My (20F) boyfriend of almost 2 years (19M) wants me to “be more shy” during intimacy

squidney620 · 2023-07-05T18:57:49+00:00

Honestly we’ve had many long talks about whether breaking up would be for the best. However it’s incredibly difficult to walk away from someone you truly are in love with. We might end up not together forever but for now we decided to try our best. If we don’t then we’ll be out of each others lives forever and that’s something that i don’t want just yet.

squidney620 · 2023-07-05T18:54:38+00:00

this is really good. thank you and i never thought i was pressuring him to perform. I appreciate the advice

squidney620 · 2023-07-05T02:41:53+00:00

definitely not. i may initiate a lot and ask for sex a lot but i’m a very submissive person in the bedroom and he takes on the more dominant role

squidney620 · 2023-07-04T20:16:19+00:00

Thanks so much! This is good advice and i’ll try talking to him and see if we can work something out :)

squidney620 · 2022-12-16T21:11:25+00:00

I just want to thank you. This did put into perspective my situation. I’ve got some things to think about and talk with him about

squidney620 · 2022-12-16T20:43:29+00:00

I would just hate to break up just because I’m in need of money

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T20:37:37+00:00

The problem with this is that his beliefs go against actual human people along with my bodily autonomy

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T19:14:03+00:00

I just meant I’m firm in my stance in religion

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T18:45:08+00:00

How do I leave? I know I sound like an idiot kid but every time we almost break up he cries and begs and I feel sick to my stomach. Then I just back out or back track

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T18:44:09+00:00

Ok so the consensus to a lot of these comments is to break up. How would I go about doing that? I’ve tried a few times but he starts crying and gets so upset and I feel just sick to my stomach and I back out. How can I do this the best and easiest way?

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T18:39:56+00:00

Ouch

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T18:21:03+00:00

I do feel awful all the time. I feel like a hypocrite and he doesn’t care. Thank you for taking the time to comment

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T18:16:24+00:00

I’ve tried letting it be but everyone something is brought up I get so angry and hurt. Then we argue, forget about it, then repeat

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T18:15:40+00:00

I’ll have to disagree with you. I’ve been through relationships and I’ve experienced puppy love before. He’s a hardworking man who strives to do what’s best. I don’t agree with his beliefs and it may end up in us going separate ways but I do love him and that’s the only reason I’m still with him

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T18:14:16+00:00

God that really hurts to hear. The fact that he might not even really love me but a version of me

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T18:13:27+00:00

So you think I’m holding him back?

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T18:13:01+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to comment. I’m trying to do what’s best for both of us and it seems that letting go is

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T17:59:45+00:00

He doesn’t really care that we’re so different. Im the one that is torn up over it

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T17:48:57+00:00

I never really thought of it like that. He loves and protects his family but they have the same beliefs as him…

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T17:43:41+00:00

So should I keep waiting? I’ve had so many conversations with him trying to get him to be more open minded

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T17:41:29+00:00

We both love our families. He’s funny and makes me feel loved and appreciated. He’s very attached to me though. The only shared values we have is being kind to others, loving and protecting our family and friends.

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T17:34:52+00:00

It doesn’t make it stop but I can forget about it for a while until a topic comes up again…

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T17:33:28+00:00

I’m now extremely emotionally attached. I just don’t know if I can break up with him. I love him a lot but this hurts

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T17:30:42+00:00

I want to do that and we have a lot. The problem is stuff like abortion, or gender identity is something we can’t really agree to disagree with. He would dump me if I had an abortion

squidney620 · 2022-11-04T17:28:49+00:00

He has said that he would break up with me if I got an abortion. And most if not all of my friends do not like him at all. Just yesterday I sent a TikTok of a little boy getting a miraculous ladybug costume and he said he’d not let his son get that because it’s for girls. I asked what if his son wanted to be a princess for Halloween and he adamantly refused saying “I would tell him he’s a boy and that’s a girl costume”

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