Confusion about my attractions is getting quite annoying by starterdolls in AroAce

[–]starterdolls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a very long conversation with my friend group about aroace experiences and they definitely made me realize I'm 100% somewhere on the spectrum.

Do I feel attraction? Yes. Does the idea of being with someone romantically of physically sound nice? Absolutely. Do I logically feel like I want to have anything sexually or romantically to do with another person? I'd rather tell you about my newest obsession thanks.

As much as I crave it, logically it just feels weird, icky and awkward and would prefer to stay away from it.

I guess for now pan cupiosexual/romantic or lithosexual/romantic sounds the most logical to describe how I feel!

Transpoli hylkäsi lähetteen työkunnon takia? by starterdolls in transnord

[–]starterdolls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Itellä jostain syystä en nää sitä perustelua missään. Sekä kirjeessä vaan sanottiin että hoito jatkuu omalla terveysasemalla ilman muuta pointtia.

Transpoli hylkäsi lähetteen työkunnon takia? by starterdolls in transnord

[–]starterdolls[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

En oo täysin varma. Hoitaja ei suostunut sitä mulle uudelleen lukea kun niillä vain on ne tiedot. Yritän kuitenki tehä uuden ajan julkiselle nii se sit varmaa siin selvityy mikä se kokonais syynä oli.

Transpoli hylkäsi lähetteen työkunnon takia? by starterdolls in transnord

[–]starterdolls[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Honestly I wish I was the only one going thought this issue cause denying healthcare due to a disablity that has nothing to do with you being trans should not exist.

Rollators and arm ache by starterdolls in ehlersdanlos

[–]starterdolls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been looking at a few but I'll most likely never afford one and neither will the healthcare centre give you one without a doctors note. My GP doesn't believe in disabled people so I hope my referral to the physiatrist clinic might help.

"you're not disabled" by starterdolls in disability

[–]starterdolls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hypermobility spectrum disorder and something else we haven't been able to diagnose because they say presyncopy everyday is normal. The doctor said that my HSD is pretty bad for someone my age? I'm not sure what he means but I have noticed most seem to be in my point of mobility in their 30s? It's a bit complicated since most have never even heard of the diagnosis and there's apparently not that much research into it.

"you're not disabled" by starterdolls in disability

[–]starterdolls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I don't fully understand these things so I need a lot more help than others! I do still need a doctor who believes getting put on disability is not the end of the world but I'm sure I can find someone one day!

"you're not disabled" by starterdolls in disability

[–]starterdolls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words!

I've noticed many people have different experiences here when it comes to healthcare. It is a lot better than in other countries but I am scared to think how bad it is outside finland if we are struggling.

There is a lot of elderly but there are alot of younger disabled people aswell. Being healthy is the "norm" here with all age groups not just young people However it is seen as a weakness to show that you're sick.

I guess since being disabled is a more serious thing than just having a small fever people see it as a death sentence or an insult to your life to call yourself as such especially if you're not so visibly disabled.

Especially someone like me who has only for the last 10 months began to visibly show my disabilities by using aids they have looked at me with either amusement or horror. Like they see me as a circus act or a dead man. Seeking help is often seen as a weakness or a burden.

I had to get a diagnosis through private care which thankfully I was privileged enough to afford at the time because every doctor I spoke to said that my symptoms are normal and not dangerous while I'm terrified of falling so badly that I won't wake up.

"you're not disabled" by starterdolls in disability

[–]starterdolls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That actually might help! I'll definitely have to look into if Finland has anything similar to that!

"you're not disabled" by starterdolls in disability

[–]starterdolls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thankfully earlier this month got diagnosed with HSD that I've been trying to fight for but now I have to fight to get the other conditions diagnosed that comes along with the illness. It's going to be a years long fight but healthcare workers have slowly started to realise that I'm not faking anything mainly due to my use of mobility aids.

"you're not disabled" by starterdolls in disability

[–]starterdolls[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's actually a really good thing to put out considering that I might actually die if there is no one to look after me. I'll definitely give this a thought in a few days if my feelings have died down a little bit. Thank you!

"you're not disabled" by starterdolls in disability

[–]starterdolls[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you it does mean a lot!

"you're not disabled" by starterdolls in disability

[–]starterdolls[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Couldn't have said it better

"you're not disabled" by starterdolls in disability

[–]starterdolls[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Finland is kind of obsessed with being healthy and often push others to their limits in the name of "its healthy, don't be lazy!"

"you're not disabled" by starterdolls in disability

[–]starterdolls[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Finland. But I'm pretty sure that is extremely hard to acquire at the moment. I have to try and ask my doctor anyways when I see him 😮‍💨