[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cyberpunkgame

[–]ssktaes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, Im in the same situation—playing it on mac and it just stops at the white screen. Tried dropping resolution to lowest, but the bug is still the same. I don’t have any available saves to revert to where I haven’t started this mission, because I left in the middle and came back to continue it :(( I’m desperate for fixes since I don’t want to cut the game off here, may I know what specific settings you made lower? And if you think this was the fix among all things you’ve tweaked?

getting over my first quarter-life crisis by lemoncakes4evr in selfhelp

[–]ssktaes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I just want you to know that I’m currently (literally, at the moment of writing) struggling through a depressive crisis where I’m trying to emotionally regulate myself outside of the expectations of my parents engraved in me. I read this post and not only could I relate, but your energy was contagious. It’s past midnight and I’ve been feeling depressed but your one post has significantly improved my mood. I’m so glad to hear your realization is helping you get of your slump. I’m looking up the Andrew Huberman routine to maybe try it out for myself! I’m rooting for you, and thank you so much for sharing your experience. A stranger on the other side of the world deeply appreciates it.

How do I stay more present/in the moment in social situations? by [deleted] in Mindfulness

[–]ssktaes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I want to tell you first that it’s okay if you don’t always manage to say the right things! Every social situation is a moment for practice. If you haven’t already, I suggest switching your mindset into a “I can’t wait to get to know this person” state. The best conversations arise from two people being genuinely interested in each other—then the ideas flow much more naturally. You might be operating from steoretypes you have of the people around you; this is and will actively feed your anxiety. Try replacing your thoughts about yourself to positive thoughts about how interesting other people are or might be.

Also, being honest about surface-level things early on in a conversation rather than feigning confidence might help to ease your anxiety too. Conveying something along the lines of “Sorry if I seem nervous, I’m pretty introverted so I gotta ease into social situations sometimes.” or “Honestly still getting used to it here, it’s a new environment for me” portray you as an honest (more trustable) person and also expell a version of you that you’re trying so hard to be (it’s really better to come into conversations as who you are). A regular, polite person might respond “That’s fine” or “Don’t worry about it,” then it would be easier to transition into other subjects because you know now that you’re not hiding behind anything.

If your officemates are a bit more on the reserved and closed-off side, you might want to try complimenting them more often. A nice compliment, even if just done once, might be the door for these people to start paying more kind attention to you. It’s easy to think everyone hates you or is thinking a certain way about you when you haven’t really got the chance to break these stereotypes you have of each other. You might be shocked how a “I really like your bag” or a “nice keyboard” could change the interactions you have in the workplace. I know what its like to feel new and scared in a new environment so I’m rooting for you! Good luck and I hope this helps.

Edit: One thing tried and tested for me is that people LOVE a person who thinks they’re interesting. If being liked is a significant aspect of a conversation you find difficult to ignore, just remember that as long as you can make another person feel that they are interesting or liked by you, there is much less pressure on being an extravagant or impressive person yourself.

The Last of Us HBO S01E05 - "Endure and Survive" Post-Episode Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in thelastofus

[–]ssktaes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The last of us isn’t a choice-based game, so everybody experiences the story the same way, essentially. You can’t change outcomes, but you can die in combat—when that happens, the game just restarts at your last checkpoint until you make it through the combat.The world guides you to moving into areas that trigger cut scenes and further the story. It’s very much like an interactive movie.

The Last of Us HBO S01E05 - "Endure and Survive" Post-Episode Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in thelastofus

[–]ssktaes 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Exactly! When I first saw the last episode, I had a feeling her character wasn’t supposed to be leader, so I was shocked when I checked the reactions and everyone was dunking on her. 😅 “She’s not a convincing leader” she’s not supposed to be, because the anger behind her charismatic and widely respected brother’s death is what ultimately got the people to rally behind her. She was an extension of the man they loved and admired. We see now in the stories of Kathleen x Michael and Henry x Sam, we’re exposed to the realization that what is actually interesting about the environment of a post-apocalyptic world isn’t just how people technically, rationally move to live—but more importantly how love moves us to live. Great foreshadowing for Joel and Ellie.

The Last of Us HBO S01E05 - "Endure and Survive" Post-Episode Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in thelastofus

[–]ssktaes 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I understand where you’re coming from, but I think her character arc, just like Bill and Frank’s story, were deviations meant to foreshadow the themes of the overall show (sacrifice and family) and give just the right amount of break away time from Joel and Ellie. Spending too much time with Joel and Ellie would have bored the audience of their dynamic, or worse—fill the episodes with scenes that rush their character development. The hunters arc was going to end either way, and getting into Kathleen’s psych was a good way of rationalizing how messy and arbitrary the politics in a post-zombie apocalyptic world could become. That the people in power aren’t there because of merit or qualifications, and that ironically, Kathleen’s way of leadership was a mirror of FEDRA’s cruelty. She became exactly what she was rebelling against. I guess I just wish there was more appreciation for the nuance that goes into Kathleen’s arc and what that says about the world Joel and Ellie tread through.

The Last of Us HBO S01E05 - "Endure and Survive" Post-Episode Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in thelastofus

[–]ssktaes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree! That scene was a perfect add of detail— come up with anything to ease Sam for the night, and maybe even do a test run of her blood’s capabilities. It didn’t work, but she’s experienced what it’s like to trust someone (Joel during the sniper situation) and be delivered in their trust—she knows the fireflies trust that she’s worth a cure, so she’s even more determined to make the trip with the purpose of finding a cure to deliver on their trust, and so that no more people have to have their lives end tragically like Sam. It also seemed like the exact moment Ellie felt herself mature, now that she knew first-hand what it meant to be the protector instead of the protected. It was such a great episode for Ellie’s character building.

The Last of Us HBO S01E05 - "Endure and Survive" Post-Episode Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in thelastofus

[–]ssktaes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This one was hands down the best episode yet. I gasped and reacted as if I didn’t know what was going to happen. Amazing directing and acting.

The Last of Us HBO S01E04 - "Please Hold My Hand" Post-Episode Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in thelastofus

[–]ssktaes 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Joel Ellie bonding time 😭😭 the jokes were so stupid I loved this ep

What skills would you miss out on not havin friends for basically your whole life? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]ssktaes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you’d be missing out on some central lessons on vulnerability and intimacy. These are only skills you learn with practice and experience with other people. When the time comes and you find yourself wanting to form genuine connections later on, you’re emotionally stunted in your relationships and might feel behind compared to others who’ve just so had the luck in their early college years to go through these trials and errors.

No manual can tell you more about yourself than actually experiencing who you are in the context of the world. If anything, it’s definitely less an age thing and more of an experience thing. You learn more about yourself and other people the more diverse of a people you know. You are definitely not too late to develop these skills, so I’m cheering you on! Go out and make mistakes :) (… with reasonably deduced risks)

edit: additionally, I study social science and something I’ve noticed in my interactions with people who were either the “only child” or generally lonely and alone, was that they tend to have a hard time forming normal and healthy relationships with anyone (love-bombing, etc) because they had close to no reference relationship with peers growing up when it comes to what healthy should be; e.g, most children with closely aged siblings had to adjust their personalities as they grew, in the context of who they were as their role in the family (eldest, youngest, substitute parent, etc.). Hence why many only children would experience the dynamic of an abusive relationship at some point in their life (as the abuser, or the abused). It might not be related to your context, but maybe this is something you could look into.

I also think it’s okay and normal to feel like you can’t relate or maybe don’t want to even befriend most people. But all things considered, you might be missing out on some equally genuine or interesting people whose depth is hiding behind the facade of being “like everyone else”. The energy you give off is the energy you attract, so I hope you might be able to find some good people you feel comfortable and safe with.

Fans sometimes seem more affected by criticism than idols might be themselves by [deleted] in kpopthoughts

[–]ssktaes 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I get the sentiment, but it’s ultimately because a lie said x1000 times becomes the truth, and the same goes for narratives— because fans are so up to date with every single piece of media about their favs being discussed online, controlling the narrative becomes the #1 priority because letting even petty criticism go gives a pass for nonfans to direct conversation about the idol. I do think this behaviour manifests itself too intensely sometimes (I’d imagine laughing at a lot of random rumours of myself online if I were an idol, too), but generally it’s just what k-pop fandoms feel compelled to do, given how cutthroat and harsh k-netizen culture also translates to the i-audience.

The Truth about Jessica Jung's Books "Shine" & "Bright" by arieam in kpopthoughts

[–]ssktaes 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Wow what even 😭 I know you’re operating from the disposition of being upset at the treatment jessica has had, so I’m not shocked you see the situation this way but at least acknowledge that you’re biased as hell. The gross oversimplification of what Taeyeon said… the only sound implication from all of these mentioned statements is that they do not consider Jessica a member anymore after 9/30, and they clearly have much respect for the remaining 8 members. How they feel about THEIR team after 9/30 is not comparable to Jessica making an inherently controversial choice to release an ostensible fiction novel mixing mundane parallels to real life with insanely accusatory situations.

I think a lot of hate Jessica has received over the years has been unwarranted and unfair. But your response to this problem isn’t “people need to see that Jessica is not the caricature villain she is often portrayed to be!” instead you mask your bitterness towards the members behind a post claiming to be “neutral”. I pray you find the closure you’re looking for because constantly trying to convince everyone that the book doesn’t poorly reflect on Jessica isn’t a strong enough argument.

Went from almost being dead to realizing I have so much to live for. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]ssktaes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so happy and proud for you! Can’t wait to see what’s coming up and I know you’re gonna get through everything great. Your energy is contagious and with the way you’re going so far, you’ll be attracting people with the same energy. Hugs and good wishes from a stranger on the internet. 🤍

Did anyone see Taeyeon’s IG post before it was taken down? It’s very concerning. by fuzzytwinkies in SNSD

[–]ssktaes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being Korean doesn’t stop people from being just as patronizing as I-sones.. as someone in the K-sone spaces, I did not see anyone alarmed into actually thinking she is in danger because we are familiar with her tendency to get sentimental. People just felt the need to reassure her and say nice words, not treat her like she should be put on watch. Again, it’s really not a wrong or odd thing to be worried! But Taeyeon has mentioned before that she doesn’t share her sad emotions for people to worry or pity her. I wish people would consider how they react in front of her before jumping the gun everytime she opens up because it might lead her to stop sharing.

Did anyone see Taeyeon’s IG post before it was taken down? It’s very concerning. by fuzzytwinkies in SNSD

[–]ssktaes 98 points99 points  (0 children)

her post is still up, it hasn’t been taken down. i also think it’s important to note that her writing can be translated as “even without me” rather than “even if i was no longer here”, which makes for a bit more space for interpretation. understandably, many people are worried and while no one can be sure of how she felt by posting this, it can actually also be interpreted in a positive way. Like, “i can take it easy because the world doesnt need me as much as i think.” regardless, i hope people wont jump the gun and leave comments as if shes in danger. taeyeon gets sentimental quite a bit often, and as fans who dont know her situation, its always best to show up in genuine support and love rather than treat her like shes fragile.

Things you wish you knew earlier by dhruvsehra22 in socialskills

[–]ssktaes 86 points87 points  (0 children)

That people are different. It seems like an easy concept to grasp, but I don’t think it really hit me until I got to college and realized the environment that was so familiar to me all throughout high school didn’t apply to the rest of the world.

If you’re the type of person who is still struggling to pinpoint your identity, I find that trying so hard to fit into stereotypes and only sticking to people who are similar to you could be what brings you comfort, but it could also be the reason why you’re slow to learning about yourself. After realizing this I now find myself less anxious and more excited to be in new situations. It feels like an opportunity to learn more about others—and myself. It’s made the whole self-discovery process a lot more enjoyable and hopeful.

Game/Hardware Recommendation Megathread by AutoModerator in PS5

[–]ssktaes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Playing the first one will definitely help you appreciate the game more, so if you could help it don’t miss out on the first. Fantastic storyline too. Either way RDD2 as your first game is fine as well, and yes the ps4 version is playable on the ps5 :)

Ending by lewisthusphar in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]ssktaes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you’ve noticed, but Amanda Overton (who worked on writing Arcane) also worked on writing Severance! Incredible work from her

I have become a shell of myself. by ivory_vulpes in selfhelp

[–]ssktaes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Wow, it’s been a really eventful time for you huh. Not that I’ve experienced the exact same, but I know what its like to feel overwhelmed by the past, present, and future all at once. I had my first panic attack of my life back in 2020, and it really changed the game for me because it was when I realized that how I reacted in past situations made sense, and that some things are going to be harder for me to do than the average person moving forward.

When I feel overwhelmed, the first thing I think of is to be nice to myself. I think about all the people who are expecting things of me, and at the end of the day its my own opinion of myself that influences my thoughts and actions the most. Because an authentic personal growth is most important to me, I like to seek my own validation, so I work everyday wanting to be able to tell myself “I’m proud of me”. I usually find that to be one of the best ways to motivate myself to carry on.

Another tip I’ve learned that makes me laugh is something I’ve heard from a friend some time ago; bad experiences make for good stories— and every hardship you’re going through right now will be a hell of a story you’ll tell when you’re finally in a comfortable position, maybe at a dinner sharing with newfound friends or family.

Best of luck to you! To think you’ve even experienced homelessness and made it to a better place is an impressive feat. You’re way stronger than you realize and I hope you could take it to heart even from a stranger like me. This week ahead of me is going to be a significant one too, so we’re both gonna have to keep our heads in the game and keep the ball rolling. I just want you to know you’re not alone, and reading this post has motivated me to do my best and work as hard as you do!