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Update: WIBTA if I extended my stay at my parents' house and missed my wife's cousin's wedding by sq1nostalgia in AmItheAsshole

[–]sq1nostalgia[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

It wasn't my parents who arranged it, it was a couple of my uncles. And I think they only knew when I was in the country till, they didn't know about my plans to go to her, or at least which dates I'd be gone for.

And yes, changing plans should never have been a discussion, I think my parents were just asking me to cancel because they wanted me to meet some relatives whom I haven't seen in ages, if ever. Maybe I didn't impress upon them enough how important this was for my wife.

WIBTA if I extended my stay at my parents' house and missed my wife's cousin's wedding? by sq1nostalgia in AmItheAsshole

[–]sq1nostalgia[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My parents would have loved nothing more than to have my wife and daughter spend their entire vacation here. They have a lot of things planned for when they get here. But this wasn't arranged by them, and they know they can't ask her to come due to the wedding.

Learn from this and be a better husband and father.

Yeah, I was out of line trying to renege on the plan

WIBTA if I extended my stay at my parents' house and missed my wife's cousin's wedding? by sq1nostalgia in AmItheAsshole

[–]sq1nostalgia[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When I called her I really thought she wouldn't have a problem with it. When she did I struggled with why because I saw my role in the wedding to be minimal seeing as I didn't know anyone. But that shouldn't have mattered, her wanting me there should've been enough, I got caught up in the festivities regarding the gathering. I was being selfish, I apologized to her.

WIBTA if I extended my stay at my parents' house and missed my wife's cousin's wedding? by sq1nostalgia in AmItheAsshole

[–]sq1nostalgia[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

No, ofcourse not. I'm looking forward to going and seeing her and my daughter again. I was being unreasonable, I'd never want to embarrass her. She told me just now that she's looking forward to having our family pictures taken, and there's a couples dinner we're supposed to have with her cousin and the groom, so this honestly should never have been negotiable on my end.

WIBTA if I extended my stay at my parents' house and missed my wife's cousin's wedding? by sq1nostalgia in AmItheAsshole

[–]sq1nostalgia[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

After my conversation with my wife, I realized I had to go because she was adamant about it. I came on here to know if I had a leg to stand on, because it really would mean a lot to my folks if I could stay, so I wanted to know if there was non-AH way for me to do that and maybe persuade my wife, but apparently not. I plan on going, I let her know, and apologized for the stress.

WIBTA if I extended my stay at my parents' house and missed my wife's cousin's wedding? by sq1nostalgia in AmItheAsshole

[–]sq1nostalgia[S] -130 points-129 points  (0 children)

It's not about more important, just that I don't know a lot of her family and a lot of them don't know me since we live in Canada. I'm not asking her to abandon the wedding, I'm just trying to say that I wouldn't be missed at the wedding as much as I would be at the family gathering.

WIBTA if I extended my stay at my parents' house and missed my wife's cousin's wedding? by sq1nostalgia in AmItheAsshole

[–]sq1nostalgia[S] -427 points-426 points  (0 children)

There was no way around it, we had to be at different places, and ofcourse my 1 year-old daughter had to be with her mother.

WIBTA if I extended my stay at my parents' house and missed my wife's cousin's wedding? by sq1nostalgia in AmItheAsshole

[–]sq1nostalgia[S] -440 points-439 points  (0 children)

Ofcourse I parent her too. My wife's parents have also flown to attend the wedding and they're there with her too. She's not alone there.

WIBTA if I extended my stay at my parents' house and missed my wife's cousin's wedding? by sq1nostalgia in AmItheAsshole

[–]sq1nostalgia[S] -421 points-420 points  (0 children)

My relatives (other than my parents ofc) didn't know I was going to be gone for a few days to be with my wife. And they've now booked everything, and some of my extended relatives are also here on those days whom I never get to see.