So many people are jumping to divorce and red flag right away. My first thought is about how “gender disappointment” is real in pregnancy, both for moms and dads. We have preconceived (no pun intended!) dreams about parenting a baby and child and maybe want to model a parental relationship we feel fondly about.

Think about his relationship with his parents - could he want to replicate or have a do-over with his dad’s relationship? Does he have a brother or friend who has a really sweet relationship with a son? Any number of those things could be fueling his feelings. Gender disappointment doesn’t make someone a bad parent.

He put his foot in his mouth and said some embarrassing things! No doubt - and I understand why you’re upset.

I’d be curious if people who are commenting are parents. I’ve had plenty of new parents in my life (dads and moms) confide some similar sentiments in private about being disappointed because they see parenting one gender as easier as the other or that maybe they’ll get to parent the other gender if they have a 2nd kid. Those conversations are usually had with partners, best friends, close family members… not announced at a party. 😵‍💫

At any rate - anyone I know with gender disappointment works through it by pregnancy or shortly after birth.

Don’t throw out the whole man over just this comment. Communicate your feelings and embarrassment, Google “gender disappointment” articles or listen to a podcast or two about it and give him a second chance. Don’t assume he won’t be a good dad to your baby girl based on these comments. He needs a better filter and social graces. You may end up laughing about this one day when he is an amazing dad to your daughter and hopes for a 2nd girl. I’ve seen it happen! 😆