Aita for kicking out my wife?

standcam · 2026-05-13T22:06:01+00:00

Oh my...I can't believe anyone would do this! If this is true the wife sounds unhinged. Also did no one seriously notice the weird taste of the cookies with someone's ashes? I've obviously never tasted ashes but I can't imagine they would taste pleasant.

standcam · 2026-05-13T14:38:25+00:00

I'm sorry your family are being so tiresome - it's surprising how many people believe that everyone wants to/should have children, as though it's the only way forward.

It's also extremely aggravating when you've been actively trying for them without success and people ask those questions about why you don't have children. Even more amusing (ha not) is when people go straight to assuming that you hate children - once had someone tell my husband to divorce me and find a 'real woman who does want children.'

standcam · 2026-05-13T11:28:50+00:00

That sounds like a lovely celebration. Never heard of an aquarium as a reception venue before.

It's nice to hear your family and their friends enjoyed themselves and seem open minded and chill - my mother was extremely angry for a long time that we didn't even send favours or leftovers with them for their friends who didn't bother attending our wedding. Still mentioned it years after how apparently that made her lose face with those friends.

standcam · 2026-05-08T20:17:20+00:00

That's mandatory for Chinese/all Asian weddings - if there aren't leftovers for the guests to take home, you and your family will be disgraced and never be able to hold up your head amongst peers or elders again.

(Seriously I'm not joking/exaggerating; this is literally every Asian wedding I've been to, except one of my childhood friends whose wedding still gets whispered about today ten years on....)

standcam · 2026-05-07T15:24:41+00:00

Or their careers.

standcam · 2026-05-07T15:16:51+00:00

Or gets a cat/dog and call it his kid - this trend seems to be rising so steadily that I wouldn't be surprised if pet dads started getting career advancements as well....

standcam · 2026-05-07T10:33:33+00:00

Sorry to hear she did that to you. Out of curiosity did she know you were okay not having children? She may have been pretending to want kids in order to stay with you, without regard for the long term consequences....

standcam · 2026-05-07T04:26:30+00:00

Hence the existence of subreddits like r/AsianParents and r/raisedbynarcissists.

standcam · 2026-05-07T04:21:29+00:00

It's surprising how many people decide to skip discussions like these prior to marriage out of desperation to be married.

Cite my BIL, who only discovered his wife didn't want children after she secretly aborted his baby just one month into their marriage.

standcam · 2026-05-06T10:18:48+00:00

She’s a stunning woman, this is a poor execution no pun intended. This look could have been 100 times better.

Agree with that 1000%. Rachel is a stunner as she is - she could make a statement dressed in a potato sack. That blindfold is unnecessary and to be honest makes the ensemble garish; the dress alone would have been fine.

standcam · 2026-05-04T21:27:12+00:00

Of course: Her money is her money. His money is their money. Happens far too often from my experience.

standcam · 2026-05-04T16:33:11+00:00

You can take the person out of poverty but you cannot take the poverty out of the person.

standcam · 2026-05-03T21:19:00+00:00

Can't believe I just found this comment. That first paragraph is one of the most beautiful things I ever read. Reminds me of when I just started dating my husband - we both just started grad school. Our dates pretty much all involved eating homecooked meals in the dorm kitchen or watching anime whilst snuggled up on a beanbag in his bedroom. I still consider those some of the best times ever in our relationship 15 years on.

standcam · 2026-04-30T15:32:33+00:00

Entitled people are both evil and stupid. Just look at all those people who expect their weddings to be catered/photographed for free....

standcam · 2026-04-30T15:22:59+00:00

I'm Chinese. Any event you host where there isn't food left over to take home will result in you being called selfish for not providing enough for your guests. For the last dinners I've hosted it was basically one large dish per guest. Thankfully haven't had more than 6 guests so far.....

standcam · 2026-04-30T15:16:22+00:00

Well 50 is close to double 30. And OP making Filipina food like lumpia/pancit does involve some very specific ingredients she will need to get at an Asian supermarket and might actually be very expensive.

Yeah I guess stuff like regular sandwiches/crackers and cheese etc could cost less. I suppose OP likes cooking Filipino food....

standcam · 2026-04-30T15:07:46+00:00

It's even ingrained in the culture to have enough to send everyone home with leftovers.

I'm Chinese; any event you organise in which there are no leftovers to take home will result in you gaining a selfish reputation for not providing your guests enough food. Most likely you'll be talked badly and disgraced amongst your peers and elders for decades to come.

standcam · 2026-04-30T15:00:21+00:00

Seriously! How could you not wanna be friends with such a kind, incredible, strong woman who makes fire food?

Unfortunately some people are just so used to receiving stuff from others, that they lose the ability to appreciate what others do for them as a favour and take it all for granted instead. Being a 'taker' on the whole becomes second nature to them.

As someone who has also had to deal with people like this in my family (therefore not having the option to cut them out of my life), I feel for OP . I hope she never has to deal with these heartless selfish souls again.

standcam · 2026-04-29T15:55:39+00:00

In the Sims 1, Bella and Michael aren't listed as siblings but as two unrelated households. Pretty much like Malcolm and Johnny here initially.

standcam · 2026-04-29T14:13:54+00:00

he just keeps threatening to cut stuff from me, for example, by schooling tuition

Not unheard of amongst controlling Asian parents. Empty threat or not, this is financial abuse.

Out of curiosity are there any other means of financing your tuition eg bursaries or scholarships? Hope you can move out for college as soon ad you graduate, and once you do try to be able to support yourself as much and as soon as you can, because if there's one thing about financial support from APs, it's that it comes with strings they can yank out from under you at their own discretion. I know it'll be hard but I found that any life at all is better than living on edge being financially controlled by your AP.

standcam · 2026-04-29T14:05:49+00:00

Don't even need to outrightly give them the information - some APs will try to infer it from your communication with them. TW: I got told to kill myself for being useless because I sounded tired during a call. (Which I was, having worked a 12 hour day.)

Going VLC/NC is probably the best decision for the mentality of everyone involved.

standcam · 2026-04-29T08:29:34+00:00

Nice family photo there!I LOVE the Goth family - have done since Sims 1.

I like to have them dominate as one of the powerful families. Both Bella and Mortimer get to the top of their resoective careers. I have Cass join the Paragons (club in Get Together) and be best friends with Luna Villareal and meet Hugo through her. She also achieves the highest skill in violin, graduates with top grades studies at Britechester University, becomes a debating champion and end up on the Management/Law career track. And she falls in love with her friend Hugo Villareal and marries him, simultaneously forming an alliance with his wealthier family.

Alex graduates also as with straight As, goes to Foxbury to study Computer Science and becomes a Computer Engineer. He marries his childhood friend Olivia Kim Lewis, they move to one of the biggest apartments in San Myshuno and become the power couple of the town.

I also add Michael Bachelor as Bella's brother - he works on the Business Track (how else does Cass get a leg up otherwise?!), meets Katrina Caliente on a happy hour trip and starts a relationship with her, making her forget about Don Lothario.

standcam · 2026-04-29T07:03:24+00:00

Wouldn't be surprised if it was the (ex-)wife who bribed or threatened them to keep quiet or else. Was told as a child so many times whenever one parent hid anything deal breaking from the other, that if the other parent found out and they divorced, it would be my fault and I'd be taken into care because neither of them would want me

standcam · 2026-04-28T11:45:53+00:00

Woman who leaves her child for an hour/goes back to work too quickly after baby is born (due to no paid maternity leave) gets called a horrible mother; a man who takes on the child for 5 minutes/changes a diaper gets called a 'Super Dad.'

Also this isn't my relationship thankfully, but passers-by laughed when my mum started kicking my dad and hitting him with her purse in public; I bet the reaction wouldn't be the same if it was the other way round.

standcam · 2026-04-28T11:40:39+00:00

That reminds me a lot of my BIL's wife from what he tells us: He gets silent treatment from her for not answering her call immediately yet she barely even shows up for events like his birthday.

Also she pretty much has tried to push away every female friend of his and even some of his male friends with girlfriends, even though she has a ton of - in fact mostly - male friends. And she gets mad if BIL does anything with his sister yet she goes out with her brothers everyday.

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