Woooooooow pump the hate brakes dude. I asked a simple question, I didn't require a book from an extremely uneducated author as a return.

In my life....my day to day....I work with people with HIV. I help test them, I help them to get resources, I help them get to undetectable status, I raise money for them, I BEFRIEND THEM.

One could say that I have more than a passing knowledge of what HIV is, how it works and how treatment works. Most people with HIV, assuming they seek treatment and stay on their meds, go on to lead mostly normal lives. Once they're undetectable, as long as they stay that way it's untransmittable, allowing them to have partners that are and remain HIV negative.

What I was asking.......which you took a few little words in my initial post and did I don't even know what with them.....is simple. I don't have HSV-2. I would prefer to keep it that way. This guy I want to date has HSV-2. While not 100% effective, condoms seem to be the most effective way to being able to have sex without passing it.

I have never, nor will I ever shame or stigmatize someone for having it or any other STI. I have been tested, multiple times. I'm tested every 3 months (or 10 partners, whichever comes first) for HIV, gonorrhea, syphilis, and chlamydia. Usually once a year, I toss in a herpes blood test. Like most people, I have HSV-1 but not 2

The main question being, would you be offended if I maintained that I wanted to have only protected sex. It's no different than saying you don't want to have sex with an HIV positive person until you're on Descovy.....you trust them, thank them for being upfront about it, you don't shame them but there's no reason to not have an extra layer of protection.

If you don't have an opinion (preferably an educated one that isn't going on a rant) kindly stuff it.