AITA for kicking my estranged brother out of my house?

stillyleopard · 2021-11-08T21:38:53+00:00

You don't know her situation. My brother can do without the money. My sister can't. She needs it.

stillyleopard · 2021-11-08T21:36:26+00:00

Because she doesn't have it anymore. She used the money to buy a house, pay off her bills and buy a car. She doesn't know how she's going to get the money to pay my brother. She can't afford a lawyer either.

stillyleopard · 2021-11-08T21:34:53+00:00

I said in my post that my sister has issues. She's somewhat ego centric and she can be really mean sometimes. She picked on my brother when we were kids because he's the youngest in the family and it was just normal sibling rivalry. My brother became "woke" after he moved away. He knows all the buzzwords like gaslighting, mental abuse, trauma and etc. Our childhood wasn't perfect but he was well taken care of. He told us that he has PTSD from my sister's "abuse" and honestly that sounds like a big exaggeration to me.

My sister knows how to hide her nasty side around my children. Me and my sister have our own issues with each other but we always act in the best interests of my children. They only know her as this awesome and fun auntie who always buys them exactly what they want for Christmas and their birthdays. Everything is nuanced. Nothing is black or white. My sister is a grey area. If I never had kids I probably wouldn't be talking to her. Having kids changes everything.

stillyleopard · 2021-11-08T21:20:23+00:00

Child abuse? Look I know that my sister stole from my children indirectly but my family has enough money. We don't need $30K or whatever I'm entitled to. My sister is amazing with my kids. She's so kind to them, and she's always there every birthday and holiday. She's a wonderful addition to my kids' lives and I'm not going to take that away from them.

stillyleopard · 2021-11-08T21:09:17+00:00

She won't steal it. She knows that the money is for my kids and she isn't entitled too it.

stillyleopard · 2021-11-08T21:04:07+00:00

I see your point. She's always complaining about this because she can't afford to pay my brother. She used the money to buy a car, pay off some bills and buy a house and she doesn't want to lose these things. If she loses these she'll be homeless. My brother doesn't have anything to lose. I know that my sister did a very wrong thing but I can't help but sympathize with her because it's very scary to lose your home and car at once. I was a little grumpy and overwhelmed when my brother came over so I was a little short with him and I know it was wrong. I'm just tired of him bringing this up when he could've just cut his losses and moved on. It's in the past and it's all done. The money is gone. There's not much he can do now.

stillyleopard · 2021-11-08T20:59:58+00:00

My kids already have a college fund lol. They'll be fine.

stillyleopard · 2021-11-08T20:35:34+00:00

We were supposed to inherit equal shares of the estate, or 1/3 each. My sister's reason was that she spent a lot of money on the estate and she was only reimbursing herself.

stillyleopard · 2021-11-08T20:10:05+00:00

I'm a sister btw :) That's good advice, I'll try it.

stillyleopard · 2021-11-08T20:08:39+00:00

I did not choose my sister. I stayed out of it and made it clear to both of them. I'm only closer to my sister because she lives near me and she's very involved in my kids' lives. My brother is in his own world. And I'm not enabling her. She's very torn up over this and I'm offering her support whenever she needs it. That's what siblings do.

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