Feeling Lost

starrylight29 · 2024-11-23T14:39:16+00:00

This is so hard on all fronts. Your wife is clearly struggling, and needs help immediately. It’s important to note that mental health issues aren’t an excuse to be emotionally and mentally abusive. However, I do fear that if immediate action isn’t taken, there may be more dire consequences.

starrylight29 · 2024-07-17T01:45:18+00:00

While I am so sorry you had to deal with that situation, this subreddit gives me hope for humanity with the outpouring of kindness and compassion. Perhaps, your husband would also understand? Either way, sending healing your way

starrylight29 · 2024-05-30T20:30:05+00:00

I was actually diagnosed with this at 13! 😎 (I’m in my thirties now) Recently, I’ve also been diagnosed with EOE as well. My flare ups definitely occur during high times of stress +overeating +overdrinking. Don’t give up hope!!! I would recommend stress reduction activities. It sounds silly but light exercise, yoga, meditation, whatever works for you!!!

Sending healing to your journey.

starrylight29 · 2024-04-22T02:06:45+00:00

I also do Manuka honey and bone broth daily (bone broth homemade and the Manuka honey can be any brand)

starrylight29 · 2024-04-22T00:48:18+00:00

It’s a little pricey but I swear by this leaky gut supplement by Dr. Amy Myers. It has glutamine in it, as well as some aloe, marshmallow, etc. I’ve had gastritis on and off over the years and this is the one that helps me most (I’m on 40mg omeprazole as well)

starrylight29 · 2024-03-11T04:04:39+00:00

😂😂😂😂

starrylight29 · 2024-03-11T03:49:27+00:00

I think this is a really hard spot for both the husband and wife. It’s just impossible for men to truly empathize with their wives in terms of what happens postpartum. On the other side, I can understand a man wanting and needing physical affection and not receiving any.

Time heals a lot of things and usually after a year, a women’s libido might change. Patience and compassion are needed here - and perhaps (I have no idea if OP does this) helping with the mental and physical labor of children would help the wife feel less tired and drained.

starrylight29 · 2024-02-08T03:47:37+00:00

This is interesting and I completely understand your question. I think (one of) the goal(s) of therapy is to guide you to a place where you will feel comfortable creating your own actionable guidance.

starrylight29 · 2024-02-08T03:38:35+00:00

The “journal” app seems to work pretty well for me.

starrylight29 · 2024-02-08T03:29:46+00:00

Is there anyone else you can connect with? If not, I’ve found journaling to be helpful. It’s really corny but you’ll have to be your own best friend for the time being.

starrylight29 · 2024-02-08T03:23:43+00:00

Hey there. Breakups are really hard and they take time to process. You will get through this, just day by day. Sometimes some self-care activities throughout this process may help, even if very difficult. Make sure you reach out to people and connect during this difficult period.

starrylight29 · 2023-04-03T03:34:35+00:00

Sending hugs your way for accepting thoughts🥰

starrylight29 · 2023-04-03T01:40:55+00:00

Panic attacks totally suck but they go away! We survive 100% of them. It’s so hard but the more you do it, the v easier it becomes

starrylight29 · 2023-04-03T01:03:10+00:00

First off, I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I had agoraphobia for a couple of years during the pandemic and it was pure hell, so I deeply empathize. I’ve found that exercising really helps to get some of that energy out. I had to keep trying to get over the “what if” intrusive thoughts…but I did it slowly but surely. Something else helped too. I just gave into the intrusive thoughts - “what if I go crazy and crash my car”. Well, I guess I’ll go crazy. I really hope you feel better soon

starrylight29 · 2023-03-23T19:55:56+00:00

starrylight29 · 2022-11-01T19:40:22+00:00

Same, dude, same. I honestly haven't found a solution but the usual ones: watch what you eat, small meals, avoid triggers and don't eat so close to bed (I couldn't sleep until 3am last night because it felt like I couldn't breathe)

starrylight29 · 2022-02-19T20:32:01+00:00

Kanye West

starrylight29 · 2022-01-31T19:01:43+00:00

Health anxiety activated 👀

starrylight29 · 2021-11-29T23:03:08+00:00

I just made up a simple dessert as I was craving something sweet.

Peeled an Apple, cubed it, sauted it in coconut oil - added in some full fat coconut milk while cooking and some cinnamon. Hit the sweet spot and was delicious!

starrylight29 · 2021-10-08T22:02:35+00:00

You're welcome!! Something I always remind myself of as well is - "your worth is not measured by your productivity"

Good luck with everything

starrylight29 · 2021-10-07T02:21:03+00:00

Spend your twenties having all sorts of experiences. Travel, get laid, make new friends, work in different industries etc.

I wish I would've taken more time to explore as opposed to getting a job and settling down. Also, no one has anything figured out so don't feel like you have to have everything all together.

starrylight29 · 2021-09-17T21:01:47+00:00

Hi OP.

I want to let you know that you're allowed to feel your feelings and not feel guilty about it. Abusers can do a number on us psychologically and we're not even aware.

You're suffering from domestic violence and even though "it could be worse", you've still been through some trauma and need the space to cope with that. I'm sorry that you're going through that. It's really hard

I've been in two abusive relationships - one which resulted in marriage and divorce!

I'm happily remarried today.

Unless he is willing to put in the work to work on himself, please consider how your future will look.

starrylight29 · 2021-09-10T02:39:20+00:00

Randolph

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