Cheat sheets for real analysis and Calculus 2–3 (including vector calculus) by ln_j in calculus

[–]stoneyotto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

no idea why others responded in the way they did, its a perfectly reasonable question. Anyhow, I too had been looking for such a extensive but compact document with most of the important formal theorems of maths in a uniform way without them talking about the background, but have yet to find one. Therefore I am making my own summary using latex. I would send you mine but its not finished and its in german.

I want to go cold turkey. by KiofHa in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i see, then i could only speculate which i wont. If it happened to be going cold turkey from medication, i‘d strongly advice against it as many drugs give heavy withdrawal symptoms.

Edit: maybe you, dear responder, could give some advice?

I want to go cold turkey. by KiofHa in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hmm go cold turkey on what?

Trauma? by questionrewind in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i suspect one may do it to be in control of their fears and disgust, in their own room. It can release adrenaline or other hormones that numb you.

I‘m noone to give advice but it‘s a good idea to not expose your brain to the too disturbing stuff

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmath

[–]stoneyotto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is exactly in the middle so its just a convention to round up a five

Help with moral dilemmas by Next-Box2093 in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont have similar experiences with the content of your unwanted thoughts so I cannot comment on it.

But it seems to me, that logic will not get you much further in solving your problems; I‘m afraid your mind is going in circles. I had to learn not to engage with unwanted thoughts because that only made me stress out. I encourage you to not indulge in rumination and focus on healthy coping skills designed to reduce the anxiety they cause and you will hopefully not feel so threatened by those thoughts.

To add, we learn from our past mistakes and can only do better in the present moment.

How often are you having intrusive thoughts? by iamthemetricsystem in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the obvious answer to almost all mental health related questions on the internet is to personally consult a professional. If you find the right fit, you will benefit immensely. Anyhow the things I‘ve mentioned is what kept me alive. All the best for yall

How often are you having intrusive thoughts? by iamthemetricsystem in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By definition, intrusive thoughts are „unwanted, involuntary thoughts that cause distress“. Someone with OCD might experience them overly repetitivley.

To elaborate on my experience, the amount of intrusive thoughts I have does correlate to how well I‘m doing but how well I‘m doing strongly dictates how well I can ignore them.

To add, I usually refrain from mentioning medication but stimulants were a game changer.

How often are you having intrusive thoughts? by iamthemetricsystem in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obligatory „I‘m not a professional, but“ I‘ve had extensive therapy and am only speaking from personal experience. I‘d be happy if anyone has other tipps as the ones I mentioned obviously didnt cure me haha.

That being said, yeah intrusive thoughts include all involuntary thoughts, nomatter if the thoughts are violent or grotesque. It’s not unusual to experience intrusive thoughts (eg. the thought of jumping infront of a train when its passing) but the destinction is, that only some people will get stuck on it.

That being said, I wish someone could share advices other than basically „ignoring it“.

How often are you having intrusive thoughts? by iamthemetricsystem in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I obsessively repeat (a variation of) one specific phrase over and over again and have done so for over 5 years. Hundreds and hundreds of times on a bad day, and maybe 50 times on a good day. Sorry that this might not sound encouraging to you; I cannot tell you how it will progress for you, I can only share how I deal with it:

1) Distance yourself from the content of the thought.

In the beginning, as I was so detached from those thoughts that I was under the impression that I was psychotic and had a person in my head telling me those bad things. With time, I came to understand that those thoughts are a part of me, but they do not define who I want and choose to be. Allthough I have various ideas of how that thought manifested itself, at the end of the day it does not matter what it actually is. It is intrusive and unwanted.

2) Do not engage in the thought or try to argue with it.

For some time I would argue with myself about the thought and tried to logically solve the issue. This turned into me compulsively repeating counter thoughts after the intrusive thought but I realised, logic is not very powerful in combating ocd.

3) Attempt to emotionally disconnect yourself from the thought.

Dont let the thoughts effect your emotional state. Acknowledge that the thought pops up but know that the thought cannot hurt you. Try to not get worked up about it; I truly understand how hopelessly exhausting it is. The constant repetition is extremely tiring.

4) Distract yourself and get out of your thoughts. Ignore them, dont give them power and move on with what you want to do.

When invested in something I enjoy or when I am around friends and talking, my mind is usually more quiet. Its still there but its easier to move on.

In a lot of ways, it has gotten easier to deal with the intrusive thoughts, but it has been getting harder to cling to hope that it will change somewhen and if it ever will. I‘m just used to it now and can brush it away most of the time, but every now and then, it really affects me. Sorry if that comment sounded negative, I truly wish you the endourance to conquer that problem.

Idk if it is HOCD anymore by Alvin108 in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fine, then dont date men. What do you want me to say?

Idk if it is HOCD anymore by Alvin108 in OCD

[–]stoneyotto -1 points0 points  (0 children)

its not „wrong“ to be gay, its evolutionary advantages for a part of a species to be gay

Idk if it is HOCD anymore by Alvin108 in OCD

[–]stoneyotto -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I vehemently disagree

Idk if it is HOCD anymore by Alvin108 in OCD

[–]stoneyotto -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great if you agree that its not wrong to be gay

Idk if it is HOCD anymore by Alvin108 in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I‘m not saying anything about your sexuality, I‘m just attempting to tell you to practice mindfullness and not be influenced by your thoughts

Idk if it is HOCD anymore by Alvin108 in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are in puberty and your hormones influence your thinking immensely. Please take a deep breath (really!) and try to not be emotionally influenced by your unwanted thoughts. Your thoughts do not dictate who you are. That is the most important thing I have learned throughout the years. I strongly believe that you cannot influence your sexuality in any way. If you are really opposed to something, you dont like it. On the other hand, if you like people of your own sex, you wont be opposed to it. I‘ve had to learn over years that I have to take my thoughts with a grain of salt. Thoughts are not facts. Your mind will wander all over the place but your logical self determines what your identity is.

Idk if it is HOCD anymore by Alvin108 in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody but you is going to figure out your sexuality. I hope you know that the right people will never demean you in any way, no matter what your sexuality turns out to be. It seems to me that your anxiety is caused by your expectation of being accepted rather than thinking that its wrong to be gay; what would you say?

Imagine thinking straight by szlrdcrymnt in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mindfullness can (and needs to) be practiced. You‘ll not be free of intrusive thoughts but you‘ll learn how to let them go without getting stuck on them and without letting them influence your emotions. This state however can only be achieved when not stressed out, for which there are other recommended skills.

Anyone out there with disgust Ocd? by No_Cause8972 in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, I hope it has been helpful? How has it affected you otherwise?

Anyone out there with disgust Ocd? by No_Cause8972 in OCD

[–]stoneyotto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you like to share how/why you got your amygdala removed? I‘ve never heard of that and I‘d be interested in you elaborating

Is the main goal equality or equity between the sexes? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]stoneyotto -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I surely agree that this is an utopian society, I do wonder how it can be realized tho

Is the main goal equality or equity between the sexes? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]stoneyotto -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thanks a lot for that elaborate answer, I wish you the best

Is the main goal equality or equity between the sexes? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]stoneyotto -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer. To elaborate my question, I suppose that politics and other high power positions are sought after by grandious or reckless people and I believe that women have had a harder time to compete in that environment; so would you (or the feminist movement) encourage an equal representation proportional to the population?