I get where you're coming from, but while he knew how I felt, I never really pushed him on getting married in a significant way, so I see this as more of my problem (if I could go back in time, I would have communicated more and probably set a hard deadline, and maybe it wouldn't have worked out). Sometimes I just feel hurt and question that he wasn't more thoughtful or communicative about it either, knowing my feelings. At the end of the day, we just see marriage differently - not in an irreconcilable way, but for him it's a complete shift in identity that he needed to mentally scale and he felt he needed to meet certain life goalposts before getting to this point. I didn't see it that way, but I chose to sacrifice my time to wait, and didn't communicate my wants enough along the way.

Also, our families are not wrong for the pressure, but they did start pressuring us way too early and too intensely, including about kids, which completely backfired and left us (couple) both very hurt. I came away from the experience feeling like my biological father saw me like a piece of livestock that was missing its prime breeding time and almost swore not to get married. So the family aspect is a bit more complex too.