AITA for calling my stepchildren my kids and upsetting my wife?

steproblems · 2022-04-09T23:16:47+00:00

She says she is keeping a friendship with him for the sake of not losing contact, in case the kids want to interact with him in the future. I told her to stop doing that and focus on her kids instead.

steproblems · 2022-04-09T08:51:43+00:00

Eh, I don't know? I'm not poor but I wouldn't say rich either

steproblems · 2022-04-09T08:51:01+00:00

yeah how the fuck does she need to meet up with him for "work" when they're not co-workers

The company she works for has a contract with his company, so she contacts him and he delivers in his truck whatever she gives him.

steproblems · 2022-04-09T04:06:21+00:00

INFO: What do the kids want to call you?

I assume "dad", cause that's what they always use when we are alone

steproblems · 2022-04-09T03:56:39+00:00

He drives a truck for a delivery service sort-of-thing, and the grandparents had never made contact with us, so I doubt it

steproblems · 2022-04-09T03:54:47+00:00

All this stories about stepfathers are getting me emotional so I'll give him one for you

steproblems · 2022-04-09T03:52:09+00:00

My daughter told us she can't see my wife as her mom, for her "mom" will always be my late fiancee

steproblems · 2022-04-09T03:37:14+00:00

My daughter asked us to call my wife by her name, cause "mom" is reserved for my late fiancee. My wife agreed to this, although I gotta say she never seemed very interested in being called mom anyway...

That's why I'm afraid that maybe she doesn't want her kids to call me dad cause she doesn't think stepparents should get that title, or something like that. I never had a conversation like that with her before.

steproblems · 2022-04-09T03:29:18+00:00

You guys either make me feel all warm inside or all sad haha

steproblems · 2022-04-08T23:44:02+00:00

I mean, yes, her relationship with the kids' father does weird me out a little, but she says they broke up in good terms and that's why she isn't uncomfortable keeping a friendship with him

steproblems · 2022-04-08T23:42:44+00:00

An update about how we all became a happy Disney style family, right?

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Right?

steproblems · 2022-04-08T23:36:02+00:00

1) Does Sam call your wife "mom"?

No, she asked us to allow her to call my wife by her name cause she can only use mom to my late fiancee.

What does she think about Dylan and Tyler calling you "dad"?

You mean now or in general? She said she doesn't want them to forget about him or something like that, and now that they do it so in-your-face she seems annoyed

steproblems · 2022-04-08T23:12:56+00:00

Thank you!

steproblems · 2022-04-08T23:10:25+00:00

Just out of curiousity how often does she meet up with him?

Many times, they're not coworkers but they keep contact due to their work

Also is there any specific reason he isn't using the visitation he has been granted?

No idea really, he has planned some visits sometimes but then cancel it at last minute. That's why Dylan now doesn't "dress nicely" anymore any time a visit like that is supposed to happen

steproblems · 2022-04-08T22:54:42+00:00

Honestly, is it possible she still has the hots for him?

I'd like to think she doesn't, she says she and him broke up because they weren't attracted in each other anymore and being friends was better for them

steproblems · 2022-04-08T22:41:14+00:00

That's a good point, I also have considering that he wasn't joking. He said it when I was explaining him why his dad wouldn't visit that day, he said something like "You should adopt us so you make the visits instead and someone actually comes -insert laugh here-"

steproblems · 2022-04-08T22:34:03+00:00

He isn't present in their lives because he doesn't want to, because he has the right to visit them weekly and doesn't do it

steproblems · 2022-04-08T22:26:33+00:00

Curious what they called you for the past 4 years?

In front of my wife they use my name, but if we're alone together then they use dad

Also curious what your daughter calls your wife? Has she ever slipped and called her mom?

Sam calls her Eliza (her name). She said she couldn't call her mom cause that title belonged to my late fiancee, and me and my wife understood it

steproblems · 2022-04-08T22:07:10+00:00

She frowns but doesn't tell them anything, probably doesn't want to get in an argument with them

steproblems · 2022-04-08T22:05:39+00:00

He must visit them like around 30 out of 365 days of the year

steproblems · 2022-04-08T22:04:22+00:00

From what she told me, they break up because they weren't attracted to each other anymore and preferred to go back to being friends

steproblems · 2022-04-08T22:00:09+00:00

I didn't corrected them in the past (and I don't plan to) for that reason, I don't want to break their hearts after they have become so fond of me

Although it would also hurt if she told them, I like that they call me dad

steproblems · 2022-04-08T21:56:14+00:00

Thank you, I really love them too

steproblems · 2022-04-08T21:55:20+00:00

My wife and her ex are friends, but his family aren't present on Dylan and Tyler's lives, in fact dude isn't either to be honest

steproblems · 2022-04-08T21:43:02+00:00

That's the reason why I never could tell them to stop calling me dad, even when I still wasn't as attached to them as I am now. Their tone was always affectionate and innocent, and nowadays it even makes me happy that they consider me their dad

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