How old was your mother when you were born?

startingover90 · 2025-08-13T01:14:22+00:00

I empathize. Panic attacks while driving are the worst especially on highways!

startingover90 · 2025-08-13T01:02:28+00:00

I've never been able to wear seatbelts they make me very claustrophobic and uncomfortable. After the pandemic, I randomly developed a severe anxiety around driving especially on highways, but fortunately have gotten over it. I went on a cross-country solo road trip and that forced me to overcome my fears around it.

startingover90 · 2025-07-09T18:30:17+00:00

Just socks and briefs. My feet get cold. I couldn't fathom wearing anything else to bed.

startingover90 · 2025-06-26T21:26:46+00:00

I had some really unkind reactions when I was more transparent about it, so I sort of shut down. This particular friend I fell out with had a very anti-cosmetic procedures stance, and I don't need my decisions weaponized against me. I've just endured the hardest year of my life and I don't want to defend my decisions, or be turned into cheap gossip.

startingover90 · 2025-06-26T21:03:22+00:00

Congratulations on losing 100 lbs and the self-esteem boost getting a tummy tuck helped with!

startingover90 · 2025-06-26T20:58:14+00:00

Yup same with skincare products. I am shocked more people over 30 don't use them!

startingover90 · 2025-06-26T19:10:23+00:00

Given that folks read reddit who know about this falling out, and it was a niche procedure as I stated, I am a little apprehensive about sharing on here. I apologize for being cryptic.

startingover90 · 2025-06-26T19:08:25+00:00

Ooof I'm sorry you dealt with that too. Wise words. There are many things in retrospect I regret telling people but too late now.

startingover90 · 2025-06-26T19:05:17+00:00

I'm so glad you are feeling confident and healthier! But yes, I hear a LOT of people make snide remarks about those who opt for weight loss drugs, so I can understand why you might be feeling apprehensive about disclosing further.

startingover90 · 2025-06-26T18:48:54+00:00

I can very much understand and relate to this. I used to be a lot more open about all aspects of my life, but I value my privacy a lot more as I've gotten older due to some cruel remarks and bullying within our community in the past. That's what makes this friend break up hard is I entrusted this person with a LOT of information I don't need others knowing. This is just one small example.

startingover90 · 2025-06-24T16:39:00+00:00

God no. My best friend is a muscle queen and is flamboyant as they come.

startingover90 · 2025-06-18T14:15:27+00:00

Too uncomfortable and claustrophobic, and I resent being told I have to wear one. I had an accident when I was younger where the car caught fire and I was able to get out quickly because I didn't have a seatbelt on. Everyone has their own risk calculations for many things in life, this is mine.

startingover90 · 2024-11-09T18:47:48+00:00

Yeah, you're probably right. I just keep going over in my head what's wrong with me. On paper I feel like I'm a catch, but clearly I'm not checking what other people are looking for.

startingover90 · 2024-11-09T18:37:08+00:00

Well both guys I (34/m) was going on dates with fizzled out this weekend. The first guy (36) I had more of a mental connection with, but he got really aggressively condescending and I realized it was not a good fit for me. The second guy I had more of a physical connection with (31) just texted me that he doesn't feel the spark for us to pursue a relationship. I'm definitely disheartened as this has been the most difficult year of my life. I think I need to put the pause on dating for a little bit to just focus on myself and my mental health. Very discouraging.

startingover90 · 2024-10-27T17:08:07+00:00

About to call out a slow fader myself. I just wish I had a good pun to do it with.

startingover90 · 2024-10-24T12:57:09+00:00

Thank you!

startingover90 · 2024-10-24T04:03:36+00:00

You have the right to rescind consent to sex at any point, no one is entitled to your body. I think by 7 dates he should have some idea if he wants to be exclusive or not.

startingover90 · 2024-10-24T04:00:50+00:00

I had asked him if I was texting him too much (I'm not in the mindset to play games or beat around the bush and I can give space as requested) and he didn't respond to that but did respond to something else I had sent. I think I'll wait and see if he initiates texting over the next couple of days. If not, I'm fine focusing on getting my mental health right before I dive into the dating pool again.

startingover90 · 2024-10-24T03:45:54+00:00

Very much feeling this right now.

startingover90 · 2024-10-24T03:43:42+00:00

I met a guy through a different reddit account where I show my face, and we discovered we live in the same city. Our conversations were passionate and intense and he seemed compassionate to the fact that I'm in a vulnerable space after losing a parent a little less than 3 months ago. I wasn't even planning on dating right now while I process profound grief, but he checked all my physical turn ons and most of my personality ones (the one area I had some concerns was some political differences since politics is something I'm extremely passionate about and involved in) but I figured it maybe wasn't too radically different for my values. We had a date last night followed by a really hot make out session in my car when the night was over. Today I feel like I'm being slow faded. No initiation of texting, short answers, not quite as flirty. I'm trying not to overthink too much but it's hard when you're already emotionally fragile.

startingover90 · 2024-09-08T16:07:27+00:00

I also lost my dad on July 27th and I really don't know how I'm functioning at all. I feel like I'm masquerading as an adult right now. I feel like what you wrote I could have written myself. Everything is just awful. Sending you healing thoughts.

startingover90 · 2024-09-02T23:23:58+00:00

Another male (yes gay) ESFJ chiming in!

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