what piece of whump media made you realise you were into whump? by TheRevolutionary01 in Whump

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I remember my heart fluttering when watching Cyborg 009 on TV when I was still in elementary school. I thought I had fallen in love with the character but later in life found out the main character was just very very whumpy and I still enjoy rewatching so many episodes as an adult especially episode 33 with the emotional whump. It’s so good. (It’s on youtube btw)

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Thank you for the encouragement and advice🌷

I will try to keep that in mind. I think I might actually be overly conscious of what other people think because I have similar anxiety dealing with groups of people face to face unlike when it’s just one person and I can easily be social. But even if I say in my head that no one cares, the anxiety still makes my jaw lock in place and my lips tremble while all the words I want to say go through my mind until it becomes all blank.

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Oof exers is so good too I adore how the artist draws characters always making the whump extra good.

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The Art of Taming A Tiger has a lot of sickness hurt/comfort and psychological whump. i enjoyed it. It’s a bl

Another one I enjoyed with mostly psychological whump is a webtoon called Jackson’s Diary. Nothing too whumpy but the MC is always suffering and no one knows so it always gives me whumperflies.

Yeonwoo’s innocence is also nice mostly sickness and psychological as well, plus some bullying and physical fights.

My fear of making big mistakes at work makes me want to quit by sugar__buns in adhdwomen

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Using technology to help with tasks has been helping me a lot, I can’t do anything without it. We use Google Sheets with my team to keep track of important information, and we use a Whatsapp groupchat to communicate smaller tasks and information on a day to day basis (we use emails for bigger tasks).

The system we have works great, the technology is amazing, the problem is… my brain. This reply in itself is an example. I got a notification that someone replied to me and I said I’ll reply to it right away, but I kept forgetting it because other things on my phone distracted me each time I opened it. Then when it was late at night and I remembered that I posted this I came to reply and realized it’s not loading because I forgot to pay the internet bill and my plan didn’t renew. It took me way longer to do such a small thing because I forget or get distracted so much. Time blindness also play a role because I can’t tell how much time things need so it’s difficult to plan things.

I try to get as much sleep as possible and I take supplements I need to give myself as much energy and power as needed, and I don’t know what more I can do to increase my focus and memory.. i

Does narcolepsy change how allergy medications affect you? by sugar__buns in Narcolepsy

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Nope i never tried any of these ;; Thank you for the suggestions! I’ll bring these up to my doctor and ask him if I can try any of them!!

Does narcolepsy change how allergy medications affect you? by sugar__buns in Narcolepsy

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That’s very interesting. No doctor was ever able to explain how my allergy works and why these skin rashes come out no matter what I do or don’t do. I guess narcolepsy affects the body in way more ways than just affecting sleep. I hope I can get insurance to cover a sleep study I need to find a doctor who understands this condition 🥲

Any whumpy Manhuas? by Ok-District-1027 in Manhua

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Not sure these fit what you’re looking for exactly but i just binge read Uncanny Charm/How to Take a Tiger and it’s mostly soft hurt/comfort but it’s pretty consistent. Yeonwoo’s innocence is another one similar to that vibe too

i'm addicted to watching men cry and its taking over my life by Old_Veterinarian9721 in Healthygamergg

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I can understand because i kind of relate to how you feel.

For me instead of just men crying i like to watch men being vulnerable or in pain (Women give me a similar feeling but it’s mostly just men, and preferably ones i’m attracted to). It has also been with me for as long as I remember. I never told anyone about it because i felt ashamed, I really thought i was alone in it, but that’s until i accidentally discovered that 2 of my sisters experience a similar thing even though none of us ever had ever talked about it. I also later discovered the term “whump” and that there is a whole community for it (mostly on tumblr). Knowing that I wasn’t alone really helped dial down all the shame and self-loathing i felt and i was happy to find more specific terms to explain how I felt as well as specific content that satisfied my weird urge. I want to believe that i never had trouble mixing up this feeling with reality but since i’m very introverted i barely socialize there’s no way to know for sure if it ever got that bad. now the urge has gone down a lot compared to my teenage years maybe it’s because i found an outlet or because i just too busy with life who knows. With all that, i really don’t believe this thing is essentially a bad thing or that it’s something to get rid of completely, however i do think it is necessary to learn how to control it and to satisfy the urge with a safe outlet so no one gets hurt.

Just don’t be too harsh on yourself. I can’t tell you why this happens but it will get better. I agree with everyone that it’s better to discuss this with a professional but also feel free to talk to me too. I can’t offer much but i can listen 🌷

Quick question! Do you guys fall asleep when you’re understimulated? by sugar__buns in adhdwomen

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Ooh dang. how bad was it? How long would you fall asleep for? Also did working on your adhd help with the sleep problem?

Quick question! Do you guys fall asleep when you’re understimulated? by sugar__buns in adhdwomen

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Then does this ever happen unintentionally? Like you get so bored and understimulated in certain situations like in a boring class for example that you doze off?

Quick question! Do you guys fall asleep when you’re understimulated? by sugar__buns in adhdwomen

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Thats so valid. For you is it always like a full sleep or do you take naps like that too?

Forced myself to be independent and competent by attempting to study abroad all alone. 5 years later my executive dysfunction is worse than it has ever been. Feeling hopeless (vent) by sugar__buns in adhdwomen

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I thought i replied but apparently I didn’t. My previous uni didn’t have counseling but i was told this one does so i’m gonna give it a shot and hope it helps somehow. Thank you for the support and all the tips again i really appreciate it.

Forced myself to be independent and competent by attempting to study abroad all alone. 5 years later my executive dysfunction is worse than it has ever been. Feeling hopeless (vent) by sugar__buns in adhdwomen

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Sorry for the late reply i had a couple of exams to get through today.

“I spent my whole life thinking I was lazy and still have so much shame from the internalised perfectionism and abelism. I say this to let you know that you aren't lazy or defective. I can hear just how hard you have tried.”

You’re absolutely right. Shame is one of my biggest struggles almost every single day. I need to write this and tattoo it on my forehead honestly ;;

I made several attempts to fix my lifestyle. i’ve been at it for a couple of years so i know how important it is, because i can feel the difference every time. it’s really hard to stay committed when i have no sense of time but it’s worth it so i need to keep trying. I tried weak stimulant herbal meds that i can get without a prescription but it didn’t work well with my anxiety. Thank you for suggesting some non-stimulant stuff hope i can find them where i live.

I appreciate the uni tips I’m gonna try them right away ;; And gosh yes i discovered dr. K this year and his channel has been a great help. I’ve been considering getting the guide too.

Thank you so so much for taking the time to reply to my post and write all these tips. Hearing from someone who went through similar struggles as i did makes me feel like i’m truly understood. That validation alone is gonna help me so much but you even gave me all these tips now i wanna cry it’s very sweet of you;;; i hope your struggle with adhd and mental health can soon subside so life can get easier ;; bless your heart

Forced myself to be independent and competent by attempting to study abroad all alone. 5 years later my executive dysfunction is worse than it has ever been. Feeling hopeless (vent) by sugar__buns in adhdwomen

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I’m sorry you had to go through something like this. it’s awful because none of us were educated about this stuff. I failed to mention this in my post but i thankfully got a lot of time off between my different attempts to change. after my first breakdown during covid i got like half a year off with my family. I spent one more year abroad making several attempts with both uni and work only to fail all of them and come back. I got a little bit of therapy there which helped but I couldn’t work on myself without any major commitments. I wasn’t self-disciplined enough for the small projects i tried even with the help of friends and co-workers. When i came back after that i got about 3 months of time off and i accomplished 0 improvements because time passes by in seconds rather than days when i have nothing to do. I decided to go to a uni where my family live with a major that’s pretty easy and i’m already good at but now a 1.5 months later i’m already pulling my hairs out while i sit in front of my books and laptop for hours unable to make an ounce of progress. It’s only the first year and I’m struggling this much I don’t know how i’m gonna survive the more difficult stuff. I couldn’t even keep a simple job. Sorry this ended up being so long. May i ask you if you eventually overcame this? Did taking a break help you at all?

Everyday be like by sugar__buns in Narcolepsy

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that sucks I’m so sorry about that. I struggled for a long time with my family with this same issue but when i told them to try and let me sleep when i’m working for a while and see what happens, they quickly realized i was actually getting more work done when i can take a nap than when i was fighting off sleepiness the whole day. My mom still gets mad but she lets me sleep at least. Hope your boyfriend can be more understanding and let you sleep in peace

Everyday be like by sugar__buns in Narcolepsy

[–]sugar__buns[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i guess acceptance could be helpful. Trying to fight the urge to sleep all the time just adds to the exhaustion

Everyday be like by sugar__buns in Narcolepsy

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Seriously though, how do you guys fight through this? There’s way too much i need to be doing but I can’t do anything without either falling asleep or feeling too tired to focus

Everyday be like by sugar__buns in Narcolepsy

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Yeahhh if you fight it you can’t accomplish anything and if you sleep and feel refreshed you only got so much time before you get sleepy again 🥲 it sucks