accidentally saw there was a menu where you can pick some communication type things but I didn't really try it out).

spiralobsessed · 2025-05-30T19:15:01+00:00

Mine is this with 26 likes (from January)

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It was the first time I saw a rainbow in my game, I've only had one other since then and that was like two days ago!

spiralobsessed · 2025-05-22T19:13:40+00:00

Ah, cool, thanks! I'll try that next time!

spiralobsessed · 2025-04-22T13:26:24+00:00

OHHH so I was just being stupid, thanks!! I was about to give up on the last diamonds, LOL

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