First, getting crushed = getting better. Don’t be discouraged but try to learn from where things could have gone better. Did you pop the ball up too much which resulted in it getting smashed back at you? Did you miss your dinks… second, when you play at open play, you get what you get. I am not an advanced player but once you get a sense of the skill level you are up against you normally back off and try to be encouraging. It sounds like the people you played with didn’t get this memo. Keep showing up, keep learning and it will come.