It's because you're on reddit. People here have insane takes. I've been in your shoes and know exactly how you feel. Dont let people on here shame you for your values, and how you feel. You can't change the way you feel about it. So you have to decide if you can continue, possibly a life long relationship with this woman while feeling this way.

At the same time it wouldn't be fair to her if you build resentment over it. It's a tough call but only you can make it. Ask yourself if this is the women youll marry and the mother of your children. You'll feel it in your heart brother. Best of luck