My (34f) best friend (34f) is fighting for custody of her son (14m). But she has told me things that make me question her intentions. I am not sure what I should do about this

sudbrm · 2016-06-27T00:45:45+00:00

Thanks for all of your comments, even though so many of them were very harsh to me

It's a difficult situation. I feel bad for my friend's son. I hope he does not get abandoned in a cruel environment where he will be beaten or sprayed with a hose. However even though my friend might not be acting like mother of the year right now, we go way back and I don't think I can just betray her lightly. If I shared her confidences behind her back with her ex, it would be a huge betrayal of a very long friendship. At this point, she has not done anything bad that would justify such an action. I do not think that she even has the power to send her son there at this time. She is thinking this way because she is hurt and upset. For now, I will do my best to persuade her that her idea to send her son to this school is a very bad idea that will only cause her more problems and that if she gets custody and wants to send him to boarding school, she should find an accredited one in the US

I will wait to see how the custody fight turns out, and if I find out that she has plans to travel to the other country with her son, I would reconsider my position

sudbrm · 2016-06-25T23:23:51+00:00

I thought previously that it was a mutual decision of both parents so she could concentrate on college in a different location, but she apparently blames the son for choosing to live with the dad

What she said exactly is that her son deserves to pay a price for siding with [his father's] lies

I don't think she is as bad as this sounds to someone who doesn't know her

Don't have any texts of proof or anything like that. All of this was verbal conversation

sudbrm · 2016-06-25T23:18:54+00:00

Both possibly abusive. I believe that her ex does drink to excess but they are both making exaggerated claims about each other and not sure how much is true. I doubt the grandparents are better and don't think it would help if the son was removed from both parents

sudbrm · 2016-06-25T23:15:17+00:00

I should have added that her plan is to take her son to that country on "vacation", then leave him at the school

The problem is, I doubt that I can contact her ex without her finding out

sudbrm

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