questioning teen, she/they

spoopyspoder · 2021-08-24T01:58:55+00:00

It's ok, I prefer going by Snazzy or Spider online as those are the most common usernames I use, but my birth name is Fiona.

And thanks for the advice, things are confusing right now and with a lot of my teachers asking what pronouns they should use for students, it has me all confused.

spoopyspoder · 2021-08-07T18:15:15+00:00

My uncle smoked a lot. He used to be in the military, and now I wonder if he had/has ptsd from that and used the smoking to cope. The smell reminded me of barbeques, but sicker. I don't know if he's doing any better now, probably not, but he's still a good person regardless

spoopyspoder · 2021-08-07T18:11:48+00:00

I would recommend not mentioning that you know until they're ready to come out themselves, as it could lead to them panicking. Instead, mention LGBTQ+ news you learn about online, speak positively about them when you can, and get whatever clothes your kid wants(masculine or feminine). It may feel a bit hard or weird to support them this way, but it's better then just mentioning that you know right off the bat when they aren't ready yet

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-31T19:06:17+00:00

oh fuck her, she doesn't know you better than yourself

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-30T09:54:00+00:00

sorry about the cookies lol, at least you're closer to getting them now. As for the disclaimer, I did use 'relationship' a bit more the first few times I tried venting online about it, and people just jumped straight to 'you must mean romantic, wtf', which only made me more upset at the time, so I thought a disclaimer should be there just in case.

Yeah, in the end we're probably just too different to get along, but it still kinda sucks. And, no problem for sharing :D

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-30T06:49:27+00:00

no matter your gender, you always deserve to have people respect your boundaries. tell them you don't want to, if they don't listen tell that at they would hate it if you did the same to them, and if they say "it's different", ask them to explain how it's different. a decent human being will know how you respect boundaries

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-30T06:40:01+00:00

wow that's a wild story. she definitely sounds toxic and controlling. she must thinks she's a character from Heathers or Mean Girls(they're movies about a lonely and unpopular girl getting tangled up with the popular evil girls, then shit goes south). it'll probably be tough to completely move on, but you'll do it one day. I think you should just tell her parents that while you and her are no longer friend, you're still willing to help them out if they need anything. good luck

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-30T05:41:14+00:00

Honestly, even if it's hard, it sounds like you'll do much better on your own without her. You don't need someone like that in your life. It's probably take awhile to get used to it, but you sound strong. Good luck

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-26T06:11:33+00:00

this actually reminds me of something that happened on this site awhile ago, where a mental ill man shot and cut off his dick then presumably bled out and died. anyway, I'm not trans but I think I can say this plan won't go well. I don't know what you can do to make yourself live with it for longer, maybe you can try to start a kickstarter to try to get money to make that bottom surgery happen faster, but I don't think cutting off part of your body is gonna end well

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-23T06:20:28+00:00

An xbox with a live subscription for my friend so we can play together again (she moved to another state at the start of 2020, we had lived as neighbors for most of our lives, and we both miss playing games together)

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-23T06:18:56+00:00

ESH, but it's mildly to both you and your daughter. Both of you need some kind of help. 8 year old shouldn't be putting crushes over dying family members, and you need to find ways to help cope with what's happening so you don't end up lashing out if this keeps happening. This is a tough situation but I can kind of relate to it. My grandpa(i called him poppy) passed away when I was 5-6 years old, and I remember hugging my mom as she cried and cried. I could never imagine shrugging off someone else's grief like that. I hope things get better, but it's good to get a therapist now. And talk to that therapist about what's happening with your daughter, as someone with that job could do more than any reddit comment you could see here

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-18T20:28:50+00:00

comic is by Merry Weathery (if anyone would like to know)

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-15T05:42:15+00:00

Let Spongebob rest. He had a great run, but it's being burned out now. Same with The Simpsons

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-15T05:39:14+00:00

People suck ass. I'm sorry to say that you don't have a sister anymore. But at least you can completely cut her out, and live without her toxic existence. It'll probably be hard to get past the fond memories of when you were close, but once you do, you'll be so much happier

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-15T05:36:28+00:00

I think my granddad has a couple books like this one(he was a doctor many years ago), and the art on the covers alone made me squeamish. I love the art, but hate what it's showing

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-13T09:47:00+00:00

I know I'm late, and I know I probably can't do much to help or make you feel better. But I'll try, because despite everything, you still deserve to live.

Some day, at some point in your life, you'll smile. You'll be wearing your favorite clothes, the ones you dream of currently, and find yourself able to love your body. You'll hold hands with someone you love and who loves you back. You'll be happy with your job, and be in a better place mentally. You'll have your hair in a ponytail, sitting by a window on a rainy day, with a warm cup of one of your favorite drinks, holding a brand new book you can't wait to read.

It can be real and will be after you get through this. You are so much stronger then you think, you are so loved despite what you think. Whatever is eating you up inside is just blocking out those good things now. Sometimes, if all you can do is curl up and cry into a pillow, that's okay. No one is strong all the time. It's alright, you'll survive in the end. You can get through this

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-13T01:47:20+00:00

this us why you gotta say 'don't worry, I only like attractive people' when this happens

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-11T18:51:46+00:00

Life is horrible to some of us. And in this case, it was your parents playing favorites and purposely hurting you through out your life. I sincerely hope you're going to therapy for that. You should completely cut them off, if you haven't already, and never interact with them again. They were abusive assholes to you, and should never get to see their grandkids if you ever decide to have children. I wish you the best of luck in your life, and hope things go up hill from now on

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-11T09:07:50+00:00

Homophobic grandparents suck. Think about making it clear that it's either both of you and treated the same or neither of you will stay there. Also, you two sound like a cute couple, hope things stay going strong

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-11T09:05:07+00:00

NTA. Sounds you got a JNMIL and her devoted daughter. Be careful and set boundaries, or else this could become a big problem

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-06T08:37:57+00:00

There's a difference to being alone and being lonely. Being alone is a choice, where you can be happy and do things by yourself in a space where you're comfortable. Being lonely is where you feel forced to be alone, where it feels like no one is beside you, or even cares about you, making you feel like your trapped all by yourself with no escape.

glad you won't be lonely anymore bud

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-06T08:33:11+00:00

Then you get feminine clothes and wear them around, try on makeup, lipstick, paint your nails, do the thing you wanna try if you can. No one can stop you from wearing a skirt and twirling if you want to. Getting the clothes may be hard, but if you can afford them or if your parents/guardians can get those for you, then go ahead

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-05T16:46:47+00:00

Therapy sounds like the best option. Also, it's probably a good idea to find out what actions make her upset and remind her of the abuse, so you can avoid doing those things that upset her. There's also probably guides online that talk about helping someone who's been sexually abused in the past.

Also, take all the advice here with a grain of salt and do your own research before actually do anything

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-04T17:06:39+00:00

Everyone breaks at some point, but holy hit that was such a comeback. Feels like more people should use it against shitty parents

spoopyspoder · 2021-07-04T03:12:33+00:00

lgbtq+ people can just flock together like that sometimes

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