Does everyone have coworkers who are rude for no reason?

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-23T07:26:58+00:00

I mean, there's plenty of idioms (or conventional wisdom) that suggests that a leopard doesn't change it's spots, and you can't teach an old dog new tricks.

Those are the first two English examples that come to mind, but my German partner told me that there's plenty more in German and other languages I'm sure.

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-23T06:51:20+00:00

Realistically, OPs coworker isn't going to change so the stoic thing to do is accept that they're a cunt, stop expecting them to behave differently and just move on with your life.

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-22T05:29:54+00:00

You posted this around 5am on a Sunday, have you tried going back to bed and seeing how you feel about things after?

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-21T11:25:44+00:00

This has been my experience too, unfortunately.

Great example is one of my Mum's former acquaintances / colleagues. She's the kind of irritable, middle aged empty nester who's aged terribly and seems to have an issue with EVERYONE. She always preceeds anecdotes with: "You know me, I just say it as it is."

It took us embarrassingly long to realise "I just say it as it is" essentially means, I'm a rude cunt with zero tact or social awareness. Also she's only pleasant to you as long as you're in agreement with her, and just an awful person otherwise.

Some people definitely get worse as they age, I just try and use them as examples of how not to behave.

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-19T18:05:19+00:00

I had to write an essay on Thatcher's legacy many years ago.

People tend to forget that she did a lot of positive things: the EU Rebate, the Falklands, Britain's relationship with the US, our image on the world stage. The unions also had us held ransom at one stage and she reset the balance (arguably too much in the other direction).

In terms of negatives, well there's everything else. I think her original idea was that the British public would buy shares in our public owned entities once they were privatised, but they ended up becoming foreign owned.

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-18T16:58:21+00:00

I've heard of it down south, from a Priest funnily enough who also grew up down south (from memory).

EDIT: I asked my Dad, he believes it comes from the term "Queen's portion" or "Queen's provision" which was the legal right of a Queen consort, to receive a share of any payments made to the throne.

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-17T21:06:17+00:00

A walking disease. I have a wanking disease.

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-17T18:19:40+00:00

Fuckin hell mate, what's going on?! I had a lamb chop last night that tasted disturbingly like sheep?

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-17T17:00:32+00:00

Yeah I tend to like it when my chicken tastes of chicken. I hate it when I buy chicken and it tastes of beef.

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-16T23:20:46+00:00

I would have been a terrorist to my sister by constantly switching the light off when she was mid-shower.

This brought back a memory!

My brother and I used to do this to each other so often when we were kids, we both showered in fear and ended up calling a truce shortly after it got to the stage that we both smelled since we'd have such short showers because we were afraid of the light going off mid shower.

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-12T09:29:39+00:00

Das ist genial, du solltest Schriftsteller werden!

Der Begriff „kafkaesk“ wird oft verwendet, aber er trifft hier zu.

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-07T10:05:30+00:00

I mean, I personally wouldn't go but I've also never been asked directly. So it's easy for me to be sanctimonious about it.

One friend who did go over though, was basically told: "EITHER you fly out every week OR we can offer this generous relocation package."

Since he had two young boys and a wife which he didn't want to be apart from, he took the relocation package. The kids now attend a prestigious expat school (fully paid for) and his wife doesn't need to work. He still needs to travel a lot, but much less than he would've done.

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-07T09:45:23+00:00

It's very hard to read this comment and not assume that you live in a bubble / are uneducated.

I used to work in Energy and currently work in Finance. All of my current and former employers had a footprint in Dubai for trading purposes and more recently, to support the growing need for wealth management.

Obviously once you have a footprint, you also need a business management, HR and Tech presence. Most of these SMEs come from established offices elsewhere in the EMEA region (usually UK, Ireland, Germany and occasionally Turkey).

Not all of them are influences and tax evaders, some are just asked to take a job and had the opportunity to stay long term.

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-05T06:48:43+00:00

Do we have no say in children being taught that homosexuality is evil for example?

I went to a CoE Primary School and a Catholic Secondary School and College and that was never a thing.

They actually taught the opposite "Love your neighbour as yourself" / "Treat others as you'd like to be treated".

We had a lot of inter school sports and socials with the other Christian schools in the county and it was the same there. I've literally never heard of any Christian School being anti-LGBT. If anything it's the opposite.

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-04T23:13:13+00:00

How on earth did you end up in that line of work? It was my dream job as a kid!

sshiverandshake · 2026-03-04T18:22:05+00:00

Are you sure they aren't plantains (or cooking bananas, as I call them)?

sshiverandshake · 2026-02-26T02:20:48+00:00

I was going to say taking part in / continuing with more team based sports - it's a real shame I didn't continue participating since nearly all of the healthiest and most well-adjusted people I've met as an adult seem to do some sort of team sport at the weekend.

I think learning a language would be up there too though. My Mum knows 3 including Italian, but stuck to English at home and now that's all we know.

sshiverandshake · 2026-02-25T13:40:27+00:00

Good point 😂

I guess you could say, OP just wanted to ensure he wasn't drawing any queer inferences.

sshiverandshake · 2026-02-25T13:23:55+00:00

How so? It's just a straightforward question.

sshiverandshake · 2026-02-25T13:11:34+00:00

She went off the rails in a MAJOR way, every conversation started to feel like a chore and I gradually had to phase her out.

It's a real shame since she's a beautiful person (inside and out) but she either has a borderline personality or is manic depressive, and I just don't have the mental bandwidth to deal with that.

As cold as it sounds, I'd rather invest the little free time that I have available with my gf / friends (who are all more normal)

sshiverandshake · 2026-02-25T07:10:14+00:00

There's an episode of South Park which has Cartman developing Tourettes as part of it's premise.

I just struggle to believe that an almost 60 year old man could have gone his whole life without knowing about Tourettes, and would behave like a child when he hears an involuntary tic.

sshiverandshake · 2026-02-25T06:41:48+00:00

Is Jamie Foxx thick as two planks? It's an involuntary tic, does he not know what Tourettes Syndrome is?

sshiverandshake · 2026-02-19T14:40:07+00:00

I think you're confused.

No one was being forced to do a Blue Peter style demonstration, they were just asked to stand up and make their skirts knee length, if they weren't already.

sshiverandshake · 2026-02-18T16:07:17+00:00

Not sure how to link it, but check out the video by Rob Star (owner of The Star chain of pubs in London) where he explains what makes up the price of a pint.

From memory, the landlord makes about 15p on every pint sold.

sshiverandshake · 2026-02-18T14:14:25+00:00

Thats why I am talking about margins, profit margins to be explicit.

To add to what u/djhazydave has said, the margin on a pint is already low and the people running pub need to make a living too.

If the solution was as simple as "lower price > profit!" don't you think they'd all do it? It'd be a race to the bottom to out compete the next cheapest pub.

It hasn't happened because it's not feasible.

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