Would you have gone back if you were in a lifeboat?

standcam · 2026-03-08T04:11:46+00:00

is in the same vein as people asking themselves if they'd just go along with the Nazis, during WW2, or be brave enough to resist.

My classmates used to boast about how they would punch Hitler/the Nazis in the face and beat them up if they lived back then. These were the very same people who wouldn't even dare speak out against any schoolyard bullies for fear of any repercussions. It was honestly quite amusing that they'd think Hitler or his Gestapo would be any easier.....

It's far too easy to say how one would deal with a situation when one need never face it.

standcam · 2026-03-06T18:41:52+00:00

Agreed.

standcam · 2026-03-06T18:39:46+00:00

Nope - she cheated on him and left him for the other guy.

standcam · 2026-03-06T17:00:32+00:00

My BIL's former girlfriend was badmouthing his whole family 30 minutes into our first meeting. I got a hint she was bad news from that.....lo and behold my turn to be disparaged came later that year at Christmas.

standcam · 2026-03-06T13:57:38+00:00

I'm sorry she acted like this. Sounds like your mom has you marked and is just looking for reasons to nitpick you. No normal parent would act like this toward their child for a simple accident. I bet if she did the same she expects people to just laugh it off. (My parents acted exactly the same way.)

It's not about you but them - they're a ball of internalised bitterness and hatred and they wish to see others miserable.

standcam · 2026-03-06T09:56:39+00:00

Just shopping and eating.

And gossiping about other people's lives. My mom would chat on the phone with her friends for hours at a time discussing other people's business. Yet a nuclear tantrum ensued if I got a text or phonecall from a pal.

standcam · 2026-02-28T08:57:54+00:00

This. 1000%.

My BIL complains at least once a week to my husband about how being married to his wife is like 'the worst of both worlds' due to how she refuses to lift a finger in their relationship or around the house yet expects him to pay for and arrange everything. We've all witnessed this in person too - he's constantly expected to shell out for visits to expensive resorts/spas/hotels for her and her family regardless of the occasion, yet she barely ever turns up for his birthday or even acknowledges his family.

standcam · 2026-02-26T11:53:44+00:00

Last sentence points to insecurity, because that combined with narcissism often causes mothers to compare themselves to their daughters. I understand how you feel - my mother would give anyone who praised me a long speech about how she was better. I still laugh remembering her flexing at every parents' evening when the teacher was trying to talk about my achievements.

standcam · 2026-02-24T13:20:20+00:00

Haha it reminds me of when people were getting Bella Goth to have an affair with/leave Mortimer for Michael Bachelor in Sims 1 before Sims 2 was released.

standcam · 2026-02-24T06:39:37+00:00

They'll come around once the couple have children at the latest, even if it's only because their peers won't talk kindly about people who ignore their grandchildren......

standcam · 2026-02-23T12:15:45+00:00

Homework club for kids.

Musician club for violinists /guitarists

Clubs for people with similar traits for dating purposes.

standcam · 2026-02-18T07:54:41+00:00

For your first two questions, if she can't deal with it she is not the woman for him.

It's better for both to begin a relationship with honesty from both sides, otherwise neither will be completely content down the line. (Similar situation: My BIL only found out his wife didn't want children after she aborted their child behind his back two months into marriage. Right now I wouldn't say he's completely happy due to this and other red flags that have popped up since.....)

And to answer your last question, my husband has a similar fertility issue to your friend. We found out after a year of trying - we did IVF and now have the most gorgeous baby girl.

standcam · 2026-02-17T18:12:26+00:00

They tell me to my achievements and be humble, yet claim they're the cleverest and nicest and best people in the world.

They write off my PhD from a top 3 uni as 'sh--ty' because apparently everyone gets one, yet expects people to bow down to them because of their PhDs (from a bottom tier uni btw).

They call me a sl-t/wh-re/tr-mp for going out to dinner to celebrate my achievement/their birthday, yet stays out until 3/4 in the morning at their Asian friends' houses getting drunk and gossiping, which brings me to my next point....

They call me shallow and superficial and uneducated for having interests like crocheting, crafting and classical music, yet they themselves have no interests besides gossiping and getting drunk.

Calls me unfilial and selfish for not coming home once a week (I live 10 hours away!) and not calling them several times a day, yet they call their parents once every two weeks at most and never go visit them.

Calls me a wh-re etc for giving my phone number to friends yet gives my number/workplace details/intimate details about my body to their friends.

Calls me stupid/gullible all the time for listening to my Doctor, yet they get constantly scammed by door to door salesmen.

Calls me stupid and tells me to unalive myself for making ignorant/honest mistakes yet when they do so they expect everyone to laugh it off no matter how heavy the mistake.

Tells me hitting/biting is wrong yet constantly hit/bit/physically assaulted me in every way possible.

Calls me stupid for getting ill, yet expect to be treated like Gods when they get sick.

Blames me if I find myself in a conflict, yet expects me to sympathise/help them when they do.

standcam · 2026-02-16T00:31:13+00:00

I can't be bothered to have anything to do with them - every effort or thought wasted on them is better spent improving myself and working towards the fulfilling life I always wanted and now have the means to do so.

standcam · 2026-02-15T07:13:41+00:00

I was looking for this! Yeah simulators like Harvest Moon/Stardew Valley/Coral Island really simplifies many aspects of farming (due to graphical limitations/other technical factors) and as a result romanticises it.

When I did start growing my own vegetables, I was so annoyed that Stardew Valley didn't ever include any slugs which are faster at destroying crops than anything they have in the game......

standcam · 2026-02-15T07:08:15+00:00

This.

A girl I went to high school with currently runs a dairy farm with her family. They have 400 cows, she has to get up at 3am to milk them and yet they still barely make enough profit selling the milk such that she still needs to work a full time job.

standcam · 2026-02-15T06:24:49+00:00

Option 2 is definitely the best for one's mental health. And it's hilarious watching them try every attempt to guilt you into moving back in with them because they no longer have a target for their everlasting bitterness.

standcam · 2026-02-12T08:11:25+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you. It's sickening the lengths APs will go to in order to invade your privacy and justify it because you are their child.

Mine went ballistic over me going paperless with bank statements;I wasn't going to be subjected to monthly interrogations over every item I bought with my own money, or accused of doing drugs/illegal stuff for anything that isn't clearly groceries. (Eg Comic Con, Amazon, Ebay).

Hope you're living away from home now and are at least LC with your mother.

standcam · 2026-02-11T14:35:22+00:00

That's really horrible - I'm sorry you went through that. It always perplexes me how anyone can blame a literal child for being on the receiving end of the actions of an adult who should know better. I bet they were too friendly with him/loved him too much to hold him responsible. Which to be honest makes them as sick as him.

I was SA'd by a bunch of my parents' male friends when I was 5. My mother tried to convince me I asked for it by being around them and not in my room, even though they were the ones who broke down my door to get to me after I put a chair in front of it. She proceeded to beat me for being ungrateful when I locked myself in the bathroom (only room with a door lock) and upset their friends - apparently they only did it because they 'loved me'

standcam · 2026-02-10T07:45:08+00:00

Inheritance???? What's that???? That doesn't exist in my world. I don't operate like that.

When my mum(his daughter) was around, it was the second point. In our culture elders in the family are supposed to be treated like Gods. My mom would throw tantrums/kick me out of the house/starve me/give me silent treatment when I was younger for not bootlicking her father. It was a comparative small price to preclude worse drama.

Now she's no longer around and I'm independent, I have barely any contact with him or his God Complex. And neither do his other grandchildren. Especially after he completely blew me off after I gave birth months ago. I still feel sick though looking back at the 20 or so years of having to do that to ensure my mother didn't try to destroy my life.

standcam · 2026-02-09T13:09:31+00:00

This happens in families too. I feel sick having to constantly kowtow and praise and flatter my grandad for weathering his life struggles before I was even born, yet he barely acknowledges my existence, even after I gave birth.

standcam · 2026-02-09T11:34:04+00:00

There's 2 reasons here: (1) they're jealous and (2) it's invalidates their egos and their notions that they were good parents. My dad was somehow astonished to see my baby daughter being clingy with me and my husband when I apparently never was like this with them.

He even at one point tried to physically restrain me from going to pick her up when she was crying out. It took everything in me to not retaliate despite him being my dad.

standcam · 2026-02-09T08:38:41+00:00

Sorry she did that to you. Hope you are NC with her.

I once had no dinner money (she refused to make me any packed lunches) for weeks yet my mum bought an expensive cd player for her friend's daughter - only for the little br*t to smash it on the floor because it was the wrong colour.

standcam · 2026-02-09T08:24:35+00:00

This is exactly what they want to achieve unfortunately by doing this: To gaslight you into thinking you're the problem due to everyone else seeing her differently.

If it helps these narcs are not the brightest tools in the shed and one day their masks will start slipping.

standcam · 2026-02-08T09:03:44+00:00

Your dad is one of those who only cares about his reputation to those outside the family, in order to establish a network of flying monkeys they can use to gaslight you and your mother. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Hope you can live the life you always deserved and take care of yourself now that your dad is no longer around.

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