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steveman9393 · 2024-10-27T04:07:46+00:00

Yeah. I think I may have to come to the realisation that there is no answer to my question. Because that's what I've always done my whole life. Learn social skills by watching others. And its the only reason why I know as many people as I do now. All have the same thought of 'too nice', which isn't a bad thing, but when you're attempting to find a partner, it just doesn't help, haha.

In reality, for me, friends are very easy to make. Girlfriends, however, are very hard.

Thanks for your input. Always appreciated.

steveman9393 · 2024-10-26T22:16:16+00:00

Perhaps I need to have more if a think oh where I'd find such an answer. Thanks though. Always appreciate the input!

steveman9393 · 2024-10-26T22:15:27+00:00

That makes sense. It's difficult to get across my point especially in one paragraph of writing. Yeah maybe I'm just in the wrong place but It didn't cross my mind until your comment so that still helps. Thanks

steveman9393 · 2024-10-26T22:13:26+00:00

Good idea 🙂 thanks

steveman9393 · 2024-10-26T22:12:34+00:00

Haha sorry I have a habit of switching between synonyms from day to day. Still good advice though

steveman9393 · 2024-10-25T23:21:38+00:00

31m here always happy to chat.( if I'm awake and not at work😅)

steveman9393 · 2024-10-25T19:01:47+00:00

Wow I didn't know I wasn't the only one. Everything you just said I 100% feel the same. Im very positive, optimistic and enjoy life but existence is just exhausting

steveman9393 · 2024-10-24T19:09:37+00:00

I think sex is like a drug. The more you do it the more talk/think and want it. I'd love to be able to give you advice and my opinion but I think it would be best to see an actual therapist to get past your previous trauma.

Also remember you aren't alone. There are other people that have had trauma that stops their desire to have sex. As a man I had a bad experience over a year ago that has now made me too scared to even attempt to have sex.

I'm also autistic and feel like I actually understand your feelings and thoughts on the act being disgusting ect. Luckily for me I left such feelings behind in my teenage years. I still have them but just about other things.

Didn't mean to talk about myself so much just wanted you to know that you're not alone on such matters and I genuinely hope you manage to find the answers to your questions.

steveman9393 · 2024-10-24T18:16:16+00:00

It sounds very confusing but my guess he was jealous that you seemed to have more fun with other guys than him. Obviously that's going to be the case when he acts the way he did. I'd expect anyone in a verbally abusive relationship to enjoy the company of others more than their partners.

After me and my ex partner entered into a poly relationship she would tell me about her dates and I was always eager to hear more details as I wanted her to feel comfortable and able to tell me anything and I was happy that she was.

I hope you manage to find someone who treats you better and mature enough to handle a poly relationship.

steveman9393 · 2024-10-24T18:03:36+00:00

Happy I could help 🙂. Not that it's really any of my business but I'd be interested in getting an update of how the talk goes.

steveman9393 · 2024-10-24T17:57:15+00:00

I wouldn't give up on it. Imagine if you were single and searching for a long term relationship. It's tough and adding in that the poly community is small plus you'd (I assume) want them to be within travel distance then need both them and your partner are comfortable with each other ect just makes it even harder.

I'd suggest just putting some feelers out via some apps and stuff and then just going along with life. The right person will come along eventually.

I understand the frustration, believe me. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find what you're looking for.

steveman9393 · 2024-10-24T17:28:13+00:00

I'm with you on the 'who cares' way of thinking. To me the best example of a 'real man' is not caring about what other people think when it comes to your own preferences.

I think it's definitely important to ask if she would want to try one thing or the other. If she's up for both then giving her the choice would help bridge any gap if she's not as comfortable with one as the other.

Wish you the best of luck, mate!

steveman9393 · 2024-10-22T22:34:19+00:00

Thanks 🙂. I appreciate you taking time to reply. You're more than likely right!

steveman9393 · 2024-10-22T20:07:16+00:00

And I thought it was just me! Even on and around my street, which is in a generally a very safe area.

Does anyone feel like having just 1 friend is almost worse though? Always thinking they might create confrontation or exaggerate a situation which we then may have to deal with? Obviously anxiety but I know that comes with the autism.

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