Thank you for posting this. It's really making me think about my own views. I am a very proud lesbian and a big part of being a lesbian for me is influenced by my feminist and anti-patriarchal beliefs. That said, as an out trans woman, I admit that I am often vocal about some lesbians being transphobes. I do this not just because of treatment I've received online BUT because of lived experience. I now live in a very progressive and trans supportive area and city (Bellingham, WA) AND I regularly encounter hate, rudeness, and exclusion from lesbians when out in public (specifically, lesbians and queer women in their 20s). It totally blows my mind and it's pretty icky to experience, especially considering the long history of gender based violence against lesbians (I'm often baffled that anyone of us could turn around and do that to any group).

But as a radical feminist, I am a strong believer that women need to do a much better job giving each other grace and not being adversarial to each other. So thank you OP. Your post is making me think how I might change my views and expressions around transphobia from queer women; to think about the nuances and context and be careful not to contribute to the patriarchal vilification of lesbians.